I was granted divorce from an abuser in 2018. My abusive trial started soon after we were married in 2016. He was emotionally, physically and mentally abusive. I paid 41000 out of pocket to be able to leave this situation w my child. My child was only 1 month old when he left in 2017 and he tried emptying our checking account of all cash. At the time I was Muslim and married to this man from the middle east. I am a US born citizen and not from the middle east. However, I soon learned the expectations and treatment of a female in my marriage. Along w threats of kidnapping towards my son and abuse towards our cat and myself. During my last two weeks of pregnancy, he pointed a gun at me because I would not place my cat who he was jealous of in a cage for him to shoot. I had my child 2 weeks prior of the due date.
When I went to court the first time the goal was to reach a settlement. He declined and we had to move forward with trial. I prayed to god we would settle this soon and that my baby can remain protected. I was in the process of court battles trying to end my domestic violence marriage and protect my child. I as a single mother and no support had to pay 41000 to finish this through.
I must do all I can to continue to protect my child. Since my child was born, the father has only seen him 21 hours, divided w/in 5 visits in his first year. He has not seen my child since the court trial in 2018. He has not paid child support since 2019 Jan and still owes us for 15,000 credit card debt and unpaid medical bills. Has not contacted us in over a year. The reason I must go back to court is because he sent a friend who is also from his country to my house unexpectantly. The guy started banging on the door in the middle of a weekday afternoon. Would I have a job that required I be in the office I would not have been home - which makes me wonder what he was up to. Once I realized who he was I closed the door and told him the ex is only to communicate via a court app. I felt this to be a threat towards my son and I. Especially my son since he has not seen him in 3 years and threatened to kidnap him before.
I am now going back to try to get parenting modification and contempt papers for the debt he owes us. I cannot take a financial hit again as I already did last time and have been unemployed 7 months this last year.
As a single mom, I run a household for my son and me. I devote myself 100% to him, pay for his daycare, activities and aim to provide him with everything. The financial impact of the legal fees on us is detrimental especially if I must be unemployed again. I have had to take money out of my 401 this time around.
You may contact me directly if you have questions or require further details. Any assistance and prayer are much appreciated.
I would like to share more openly; however, due to the circumstances - am unable to share publicly.
Those who know me know I have had a great life. However, marrying the wrong person has created an awfully bad circumstance in all areas of my life. My biggest concern is my child. I love him more than anything. Securing his safety is my one priority along w praying for justice.
Please note that should any money collected be unused I will be donating it to a domestic violence organization for legal fees.
Any donation and prayer would be much appreciated in our battle to complete this. Thank you for taking the time to read this. Feel free to contact me directly if needed for additional information.