I am Michelle and I am Aj's wife. We are newly married and about to start our family with the baby inside me. We are about to rent an apartment and share our lives together when something came up and stunned us.
April 2018, we went to Sagada for a short vacation. At that time, he already has an unexplainable pain in his pelvis and shoulder area so we were not able to finish the sumaguing spelunking. We both thought that maybe he has arthritis or sprained muscle, so when we came back home he decided to have it checked.
He first went to a physical therapist, with a thought that it was just a frozen shoulder Aj had undergone several PT sessions for his back and right shoulders. The physical therapist suggested him to get an MRI for his pelvis since He cannot figure out why he has pain on it. So he did what the PT suggested.
The result came and shows that there is a lesion in his right iliac wing so the PT advised to stop the remaining sessions and referred him to a tumor specialist. To make the story short, they found a tumor in his pelvis and he need to undergo a biopsy procedure to determine whether the tumor is malignant or not.
We were stunned, asking God so many Whys.. Why him, why us, why now..Now that we are expecting a baby. Yes, a week prior to the result of the MRI, we found out that I am pregnant.
June 5, 2018, Aj was admitted for biopsy operation at De La Salle University Medical Center Dasmarinas Cavite. Histopath report shows that he has metastatic adenocarcinoma. He has cancer metastasized to his bones, lung and liver, with unknown primary at that time, so we sent the parafin block to St. Lukes Taguig to determine the primary. The result came and it is Pancreaticobiliary Cancer Stage 4.
Since then, everything has changed. We decided to bring him to Dr. Farrah in Tarlac and he tried herbal medication as what they prescribed to him. After a few weeks, the pain kept getting worst and worst. The medication cannot remove his pain in his bones. We called Dr. Farrahs hospital and one of the representatives said that we cannot combine herbal medicine with his pain medicines so we decided to stop the herbal medication since Aj cannot tolerate the pain any longer. Most of the nights he was crying because of pain.
We then decided to switch him to radiation therapy to lessen his pain and chemotherapy to kill the cancer. He's been in and out of the hospital since then. He had 10 sessions of radiation therapy. He once had an amoebiasis and was confined for more than a week. The doctor said it is because he has very low immune system already due to Chemo. He was discharged and was confined again because he has low hemoglobin level. He could not proceed with his chemo so he was advised to have a blood transfusion (B+). He was confined twice for blood transfusion for the same reason. The doctor said that this will be his routine, blood transfusion and chemotherapy. If you were to ask how we were able to afford all this, all because of his relatives' support and also because of the medical assistance we asked from the local government DSWD and PCSO, however, we cannot get another financial assistance until after a few months.
For those who know him well you can say that he only has a few friends but very true ones. A very private person. He even laughs at his own mistakes. A very thoughtful brother to his siblings. A very respectful son to his mother. He is the only one who showed me the respect that I didnt know I deserve. Even at his situation now, he still thinks of me and our baby. One moment he said that maybe if he has no cancer he is the one that's taking care of me, he is the one that's coming with me for my check ups. He said that despite all the pain that he is experiencing now, he will still fight for his life.. for us, his family.
For a few months, we tried to keep this fight within our family and closest friends for we thought we could handle this alone but we were wrong. At this very moment, our family is already struggling. We are now knocking in your kind hearts and souls to give whatever support that is needed for my husband. We are in deep need for encouragments, prayers and financial support, especially now that we cannot afford his medications and chemo sessions anymore. I am not good with words especially at narrating, but I know that at this moment you are reading this, God has already prepared your heart to help.
Please help us by donating and any amount is much appreciated. Also, please pray for my husband's healing for I still want to share the rest of my life with him.. And i know he wants to take care of me and our son too.