My beautiful, wonderful little sister Emma is one of the most important people in my life. We have been close sisters since forever, even when we were bickering and being mean as little kids. When she told me she was going to have a baby nine months ago, it was a shock to say the least. Over the nine months that went by I saw her grow to love her little baby inside her more and more, little Oliver and I grew more excited to have a little nephew.
Emma knew everything there was to know about how he was growing, how she would care for him and she had wonderful ideas of how she would teach him to be a good person, with a big, caring heart just like hers. Her and her partner Iain were the most prepared any parents could be.
On 5th December they sadly lost Oliver. His heart had stopped beating during the birth, he was stillborn, five days before he was due to join them in the outside world.
Writing this I still can't believe it is true. I still don't know how we are here, talking about his death when we should be enjoying his first few days in the world. I am still heartbroken that I never got to meet him after all this time. It is all so surreal yet my little sister is being so strong, as she always is.
An inevitable part of all this is organising a funeral. Every death is tragic, every funeral is sad. But it somehow seems even more cruel to be watching my sister organise one for her child, who never had the chance to experience life outside her tummy.
I want to lessen the burden on her as much as I can, so I am hoping my friends and family will help me with raising funds, alongside all of the other incredible support they are already giving.
Emma and Iain really need help to cover the costs of the funeral. The hospital are kindly paying for some of the costs but to be able to have him buried close to their home, they will need to pay for that themselves, which is much more than they can afford. Everyone has been so kind and asked again and again how they can help. Well helping to make the funeral the best it can be for Oliver, Emma and Iain would mean so much.
They still don't know why he passed away and it might be that they will never know. But they will remember the time they did have with him and the time they shared with him as he was growing. Even though things did not turn out the way they had hoped, they are still doing their very best for him by making he funeral special, so I hope you can help.
Thanks for taking the time to read and to help us with this.