Hello, this is going to be a long story but i need to tell it
We both are from México and i really need help to fix things from my life that are bringing me to a huge depression i know that everyone has their own problems but if i could i would also help you too! this is an emergency call before things become worse, lately i don't feel like doing anything in my life because of this
The short version is, i met my GF in an online game called League of Legends, we fell in love and we have been online dating for 1 year and half, her parents found out about us and they have forbid her to call me or talk to me at all in any way, they took her cellphone and laptop back so she has no way to contact me
The long version is:
Ok so it was about 20th August 2017 when i was checking a facebook group about the game League of Legends which i have played since December 2011 in which im Diamond rank currently, then i saw this girl posting "looking for people with discord to play with" i preferred to send her a private message, she replied about 1 week later so we added each other in the game and played a little while we were in a voice call with my friends in Discord
Next day she private messaged me in Discord telling me that she felt alone while doing her homework, so we made a call while she was doing her HW, later on she finished too late to even play a little because she had class next day, she told me that she would move to her bedroom but she would not be able to talk because she sleeps along with her sister in the same bed, so she heard me in voice while i read her messages, then she fall asleep while we were in the call, i didn't go to bed until way later, so when i woke up she had already went to class without a word, that's normal, we had just met ...
Later that day was about the same thing, but this time once she finished her homework she told me that she didn't want to stay alone while starting to sleep (her sister was already asleep at that time) she said she felt a little scared of night i think she just was trying to be cute not sure, anyway, i told her i could stay in the call until she sleeps
That thing repeated for about for some days, until she decided she would talk in the night in her bedroom even with her sister being there asleep, just she would whisper
so after 1 week of having talking for first time she called me "baby" once and i thought it was normal, some girls does that in a normal form, but with the time i figured she had some kind of loving intentions with me and i was like ok she's cute i will go ahead (i must point out that back then she was 17 years old and i was 23 so i was not sure if it was right)
we kept talking and so on until about 1-2 months later she asked me to video chat to know the way i really looked, i was afraid i was not going to be enough for her but i accepted, at this time i already liked her a lot but once i saw her on cam i could not help to fall in love for her even more, we only talked didn't do anything wrong at all, at that time we talked daily and too often like every time we had free time to talk it was almost as if we were e-dating but not yet
So the video chat became a normal thing for us, we almost did video call daily, everything was going good except some weekends she would say she had real life stuff to do and i would not see her for the whole saturday or sunday, i would wait all night long for her to arrive, she usually came to come at 1-4am i only did that so we could sleep in a call in discord, of course all this made me sad but i had to understand and give her space.
So december vacations came and i had high expectations that we would spend a lot of time together in those vacations, but god... this was only the beginning of the hell
During these vacations she would tell me excuses that she was busy with family due to holiday and stuff, i was like ok, but this became almost daily, she was giving me only about 2 hrs a day and many days she would simply not talk to me at all, so i was like ... ok she is not into me anymore i will ask her
She only said "i like you a lot but i don't want a boyfriend yet maybe later", of course i complained i felt like i had lost a lot of my life time only to get used
Later on i found out on her facebook a guy that always gave her likes to her pictures so i checked him i know this was not so right, but i already loved her a lot, then i discovered that she have had a boyfriend about 5 months before we met! i was like: "how is this possible!!" it was almost end of 2017 when i realized this and quickly asked her about all this mess
She replied: "that's why i was trying to stop talking to you, i also fell in love but this thing can't be, i have a boyfriend and he studies in a city 2 hours away from me and only visits me some weekends"
They also went to dates once in a while during holiday
She also explained that he sometimes didn't message her that often due to distance and that he didn't like to do calls or text as much as me, after this i had understood that she felt lonely due to all of this i was still upset but i still loved her a lot so i didn't know what to do, so after thinking a lot i told her we could still be friends and talk often, she agreed
Some days later i still felt so depressed that our thing could not happen, it was also weird to not call us baby and love stuff anymore, so i asked if we could talk again same as before, she said it would not be right and i knew so, but i insisted so in the end we still called us honey or sweety but much less than before, i know this is wrong! but i wish you knew how much i really fell in love for her
(this started about the first week of january 2018)
So i told her that i would wait a certain amount of time like 6 months up to 1 year to see if they would break up or not, so we kept chatting and talking in voice, doing video chats some times, but while i knew she had boyfriend and she would not lie to me anymore when she had to go in a date with him
So after about half year of suffering and depression due to my impossible love i started to lose hope, but then one night after she went to a date with him she came and called me while she was crying her boyfriend tried to break up with her saying that he would be too busy at college due to the hardest part of her career was about to start in upcoming August (this happened in May 2018) and that he would have even less time to spend with her, she declined his break up attempt saying she would be patient (at this point i was thinking that it would be easier for her to wait for him since she had well.. "me" as i always gave her support about this stuff, but her bf had noone to talk to him about this stuff)
About 23rd June 2018 she told me that she and her bf had break up because he brought the same subject about future and also he added that they didn't talk that much anymore and he didn't feel too happy with the relationship so she told him that if he didn't feel comfortable with the relationship that they should break up
She still cried because she was really into him, so i told her that i would try my best to make her feel better
About 1 week later in 1st July i asked her to be my girlfriend i know it felt too soon but we had known each other for almost 1 year back then (so i actually almost waited 1 year for this to happen), she said yes but at the same time i noticed something different on her, she also said she was busy some days of the july vacations, i believed in her again
So one day in July i asked her whats wrong, she said her Ex wanted to go back to be a couple, later on i contacted her Ex and surprise! he said they had been dating since after 1 week of breaking up, in fact i found out they were dating again 1 day before she accepted to be my girlfriend, it went out of her hands once again ...
So i explained the situation to her ex (being her bf once again) and he came to the conclusion that it was better to break up this time for good, all this happened about 2 AM while they were in a date... so when she arrived her home she didn't want to talk to me at all she nearly blocked me, she was so mad, and she said "at least for today leave me alone" (i must add that this guy was 21 years old and she was 17 years old at this time)
Next day i messaged her, saying she would not need to talk but i wanted to call her and "be sorry" i know many of you will say i had no reason to say sorry but i still made her relationship to finish abruptly, some of you will say her relationship had no future anyway some of you will say that maybe they would have married, i will leave it for you guys to think
So we kept talking again, while both of us trying to earn each other's trust but mostly for me it was hard to even think of trusting her again but i tried anyway
Since september 5th we have been e-dating officially and we thought that everything was going to be pink colored from that point ... we were so wrong.
About 1 month later in october her parents noticed she still talked a lot with someone in a call but they knew she had broke up with her BF so they started to ask her many things (she always told me that she didn't want to tell her parents about us because they would not like that i'm older than her and i live in "San Luis Potosi" state and she lives in "Sonora" state which i have to take two Buses and one Airplane in order to visit her)
At this point she was 18 years old already and i was 24 (this is our current age, soon she will be 19)
At first she denied to her parents about me to save herself the troubles, but i was like... what could happen, so i told her to tell her parents the truth so they could start thinking of us as a couple, but then they figured that we talked to each other before she even broke up with her bf, knowind that, the age difference and the distance from our cities they rejected our relationship and forbid her to keep talking to me, they even made her move her personal things to her parent's bedroom and they forced her to sleep with her sister and mother in same room, while her dad went to sleep in her old bedroom
At this point the relationship became so hard to sucess, we talked secretly, not as much as before
About 1 month later (november 2018) her parents decided to move her back to her old bedroom so she sleeps back with her sister currently while her parents knowing she still talks to me but they think we talk less now
So it became a normal thing for her parents to punish her when she went to bed slightly later than they allowed her because they knew she was talking to me (funny thing they let her ex bring her back to home up to 4 AM) and they won't allow her to sleep later than 11PM even at weekends just because we talk and play video games together
it's hard to say how often it happens but i can say that they punish her about 3-4 times per month while it sometimes being a whole weekend or other times only 1 or 2 days and the punishment usually is the same (not being able to use her laptop or cellphone or anything that involves talking to me)
Her parents simply won't understand our thing, i already took a picture of my ID and all my legal/school papers and sent it to her parents i also offered to talk with them in video chat and even make my family talk to them but they refuse to cooperate, (all this about my documents was since the very first days they found out about us in october 2018
1 week ago in saturday they found out she was in video chat with me and they punished her once again for the whole day and night
This last friday i called her in morning to wake her up as i always do so she could get ready for college, i heard her dad telling her "stop talking with that dude and get ready"
We were in a Discord call, so 5 minutes after she went to get ready i heard the sound when someone in your discord call leaves the call, so i figured her dad took her cellphone back one more time ...
Later on when she was supposed to be in her University already, i noticed she was active in whats app and messenger, so i tried to call her in all possible ways but the call was not answered nor declined, as if nobody heard it, it was very suspicious, hrs later she messaged me in messenger saying that a friend of her let her use a cellphone for 5 minutes so she told me that her parents would take her cellphone to some dude so he could unlock her password pin from her cellphone so they could supervise what she does
Later she arives home and she said that her parents told her that she could use the cellphone few minutes, it was already pin-unlocked and if she added a pin again they would not give it back to her anymore, she can't work yet because shes very busy studying college, i do work but my income is not enough to visit her until about 1 year later because i also have bills to pay here, i know what i'm asking is not a lot but in México for an average employee is not too easy to save enough to travel through half the country, i also have plans to make a store to sell stuff someday instead of being employee forever, but it needs time, and i can't wait anymore im really desperated because i also have a feeling that she could be lying once again you already know 75% (i mentioned the most relevant ones) of the bad things i have been through this relationship
Honestly wish i could visit her this upcoming 14th but i know it won't be posible because i don't have the money yet, but even at her vacations in April will be enough, but of course the sooner the better, i will also try to save the most money i can but at this moment i don't have money to spare
We are very sick of this and i have headaches often, my stomach sometimes hurt, i can't really eat my foods because i feel so bad that i somply don't feel like eating, depression is attacking both of us, and she has told me that she has threw up sometimes and she sometimes throw a few of blood through her mouth due to being worried and stressed a lot about this
I'm sure if i show up in real life to her parents in person it will make things hugely different, and if not then i will just stay in her city working and that way i will be able to see her often! please help me, believe it in god, karma, or in what are your beliefs, you will be rewarded greatly i'm sure because the love i have for her is very big and i need answers to find out what is going to happen pleaseeeeee
(i know her real address because i have sent her a gift to her home)