Hello, I am 36, a mom of two. When I was 20 yrs old I had my first child. My son was such a blessing. My family wasn't as happy about the whole situation with my sons father so I went through a huge depression. I lived at the shelter and went to a lot of court dates just to prove to them that this is my life and that the most important thing is my son not anyone else. I put myself through medical school and after an on and off 10 year relationship with my sons father, I called it quits. My sons father has a medical condition that has been passed down to my son which we are hoping he won't completely follow.
I then met my daughters father and almost a year later I had my daughter. I thought this was it for me and we were going to get married and live life until one day he left me in Florida alone after 3 months being there not knowing anyone or anything and no job or money. After I had my daughter I tied my tubes because of all the drama my parents had cause and the only way to make everyone happy I was pressured into fixing the problem by doing what they wanted. The counselor I was seeing at the clinic helping me to get out of this crazy controlling family mess was the only one who helped me get through making a very important decision. Once I signed that paper that was it. I was only 25 and I was so scared of losing my kids to unsupportive parents. I have raised my children on my own and I went to Florida and i stayed there for ten years. I ran my own business and went to school and worked full time and the kids full time.
I am truly blessed with all the times I was able to take care of everyone's babies but the truth is I want to be able to have one more child with my future husband. I sit sadly all the time because now that everyone finally understands me and realizes they have no more control that I can be happy but I'm not. I m currently with a wonderful man who deserves the fair chance to have a child.
Another reason or this decision is because he lost his father a few years ago and he wants to have one child to continue the bloodline since he is the last child of the name. My wonderful partner has given up his life for me and my two children and if I could raise enough money to have the surgery to have another child I would do it all over again. Its not his fault I had to make this decision over 11 years ago. I don't feel he should be the one to pay for others mistakes when he could be with anyone else and have a child naturally. He has made the decision to be with me and my children knowing my tubes are tied but if we had that chance to have a child of our own, this would be such a blessing words and emotions could never explain how grateful we would be.
I have made a few calls and they said its going to be roughly $15,000-$20,000 dollars with testing and procedures to insert straight to the uterus. I am worried that I won't be able to produce anymore children naturally because of the risks due to my age because they say after 40 years old its unlikely.
All I am asking is for a special chance to complete my family and give my man the gift of life. He is such a smart intellectual athletic man with a warm loving heart. He has had such a rough life and family means everything to him since his was so broken growing up and being raised by his grandparents. We are raising two children now and my son is almost out of high school.
If anyone can help us fulfil our once in a lifetime dream we would appreciate this tremendously. I know some people are unable to have children and I should be grateful for the two I have but I feel like I was forced to make a choice when I was younger just to please my parents and I have regretted that since. We don't know what our future holds. With all of the lessons learned in life that you go through growing up, you grow from it and life changes. We are in such a happy place in our lives and theirs nothing more special then family you have created of your own.
I thank everyone who reads my story. We both have come a long way from where we were and again I am 36 and my future husband is 22. His life is just beginning and I'm so grateful for everything he has been for us and scarficed for us. He's my soulmate. I'm the beauty and he's the beast. Thank you so much in advance. I end this on a happy note because everything we have gone through and all the hard times made us stronger but would make you cry. We just cant wait to start this process and the day our little angel is born. Again, thank you so much for listening.