I have not seen my 4 year old daughter Immy Maya since 28/02/2015. I separated from my ex when Immy was just one year old - When the relationship with Immy's mother broke down I left, leaving everything I had with them believing that by doing so my ex could ensure our daughter would be comfortable and happy. I was heartbroken to leave Immy but I was sure it'd be fine to see her on regular occasions and knew under the circumstances it was the RIGHT thing to do.
Only a few weeks later another man moved into their life and things got worse....
I have since been to court 5 times fighting for access rights, I have 12 solid contact sessions in place proving my more than capable ability to look after Immy while she is in my care, however throughout my contact sessions my daughter called me "Steve", not "Daddy" or even "Daddy Steve" - "Steve" was ordered NOT to be used by my ex and her family in the presence of Immy by the court judge as a means to limiting the parental alienation I was continually faced with.
Over the past year my ex has constantly limited, cancelled or made it very difficult for me to see Immy, despite obtaining agreements from the court that I can see her for 6 hours a week.
In one of our last contact sessions Immy told me that she wouldn't be able to see me any more... I immediately raised my concerns with Social Services as that's not a thing a 4 year old just decides to tell you out of the blue.
A few days after I spoke Social Services about this I get a call from them saying that an allegation had been made against me of abusing my daughter sexually. I was gobsmacked.
The police were quite rightfully involved, everyone was interviewed (including my daughter!) and quite sensibly the case was dropped - Anyone who knows me would know I love Immy more than anything in the world and would NEVER hurt her.
Christmas has now been and gone and not being able to see my Immy over this period has been heartbreaking. Due to allegations and continual parental alienation I am being wrongfully ousted from my daughters life.
Unfortunately the government has made cuts to public services so one of the things to go was the legal aid assistance that could have helped me through this awful period. Strangely, (and somewhat helpfully for my ex) the only way to be eligible for this is if allegations of abuse are made...
The problem is if someone throws enough dirt something will stick. Well I won't have that. I have done nothing wrong, I work very hard, love my daughter very much and will do everything I can to fight for her but I am struggling.
My ex has consistently ignored court orders, continually alienated me as a parent, and poisoned Immy's mind with negative opinions of me, and even went as far as abuse allegations to eradicate me from her's and Immy's existence so she and her new partner can get on with their lives? None of my family have even been allowed to see Immy. They have not seen her in over a year. This whole situation is just utterly wrong.
I have decided I've had enough and something needs to be done about this.
I am struggling to cover the legal costs, my parents are unable to help me, and I now feel the only way I can continue to fight for Immy is by making this awful situation public to help me raise funds to fight for her, and maybe by doing so help to raise awareness of thousands of men being abused by an ex through the current failings of our legal system.
If you have read this firstly I thank you deeply for your time; and if you feel you can help any donation would be amazing as I'm not sure what else to do now and I can no longer bare not being in Immy's life.
I plan to secure a solicitor and go through the proper channels to get Immy back in my life. I anticipate the costs will be far greater than my target and will put in as much as I can but I simply need help.