I am a 34-year-old high-school teacher. I live in Sibiu, a small city in Romania. I have four children (age 8, 5, 3 and 1) and three of them are on medication for chronic illness (asthma, recurrent wheezing, histamine intolerance, multiple allergies and intolerances, malabsorption). One of which has a severe life threatening medical condition: asthma and Lyme disease. I couldn’t accept what the doctors here told about their illnesses, that it can’t be cured, but only treated symptomatically. So, I decided not to give up, but keep fighting. So I started the research and I found a clinic in Bucharest, and in November 2018 we went there for the first time with the kids for detailed blood testing that were sent to a laboratory in Germany for further analysis. Next, we received a very elaborate long term treatment for them, with medication from Germany and Austria, which costs us lots of money (few times more than our monthly total income). Also we have to go to Bucharest to the clinic every few weeks. The medical insurance doesn’t cover it. But still, working really hard, we can manage it difficultly. (As a fact, I spent almost 3 months in the hospital during the past year, also I myself passed through a surgery.) The fact that the kids are much better now, due to the treatment, gives me the strength to keep fighting in every possible way. I am really grateful for that, thanks Lord! But they still need their medication many times/day and my careful supervision, and also a very restrictive nutritional diet (according to their allergies and intolerances) and because of their histamine intolerance all the meals must be very fresh prepared (otherwise the histamine raised in the food would trigger inflammatory symptoms).
Also I am really concerned and upset for not having a home. We moved to a rented apartment for the third time now, and believe me, it is really hard to do this with four kids. We so deeply want to offer our children a space to live, a space we can call home, our own home. We spent in these 10 last years so much money for rented apartments. We had to move from the last one due to the fact that it was in a very old house and it had dampness, which was very bad for our five-year-old son with asthma and for the little baby which started to have asthma like symptoms as well. So we decided to move. Again.
Now, the medical doctor advised us to find an apartment in a new building, to avoid this problem with dampness, specific to the old houses. As hard as it may be for us, in financial terms, we decided to go to the bank and ask for a credit. At the bank we were told that the maximum amount of money that they can give us as a credit is about 60% the value of the apartment that we decided to buy, and we will have to pay the credit back as a monthly rate for the next 30 years. So we still need about 20 000 euros in order to be able to take the apartment. Sincerely, we simply can’t dream bigger having all these troubles.
So, we still need this money difference between the bank credit and the apartment cost. I don’t know where to borrow them from. I simply don’t have the power (and time) anymore to move again in another rent (I spend around 3 hours every day with the kids treatment).
Although I keep working all the time really hard, and with all the medical expenses which are really, really high, the income is so small that I could never hope to save even a little part for what is need to achieve an apartment. (For those who really want to help us I can send via e-mail copies of our medical paper and medication invoices.)
I feel so helpless. But now I also feel that is my duty toward my kids to offer them a home. It is a very hard struggle, but I must do it someway.
Writing and asking for help: maybe this is the craziest and unusual thing that I’ve ever tried. But, at least, I can give it a try.
(I was doubting whether I should attach photos with the kids or not, but finally I decided that maybe is better not to do so, in order to protect them. In exchange I will post some paintings they made this evening. Also, no photo can attest a reality – for those who may consider so, but the official papers can do it).