This all started back in July 2016. After coming home one night, I found my mum at home in a sling, with her face bruised from her eye down to her chin, chips missing from her teeth and concussed. When I had asked her what had happened, she had told me that she had tripped up the stairs on the entry to the front of our apartment block. From what she was explaining to me, I could tell that she could not truely remember what had happened, baring in mind my dad was around making sure she didn't tell me what had actually happened. A day later she started regaining her memory and realised that my dad had punched her in the head, knocking her unconscious to the ground and breaking the ball of her shoulder and her collar bone. This is when she made the move to secure the footage of of the security camera out the front of our apartment block.
This is when I took her straight to the police to report what had happened. We had been living with domestic violence all our lives but this incident hit the hardest and the reality sank in that I may lose my mum one day from the damage that my dad could cause. My mum gave her statement and supplied the footage to the police clearly showing the aggression and force that was used which cause the damage my mum would have to live for the rest of her life.
My mum has had two surgeries, physiotherapy and counselling which have been a cost of more than $50,000. The first surgery was to place a screw and plate in the ball of her shoulder to hold it all together so the healing process could start. During this surgery the doctor also tried to sew her ligaments back together which were damaged during her assault. After this first surgery, my mum had to wear a sling which completely limited the movement in her shoulder so she could start healing. During this time we had to arrange for nurses to come to out to our home who could help her bathe and tend to the wound from her surgery. Once this phase was over, the real battle started it become clearer.
During this time, my father prepared himself to try and remove my mother from our family home. After the assault occurred, he was held in custody for one night then released from the police station. Soon after, he cleared my mum accounts of all money that she worked hard for all her life and tried to cripple her financially, rendering her unable to pay for medical bills and related costs of the incident, trying to debilitate her from getting back on her feet.
(I know this isn't about me but) I tried to hold it all together for a few months after the initial incident occurred, consoling my mum and trying to make ends meet so the only thing that she had to worry about was focussing on herself and her recovery process. But I fell apart also - the world that I knew crumbled at my feet over the span of a few days. My family fell apart and it felt like we were alone to try and pick up the pieces. Seeing the emotional trauma, so raw, got to me in the end, as I was trying to push it all aside to show my mum that we had a path we could take to move on with our lives.
After the initial recovery stage of her first operation, the specialist told her that he thought she would only get 40% use of her arm back. This was devastating. We then organised the money for my mum to head into the operating theatre for the second time so the doctor to go back in to remove the screw, and loosen up the ligaments which had calcified due to the trauma. After this, months of physiotherapy ensued to the point that she not seen any improvement, the doctor said that there was not point in having further sessions of therapy as she had 'plateaued.'
During this time, my dad had lawyered up, syphoned my mum's money to prepare him for battle and to use for his leisure expenses. We have found out that my dad has gone on multiple trips overseas while leaving my mum and I fighting debt collectors from taking our home and taking our lives. During all of this, he had filed for divorce and was pushing the bank to foreclose on our home so he could see us out in the street while he has the means to do what he pleases. What we have discovered - over the years he had been ripping my mum off from the money that she brought to family from her hard work and has a lump of funds that he will be able to use when the divorce is over as he has stashed it away overseas. Going bankrupt will not effect him as he has his back up plan which it seems that he has been planning for some time now.
This has been therapeutic in a way to tell our story, although there is much more that will be detailed on this page as the information that I am sharing with you is only the tip of the iceberg.
Until next time, I will try and detail what it has been like these past 15 months of trying to fight for the lives that we have built.. as someone that we used to call a parent, a husband and a confidant.. has done what I could not imagine to do to my worst enemy.