- Hi, I am Rajiiv and the below mentioned is what we went through. But my story was not always like this. His and mine - Our story!!
It all started when i started looking for a job last year in September. Life was fair and good. Meanwhile I met my partner Arijit at an LGBT meet in our city. Something clicked and we started seeing each other regularly.
But nothing lasts forever and so did our hay days of us being openly with each other with no shit to burden us with anything. A tragedy waiting to behalf on us was around the corner though. His parents suddenly turned from supporting to vehemently opposing and brutally harsh. He had started living with me when forced to leave home because of his decision to love me.Only two days had passed when something abrupt happened.
Hounding my house with local political goons and trying to malign my image (as my partner's parents thought)by creating a scene twice(they did this again when my guy didn't go with them and instead went to his friend's house that day)at my rented residence, they were successful to separte us for some days to which we responded with firmness and determination. All legalities and economics were then handled by us without much support from the community people initially.
Now everyone knew about us once the drama started and not many knew what to do - expect us! because it was our lives and we were to live it with honesty and dedicaton. Love kept us strong and our mental strength added to the fuel of 'won't be giving up' attitude.A legal battle was fought where a GD (FIR)and a letter from the local advocate prevented them to act that stubborn again to separte us yet again.That morning when my partner was dragged and taken forcefully from my place by his father accompanied by political goons and his relatives, I knew something bigger was storming up on the way and it would not be the same for us thereon. His parents are somewhat of a psychotic nature. And no I am not judging...but telling my truth which i saw and felt.The day his mother berated me in that scornful way, insulted me and humiliated me in my home, I understood that these people are sick and would not listen or understand to a word I would say. I lived alone & I stayed calm and quiet and then I wept when she left, uncontrollably with sobs & tears. It felt utterly helpless and so very lonely. But something inside of me stood up and said enough is enough!!
Fast forward- Now we are living with one single thought as to what might happen if his parents try another attempt like that because they still try to locate his whereabouts, occasionally. He has a job to keep him occupied but not enough for us to make a strong financial decision on buying our own house or moving to another city. I, on the other hand have helped him to be stable keeping my sanity intact as well as being each other's rock through all the ups and downs. I keep applying for a job in the govt.sector in other cities. I work with him indirectly too(on a commision basis) which unfortunately depends on uncertain factors. We still live in a rented home at some other place not much far from his parents.
Whatever we have built in the last 8 months shall tumble down to nothing if we face any such dire situation once more. Also everything would come to naught if we are to shift again and again. We don't want to be on the threshold forcibly every time just because some bigots and discrimintory people think we should be at non-receiving end of their set patterns of a fixed hegemony in a heteronomative world. Why we should face losses because of who we are and not be in-charge of own lives?! Why we must live with suppression and constant fear of being judged and look for our safety everytime? Is it okay to live with depression and a reccuring thought that someday what we have tried to achieve by our soul and hard work will be take from us? Is that justifiable?!
We hide everyday, we comouflage constantly and we wrap ourselves in different kind of closets even after fighting so much openly and exhaustingly.
Ergo, I have come to you for help so that we can at least decide to move out of our present city or think something concrete. Our resources are not enough to move out anywhere. For two days, we had nothing to eat in the intial days after we had started living together & we don' t want to face unnecessary problems anymore. Enough of being victimised.
We want to help others too, like us.
Also, we have impending health issues to be resolved. I need to get operated for a deviated septum and he needs to be medicated periodically & recurringly for his anal tumor(of the past) including other ailments.
P.S-He had received rape threats and death threats from his maternal uncle when he was about to leave his house to move out permanently with me after the whole melodramatic episodes. And till today we avoid going near to his parents place or in the city where his uncle lives.
P.P.S- Here is the enclosed FIR copy and the doctor' s prescription of my partner.