My loving and very religious mother suffered pains on her knees, upper back, lower back, and feet when she was in the house just trying to sleep. She was not comfortable and mistakenly assume it was just arthritis. My sister Indai helped her by massaging those areas but when she was trying to sit down on the bed straight up, she immediately collapsed. Suffered seizure, hard breathing, and rapidly blinking eyes. We had Ate Cathy and Welmer helping my mother to revive from this shock but she was not responding at all while I was still on the way back home.
We rushed her to Cebu North General Hospital last March 27, 2018 @ around 10PM. Initial diagnosis by the doctor was cardiac arrest. She had no oxygen supply and no blood pressure when we arrived at the hospital so the doctor mentioned about "brain dead" or DOA. The doctor and the nurses did a series of CPRs and revived my mother successfully but it was after more than 30 mins. They were mentioning about the brain having no oxygen supply for longer than 10 minutes already and her system was not responding to basic reflexes like pupil dilation. The doctor said she needed to be in ICU to be intubated. He also said brain dead is irreversible once they run out of oxygen. What?
Indai and I transferred her to Chong Hua mandaue hospital were she was placed in the emergency room because she still needed critical assistance in increasing her blood pressure to normal, at least 90/60 so that she could be transported to ICU. We sat there from 3AM until around 2PM without sleep, breakfast, and lunch. We barely had 5 mins of uninterrupted sleep. Then finally we had confirmation from the resident doctor and the pulmonologist that my mother would now be brought to ICU.
The doctor and the nurses were trying their best to maintain my mother's heart beat and blood pressure in order for them to conduct a series of laboratory examinations. The doctor said that the only running organ in my mother was her heart which couldnt basically run on its own and just relying on the medicine they provided minute after minute. Her brain was still not responding. She had major complications to the rest of her organs. Liver SGPT level should be <50 but she had more than 900. That is about more or less 1,700% higher than the normal range. The doctor also mentioned referrering her to cardio to conduct coronary angiogram to check if there was any blockage to any part of her blood vessels and to perform CT scan. But still those did not guarantee anything since mama's brain was not responding even just a little. Also it required draining the dye out of the system through her urine but her kidneys were not funtioning normally as well. Creatinine level was high and blood pressure not stable. Same situation, those procedures couldnt be done because the very basic requirements of her system were way too down.
The doctor frankly gave us options. They repeatedly asked us if we were waiting for someone else to visit there. What did they mean? We were silently reading their minds. We wanted to extend mama's life. For as long as her heart was beating, we were very eager to fight for her life. She looked so buffed up, there were a lot of injection marks on her arms. Her face was no longer in its normal size. Looks like something was injected in that I didnt know what. We were in deep agony and pain seeing my mother just lying there with tubes supporting her life not responding to anything you say. She was suffering too much already. The medicine doses were way too high already just to support her heart. We didnt want to let go but something was telling me I needed to start thinking of the worst case possible.
The i love you's and "please take care of us and guide all your grandchildren Holly, and soon to come Daven and Mia." whispers were given hoping that she would still hear them. I could still hear my mother's reply to me "I love u sd dooyy". So sad that I could only hear them again through my dreams.
March 29, 2018, 12:17PM, we were called by the doctor and informed us that her heart beat dropped to 60+ and we required to sign a waiver with a decision to still be agreessive or not anymore. We decided that CPRs and medicine will no longer be given if the arrest would happen again. That was our choice as a family. We wanted mama to rest peacefully and we did not want to see her suffering again with all those tubes. 12:28PM Jr and Indai went in the ICU room to inform mama about the decision, asking guidance and blessing for the rest of the family. We had no idea that it was the moment that she had been waiting for from us. The decision and understanding of the entire family, the acceptance that the fact that she was going to leave soon, and the bravest huge love that we have for her which she was being reminded every minute of everyday how much we love her and how hard it was to let go. Few moments after that, my mother's heart dropped to 0. That was really the most painful and very sad moment of our lives. But we know it was also the time for her to let go of the sufferings she had in this world and be with our most loving God in a peaceful heaven full of love and blessings. She is now the addition to our guardian angels especially to her grandchildren.
Ma, padayon ma kung asa ka dalhon sa Ginoo. Kahibaw mi nga naa ka sa maayong mga kamot karon. I-guide mi tanan ma ug hatagi mi ug blessings sa among adlaw2 nga pangbuhaton especially si Papa, Ate nga buntis, Jr, Indai ug si Rara nga buntis. I-guide sd si Holly ma sa iyang pagdako and sa umaabot nimo nga duha ka apo na sd puhon si Daven and Mia. God bless nato tanan ma. Ayaw kabalaka namong tanan, kami na bahala ni papa ma. We will be strong for him, we will also be strong for the people you love so dear. Thanks kaau ma sa tanan nimong gibuhat sa amo ug sa tanan nimo gi.antos pra lng makita mi nimo nga malipayon taga adlaw. :( We love you so much ma!!! God bless you in heaven. We will always pray for you ma.
To our families and supportive friends, right now we are also in deep financial need. We left the hospitals with a total of 307,000+ pesos of bill. Fortunately she had philhealth and senior citizen discount, we only paid a total of 230,000 for her hospitalization but 196,000+ of it was paid through maxing out our credit cards and the remaning through cash. We are asking all your kind and generous hearts for any financial support you may have for us. We sincerely thank you from all of our hearts and may God bless you all.
Francis Lloyd M. Reyes
Francis Lloyd M. Reyes