My name is Dayang, turning 25 years old in july and a domestic violent victim. I was mentally and physical abused by my husband. We both had a daughter together and she is about to turn 1. I used to be an outgoing person, positive, independent young lady and hold Diploma in Mass Comm certs. But things had turned upside down since marriage (2016).
I was not allowed to go to work instead i became unpaid maid at my in laws house. My mom-in-law undergrad me and she thinks i am not allowed to have a me time.
My husband remains unemployed since 2 years of marriage. He is a drugs addict (meth) and gambler. He never gave me money instead he asked money from me. Due to my mom is a pensioner, my financial support is covered by her since my dad passed away 5years ago.
My MIL always back up her darling son, that she is in denial and refuse to send her son to rehab because she said she’s afraid her son will get bored. While the rest of my siblings in laws are busy with their own things even though we live under the same roof.
My daughter was admitted at University Malaya Medical Centre, Kuala Lumpur last December for 40 days because of brain injuries. She had undergo brain surgery on 14th Dec and 25th Dec. She was only 8 months old back then. No one knows how did she get a serious injuries, but I suspected it could be an accident; that few days before, my husband accidentally pushed my daughter aside while sleeping, caused her thrown from the bed and her head knocked the cupboard.
My MIL insisted me and my husband, to not speak of this, but i told the SCAN team before this but none of them believed what i said. I lost my daughter’s custody, because i am unemployed and also has Major Depression Disorder.
Since my MIL has a lot of influence in West Malaysia and while I’m from East Malaysia, no one would believed me. Furthermore, I have no backings to support my words. Thus, the court had to decide the custody should be with my mom, but my MIL refute. She kept on nagging to take care of the baby at her house hence the welfare and the court decided to have my MIL to take custody for 3 years. Furthermore, i was all alone and my family are all in Sarawak (Borneo Island). The courts had decide the custody is given to my mom, but my MIL overruled. She keeps nagging to take care of the baby at her house hence the welfare and courts ordered my MIL a custody for 3 years.
I was breastfeeding, so wherever my daughter is i have to be by her side. That was where i was treated like a maid, even when my daughter is sleeping my mom-in-law asked me to look at my daughter sleeping. I did all the house chores but my in laws complained i dont know how to dressed up myself.
On 9th March 2018, my husband kicked me twice in front of his parents because he was mad that the baby cried around 4am. That time he insisted me to take the baby out from our room. During that time my daughter was on fever, so i called him to bring the baby to hospital. That’s the reason why he physically abused me. And his parents just stall there. The following day is even worse. He chocked me, kicked, scratch and pulled me just because i refused to lend him some money for him to get meth. My husband beat me in front of my father-in-law, yet my father-in-law only could protect the baby.
Since that day, i leave the house, leave all my of stuffs behind and lodged a police report. But i refuse to take actions because knowing my MIL, she could manipulate and she knows big cables. The next day i flew back to my hometown in Sarawak and filed a divorce.
If i finally divorced, the custody will automatically returns back to me. Ever since that day, my husband threatened me, begging me to come back to his family house and said that i dont even care about my daughter. It hurts me, i wanted to bring my daughter but my daughter is advisable to get into a flight in April. I dont want to ruined my life again by staying in this marriage. My husband and his family didnt know im filing a divorce.
To get the process done immediately, i need at least rm3000 -rm5000 to hire a private lawyer. The govern lawyer takes a few months.
I need to work fast before my husband and his mom filing me a sharia courts order “obey the husband”. And also saving my daughter from that psychopathic family.
Apart from that amount, the balance of the amount is to purchase my daughter’s flight from KL to KCH, a small financial support for me to start a new life (looking for jobs or pursuing my bachelors)
If anyone knows where i can apply jobs suitable with my skills and certs, let me know as i am desperate to support myself and my daughter.
Your moral and financial supports are highly appreciated, i really hope all goods may come as your rewards for saving me. Thank you
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