Dear Supporters and Funders,
Here is the story of my life and I thank you for reading.
I would have never thought I find myself in this situation. Single at 41 and childless.
My life has been hard, I've always have worked for everything and bought everything that I have with my own hands. No man or woman have ever supported me. Being because my mother is too old and she immigrated here in the 50's so she has no assets to pass down to me.
I have been in unfortunate relationships that have lead me to where I am today. I feel a bit ashamed, but very content of what I have achieved so far in my professional life and gained an enormous support through friends that I have made along the way.
My last relationship was not a conventional in the fact that we opted to try for a baby due to our age, even though we weren't sure about each other. I wanted to be a mom so desperately and really wanted to have a baby. He did too. We tried for nearly 1 year and the doctor suggested IUI which would help with the time of ovulation. Well, after many attempts to the point I am almost broke, it was unsuccessful due to my age.
The doctor finally said, we should try IVF and it was such a process to through when he explained and the financial part was such a big undertaking too. Well throughout the months of contemplating about all of this, I have decided that I no longer wanted this man in my life as he was not sure about committing to the family, nor was he sure about committing to me. Why would I bring a child to such an environment of uncertainty? And why would I need to lower my moral values being with a man that has several years to think about committing and he never did. To start a new relationship at this age, was going to be a struggle and it would eliminate me from having a baby because of the time it takes for a relationship to evolve properly. I did not want to go through what I had gone through again.
It was a very hard decision for me to go ahead and do this on my own. I am saddened by it, but very eager and know that there are people out there who understand the meaning of having a child of your own.
I have a loving and caring family and I am an educated person that have made all the right decision in my life, except choosing the right man for me. Paid for my college, paid for my used car, paid for my own apartment. I have never asked for help before as I have always been independent. My immigrant family have taught me the value of money so I never take that for granted.
I am still proceeding with the IVF despite the financial struggle. I've had to rid of my social life, moved to a smaller apartment so I can save $500 a month to pay for $20,000 procedure. The doctor said being that I am in excellent health, there is no reason that this procedure should not work. He is almost certain that I will have great success with it. But because of my age, I cannot wait too long, as a matter of fact, there is more risk to the child and me if we wait further to do this procedure. This is something of a significant amount and it pains me that I need this amount to have a child on my own. I am reaching out to you folks to help me and hope that you understand that all I want is a child, not a fancy vacation,honeymoon or car. I am a simple person and live below my means to try to achieve the things I want on my own. But this beyond my reach and the only thing I really want.
I appreciate any amount of donation and am very thankful for taking the time to read this, which is pretty much my life story...
Your very grateful mother-to-be :)