Reunite Anastasia and Damian

Update posted by Anastasia Akhurst On Mar 09, 2018

Hi everyone,

On March 1st the MCFD and John and I were in court. John and I agreed that we want to contest the order they are seeking to remove our legal guardianship temporarily. Our next date is May 28th.

Just yesterday the MCFD has arranged for us to have now 3 (2 hour) visits with Damian and the Circle of Friends worker to supervise. Visits are going well and I was able to breastfeed Damian a little bit on Monday and Thursday this week. I can't wait to see him again tomorrow. I'm in the process of enrolling John and I into a few parenting programs in order to show the MCFD that Damian is our priority and we want him to have a safe and loving home. As a registered nurse I know that we can always improve our skills and knowledge and being a parent is much the same.

Unfortunately the MCFD still will not return Damian to me even though I have a written agreement with my parents that I can live there with Damian. They say this is only because the RCMP investigation is still open/active. Unfortunately there is no time limit for their investigation and it could remain open forever. Following that line of thought would mean Damian might never be returned to me. However, I still have hope.

As I'm still in the process of waiting to hear from legal aid I have not retained a lawyer yet. Once I hear the official verdict (looking like I will not qualify because of John's income) then I will hire a family lawyer privately.


Please continue to keep us in your prayers.



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Update posted by Anastasia Akhurst On Mar 02, 2018

First off,

A BIG thank you to all who have donated here on and off the campaign page! I've been so blessed and have received a total of $10,995.00 in donations!

I am so thankful to everyone that my campaign was successful in acquiring the necessary funds in order to pay the retainer for a family lawyer. Now I just need to meet with the one I have selected from multiple interviews and I will keep you updated on how things progress.

Here are a few cute photos from my visit with Damian on Thursday this week.



Damian: Kate (John's sister, Damian's aunt) has informed me that Damian is doing very well and growing so much! He loves chicken and brown rice soup, beef and potato stew, pork and sweet potatoes, whole wheat spaghetti with meat sauce and black bean soup. He also loves yogurt, applesauce, smoothies with berries and mango, bananas and oatmeal, carrots, peas, green beans, avocado, cantaloupe, pears and watermelon. She stirs my breast milk in with almost everything he eats. Kate tells me that he drinks about five bottles of breast milk a day and occasionally has a bottle of formula if we are out and run out of milk. He takes two naps a day and is sleeping through the night. Recently, he has been sitting up for very long stretches by himself and still rolls around a lot at Kate's house. He laughs, plays, grabs at everything all day long and constantly interacts and delights in his cousins!

She also has informed me that Dr. Korn from BC Children's Hospital said his left arm is healed. He has instructed her to get Damian to use his left arm more by doing exercises that use his left arm like passing toys to his left hand. When he is sitting up we are to place a pillow on his left side as he tends to lean over when sitting in a highchair.

MCFD: Yesterday, March 1st, John and I and the MCFD were at court. John and I both decided to contest the order that the MCFD were seeking to remove our legal guardianship. Our court date for the hearing is May 28th, 2018. On that court date the MCFD will present their case for why they wish to remove Damian from my care as well as John's.

RCMP: We have not received any information from the RCMP as to what is going on with the case against John and the case against myself.



I will continue to update here and on Facebook and Instagram if anyone wants to follow the story. If anyone would still like to donate they may do so here or by direct email transfer, just shoot me a message and I'll get back to you - [email protected]



Please continue to keep us in your prayers.


Many Thanks,


Anastasia Akhurst, BSN, RN.

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Update posted by Anastasia Akhurst On Feb 28, 2018

Here is a cute photo from Monday. He's getting so big and almost sitting on his own! Look at that sweet baby smile 😍



Thank you everyone for donating. Only 2 weeks left until the end date of the fundraiser. Please continue praying for us. Please share the link on any social media you have so others can donate too.


Thank you,


Anastasia

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Update posted by Anastasia Akhurst On Feb 25, 2018

Thank you everyone who donated yesterday! We've raised $1,725.00! I am amazed and so thankful to everyone for their generosity and prayers. Please continue sharing my fundraiser page. As they say, "the squeaky wheel gets the oil." Let's keep sharing so more people can donate. Only 19 days to go until the end date of the fundraiser.

Gallbaldder: I am doing better one week after my gallbladder surgery. Still sore and I have to remind myself not to push myself too hard. I am hoping to heal quickly and get back into working so I can make more money to pay bills and payments for lawyers.

Damian: He was so sweet on Thursday and seemed to be very happy. I am hoping he will be able to move so that he is living with myself at my parents' house as they have agreed to have us both there as they love us so much. I have been finding it difficult to communicate with John's family about Damian as they are so busy. Kate, John's sister, with her 5 children and John's mother live together in North Vancouver (this is where Damian is staying). John's brother Stephen and his wife Betsy and their four children are also very busy. Things between John's family and John's and myself are not on the best terms due to all the stress of this situation. As a nurse I have noticed Damian is not receiving the necessary attention he needs as a curious 7 month old. He often looks at screens, which is not recommended for children under 2 yrs of age according to the World Health Organization, and is not what I want for Damian either. I feel he would have the attention and educational play time he needs if he were back with me and my parents who can give him more attention. I would also like to breastfeed but Damian is so used to using bottles now that it is difficult. I so appreciate John's family's support so far but I feel now he needs more than they can give. I also believe that Damian being separated from me has put strain on our relationship. By having more time together we can be able to rebond with each other sooner, 3 months of living apart is enough. There is no reason Damian can't be with me as I have never been a danger to him or his safety. The only reason the MCFD won't let us be together is because of the RCMP investigation is not concluded, yet they don't have evidence to arrest or place charges against myself.

I have expressed all of this to our social worker Kelly Wolfe and hope that she can change the current situation in the next week or two. I doubt that this will happen though due to the way things have been developing so far.

Court is on March 1st as I stated earlier and I think we will need to adjourn once again until I have legal counsel.


Again a big thank you to everyone ❤️


Anastasia

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Update posted by Anastasia Akhurst On Feb 24, 2018

20 more days to go! Hoping for the best. Please continue to keep us in your prayers and donate and share my fundraiser page! We can't move forward with the MCFD or having Damian returned to my loving arms without a family lawyer. Our next court date is March 1st. I hope we can get a lawyer soon so that we can move towards Damian living with me at my parents' house. In order to get said lawyer I need more money in order to pay for a lawyers' work. I hate asking for money like this but if you can find it in your heart to help Damian and I, I would be ever so grateful to have my baby back.

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Update posted by Anastasia Akhurst On Feb 23, 2018

Is this not the sweetest little babe you have ever seen! We got to have our 2 hour visit today and it was so good to hear his little laugh and all his new sounds. He's on the verge of saying Mama! I hope I don't miss him saying it the first time. Next week we might be getting 3 visits per week for 2 hr time periods!

Please help me bring Damian home. We need more donations to be able to pay for a family lawyer so I can regain legal guardianship of my sweet little angel. Please donate or share the link to this fundraiser so we can get enough money. We are already one third of the way to the goal. Please please help us and pray for us.

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Update posted by Anastasia Akhurst On Feb 21, 2018

Please share my fundraiser page in hopes that more people will donate to help me pay for a lawyer. I won't be able to work until April since I had my gallbladder surgery. I will be moving out from living with John in order to regain my legal guardianship of Damian quicker and I still need more funds in order to pay for the lawyer and other bills/loans I have received. If I can make even $300.00 dollars of donations per day it will take approximately 3 weeks to get to the goal of $5,500.00 and that's only a fraction of the actual costs. Please help Damian and I be reunited for good.


Anastasia

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Update posted by Anastasia Akhurst On Feb 17, 2018

Dear Friends,


As you may know John and I had to be in court on February 15th. As I still do not have a lawyer nor the funds to acquire one to assist me in navigating court with the MCFD, I had to adjourn again for two weeks in order to find legal counsel. I received a call from legal aid on Tuesday February 13th that I will unfortunately not be eligible for legal aid and must go through a process to get a court appointed family lawyer. This may not even be an option if I do not qualify. That process which may not work out will definitely take longer than two weeks as it involves a lot of mailing back and forth. It seems to me that my options are dwindling and I will have to hire a family lawyer privately. This means I will urgently need funds to pay for said lawyer. Please, if you can share this page with as many people as possible I would be ever so grateful. I don't want to lose my baby Damian solely because I cannot financially afford a lawyer. Yesterday I had my gallbladder removed and likely will be unable to return to work until April.

If nothing else, please pray for Damian, John, and I.


Anastasia

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Update posted by Anastasia Akhurst On Feb 17, 2018

Hi all,


Surgery was a success and I'm on the mend. Please continue to keep us in your prayers. Thank you again for all of the donations! Please share the page if you're unable to donate, we've got just over 1/4 of the goal!


Anastasia

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Update posted by Anastasia Akhurst On Feb 15, 2018

Unfortunately, I will likely not be eligible for legal aid and so must pay for a family lawyer on my own. Thank you everyone for your continued love and prayers and support. Please continue to like and share my fundraiser page. We have reached 1/4 of the online goal! I have interviewed a few different family lawyers and I am hoping one will stand out to me who will work the best for my situation. If anyone has any suggestions for lawyers who deal with MCFD cases let me know!

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