I'm not sure where to start, so please bear with me.
I'm trying to raise money to help get me to Maldives, where my boyfriend, Danny, currently is.
We have been together for a couple years and friends before that, and working on having our life together. He is back at home, caring for family as he's had to be for the last year. Our plan was that he would immigrate here, to the United States and we would build our life here. However the sheer costs and time (Before Covid started, looking at a 4 year period to get him here for good) and then many happenings in our life have changed that.
A Year ago, after having no blood sugar issues before, I went into Diabetic KA and was hospitalized for a month. I nearly died, my liver and kidneys shut down completely. By some miracle however, I ended up pulling through. Danny was back with his family and unable to get to me, and going through all of that alone without him was incredibly hard. I got out of the hospital and started a lengthy recovery process. I ended up with no income as I could not do my job of running my photography business, and in the end having to leave where I was living and reside with friends. That in itself turned out badly, having to leave my home state and ended up in a bad situation in the middle of a couple divorcing.
When I got out of the hospital and began to recover, Danny had health issues of his own begin. He has previous head injuries and has suffered from seizures, due to stress in part. The last year for us both has been filled with Doctors and stress, to say the least. And he is now due to go have surgery to remove plates on his ribs, from a bad accident he was in.
It has not failed that as any leeway has started to be made on us getting him here or anything, that an emergency has happened (Hospitals, Moving..etc) and we are back at square one, or less.
We have talked and made the choice that while it will be much harder in some ways, that the best idea at this point for us to be together is for me to relocate to the Maldives, to be with him there. Immigration will be far easier with marriage and I will be able to literally go there once we have paperwork done, pay for medical examination and a few things and then we will simply have to get married and provide proof in a 30 day period and we'll be good. We understand we're looking at a far more difficult life, staying there...but in the end all we're looking for is a life together. Anything else isn't as important as that is.
Even at that, with all of the things that have happened and now with Covid and us both being out of work (myself, after I just moved to a larger area to find work easier...right as the virus hit and the area I moved to was the hardest hit thus far in this state) are making things harder and harder.
We know this is a horrible time for us all, but we want to see if we can get any help...to get us to one another. We feel this urgency and pressing after myself almost dying and his seizure issues and now the entire uncertainty with Covid19....we simply want to be with who we love and have a chance at life and maybe our own family. We're both in our 30's - myself nearly 36 - and know the window is closing for our own children and that is also pushing us to want to be able to start our lives. We want our own child or children so very badly....
I have already parted with the majority of any items I have owned and am going to whittle everything I own down to 20-25 boxes if possible. Mostly keeping essentials and the few family heirlooms I cannot bear to part with. I have my car that I can sell and get maybe $2K for.
What we're looking for is what we need to get me down to him. No extra really. We're not looking to fund our life, have money for anything else really. Just to help get me down there. The way things are looking, with testing to ensure I am virus free and a 14 day quarantine...By September, I should be able to get there at the earliest. Which would be a really beautiful birthday present for me!
We have no intention of a large wedding, expensive rings, etc. We will get married as simply as possible, no fanfair. Wedding bands, and obviously no honeymoon or travelling.
The money we hope to raise is simply for the following things or to help with them.
$1200-$1400 (at the lowest price I can find) for the one way plane ticket to Maldives.
$3500-$3700 for Shared container shipping cost for my boxes (at lowest price available)
The remaining for medical exams and the few things that must be paid for, for immigration into Maldives.
I will share costs and receipts if it will help.
Again, we understand this is a hard time for all. We may not be expecting a lot, but we have to try. We'll continue to do whatever we can, when we can, from our sides....but we're praying that some help will come and we can just be together for good, sooner rather than later. We've lost so much time already and had to go through some of our hardest times apart.
Thank you from us both. Even just for sticking with all this and reading through it. Anything will help...$5. $10. Anything. It'll all add up and be a step forward for us and no words can say what it'll mean....