This is not an easy text to publish. Reaching almost a year back my dear old mother has grown further away from me and the rest of my family. Last summer we sensed something was wrong when she started acting weird while being in contact with somebody that she described as the new man in her life. At first she seemed very happy, probably for many reasons, one being single since she divorced our father many years ago. Since then she's been trying to find somebody to fall in love with. So, we kept some distance with some on and off communication where we gradually started sensing that something was wrong again. Very wrong. She started getting agitated and she would also start crying every time called or spoke to her. Since then it has been a total nightmare trying to figure out what has been going on.
After some time of digging, trying to offer support and even trying to involve law enforcement we finally figured out that she fell in love with a man online. He groomed her, extorted and well... scammed her. Now, she is soon forced to retire and she is working overtime everyday, not taking a single day off for a few years, not sleeping, frequently crying. She almost even sold her home. Fortunately she didn't, but the scammer got away with more than 80.000 dollars through saving and loans she really couldn't afford, as well as selling off some personal gold jewellery. It's important to point out that she wasn't wealthy before this happened.
Right now I have been on her couch for a little more than a week, far away from home, working full time with her, documenting, reaching out to family members, law enforcement, support groups, talking to the banks and lenders, scraping together all of the information possible to be able to help supporting her. And I'm just very, very worried that something bad will eventually happen to her, that she might not be able to make it. I'm really trying to find ways to her make end's meet and as of know she doesn't even have time to afford this month. I'm afraid that she will slowly go deeper and deeper into this.
And this may sound cliché but she has always helped me and my family, constantly putting herself last and it's so devastating to realise that she now needs my/our help with a price tag that's just is so high I have no idea how to manage. I lost my job a few months back so I really can't do as much for her as I would want the rest of my family is and will also be struggling to find time, money and energy.
Please, if you can find it in your heart, I - we - would be forever grateful to receive anything to help me support mom through this. I want to help her get back on her feet, which at the moment feels very distant because of her financial situation. She says that she doesn't need help but she really, really does. I've gone through her financials and it screams for help. If has to sell her apartment to get out of her situation, which I think she will, her current credit level will prevent her from getting a rental apartment, which is important here in Sweden. And yeah, it wouldn't be any good. She just told me that "if I lose the apartment, I'm nothing..." and then she started crying. It breaks my heart that she might actually happen.
Our beautiful and supporting mom is now soon turning 70 y/o. This photo was taken of us in the earlt 90s.
If you have any questions, ideas or concerns, please feel free to get in touch with me with here and I will answer as soon as i can.
Ps. we're trying to keep this a low profile towards her, because she would probably freak out if she knew we were doing this in public at this point. Ds