Please Help! My father Wants To Tear Us Apart.
My heart is filled with sadness and sorrow as I write this letter. This fundraising letter is my only hope of getting the peace and happiness back into my family because my father right now is tormenting my mother after their divorce of over three years.
Please, and thank you for taking a moment to read this fundraising letter and be a part of my effort to help my mother out of her present predicament. Please help me help my family.
My name is Preston, and I am 18 years old. My parents have been divorced for over three years now, and my mother has done everything in line with the divorce, yet my father still decides to use the courts time and again to keep harassing my mother and make her life and all of our lives miserable. They have done court and trial, and now he is making her do it all over again.
My Mom is a truly kind and loving woman. We laugh and make jokes together. She even laughs at the dumbest jokes. She is always there for my other siblings and me. She has always supported me, my sisters, and my brother. She loves us, no matter what. And she often tells us that we owe it to ourselves to be the best we can be in whatever we do.
Even though I have not always been the best kid to my Mom, she has never given up on her kids or me.She has taught us to cook, clean, and take care of ourselves. She says it is her job to make sure we are adults who can take care of themselves. If we argue with her, she makes an effort to understand what is happening. She has never called the cops on my other siblings or me because we disagreed with her, ever. My mother believes there are better ways to solve problems. She makes sure we are strong in our church.
My Mom is a great woman. But sometimes she cries at night when she must deal with issues from my father and thinks we don't hear her.My mother hides it from us. She is strong and positive about life. Somehow, she can see the positive sides of things, and I am glad she does this because it has taught me to see the good in the world.
On the other hand, my father is not the kind of man a child would be proud to have as a father.I can't honestly say that I love my father, and he knows it, but he thinks it's my Mom's fault, and it is not. It is his.
When I was 11 on a Saturday, my mom had left for the bank. When she got home, she found that my father had beaten me with a belt, and bruises covered my back and arms. He had chased me down and beat me. He is yet to apologize for this, even though I did absolutely nothing to deserve to be beaten like an animal, no one does.
After my parents separated and parent time began with my father, it didn't get any better. I was 12 years old. My father never called my brother or me. When he was alone with us, he said things like, "you're never going to see your Mom ever again." Soon after, he began to call the police on us, he called them a lot, and about everything. He even called them when I threw a snowball at him and was trying to have some fun.
Once he called the police on my elder sister and said she was kidnapping us because we had gone with her. He had been gone for over three hours; we were bored so we called her to take us to the arcade where she worked. She wasn't kidnapping us.
My father also thinks that because he has the final say over our education that He gets to and should pick all our classes, and he did it to me and is doing it to my brother. All of our elective classes he goes in and changes at the end of the Summer, even though we already chose them, and these are our high school classes. Even the school cannot argue with him. He has made legal threats to the teachers and school district, and feels this final say is his right to control us.
He demanded family therapy with him, me, and my brother, and we went. But both therapists have quit because he argues with them and does not want to be responsible for his relationship with us. He says it is all my Mom's fault and argues with them about this in front of my brother and me.
He thought it was funny once to put nipple clamps on himself and show my brother and me, and he also started to have teenage girls, 12 and 16, come to his house and was buying them things. He wanted them for my brother and me as "playmates" was the term he used. The therapist told him it was wrong. She quit shortly after.
Last Summer was great for me, but not for my brother because I turned 18. I no longer had to go with my father for parent time. I was free. One summer day, when my brother was at my fathers, I went to hang out at him. We went to the park. About an hour later, I started to get texts that now I was the kidnapper and had kidnapped my brother, that I needed to bring him back and that my father was calling the police. He did call the police.
My father has petitioned for full custody of my brother, who has been diagnosed with generalized anxiety disorder. My brother is 17. My father claims that my mother does not take care of him, but it is all lies. My mother cares for him in every way she is supposed to. We are happy with her. My brother is my best friend, and now his anxiety is high, and he doesn't want to go to my father's house at all, but he still has to go because he doesn't want to get my mom in trouble if he doesn't. Or have my father call the police on him or her.
My father even added more video surveillance to his home. He has a camera in his living room to watch my brother's movement. He is harboring my brother against his will and won't let him go anywhere. When my brother does go outside my father follows him like a watch dog.
I started this campaign because I want to help my mom and my brother, but I can't do that without any financial support, and I am still a student. Even though my mom is working, she is getting just enough to live by.
My mom has been fighting this battle for six years now. She has done everything that she has been asked to do by the court. My mom won't argue with my father or take him to court for the things he does. She can't afford the extra cost and my brother has only a year left until he is 18. But this current petition is more than she can afford. It will cost around $15,000 minimum or more to prove she has done nothing wrong and keep custody of my brother.
With this new petition, my father has plans to take my brother from his school and the Special Ed program he is in because of his Anxiety Disorder, My father wants to keep my brother from my mom and not let him see her for three months. He says he wants my mom to go to jail. He wants her to be punished for choosing not to be with him anymore. He wants to rip us apart when he was the one that left. He was the one that walked out on us. He is the one who calls his adult children hurtful and demeaning names and blames them for this. He is the one who calls the police to help him parent and intimidate us.
To help my Mom in this situation, we will need Attorney's fees, $250 an hour. She must pay $500 a month until it is paid. Therapy fees for my brother to keep talking to a therapist to help him cope with his Anxiety Disorder, $60 a session 2-3x a month = $120-$180 a month for the next 12 months = $1440-$2160.
When she goes to court, her Attorney and paralegal will be there, and it will be two days, that will be at time and a half. The Attorney will be $375, and the paralegal will be $200 for a full day of 8 hours = $4600 a day
And on top of that, she has the everyday costs of living. Though my mom is working, it can only go so far.
I am in school and working on getting a job. Because my Mom taught me that school is important for me and wants me to finish, please help my Mom and save my brother and family from being ripped apart.
Therefore, I started this campaign to seek for financial support to help me to help my mom and my brother. I understand that times are hard for everyone, but my family's situation demands urgent attention while my father keeps trying to tear us apart and continues to tear my mother down because of threats of jail and the financial burden it will be to defend herself in court.
Together we can do this, whether it is $5, $10, $50, $500, $1000, or more. I know we can make this happen. I appreciate any and all donations. No amount is too little or too much. Please give as much as you like, and my family and I will be forever grateful to you.
If you cannot donate at this time, please help me to share the campaign. Sharing is free and can help me connect with more people who can give to this fundraiser and help us reach this goal. Share it on social media, this too is appreciated. I promise to send whatever details requested by anyone who wants to verify this story. I will also update often.
Thank you for taking the time to read my story. I pray the good Lord will send you help in your times of need. Thank you once again for all of your love and support.