BMK WEDDING

I MET MY FIANCE WHEN I JOIN COLLEGE. HE IS AN AFRICAN INDIAN AND I AM A CHINESE. WE KNOW BOTH OF OUR PARENTS ARE NOT GOING TO AGREE WE GET MARRIED OR EVEN BECOMING A COUPLE. WE WERE BOTH HIDING OUR RELATIONSHIP FROM THEM FOR 7 YEARS. IN BETWEEN I DROPPED OUT COLLEGE DUE TO MY FATHER'S FINANCIAL DIFFICULTIES AND HE LOST ALMOST ALL HIS CUSTOMERS. I WORK, 30% OF MY SALARY USE IT FOR RENTAL JUST SO THAT I CAN CONTINUE STAYING WITH MY FIANCE (BOYFRIEND AT THAT TIME). HIS FAMILY ALSO NOT RICH, BUT HIS PARENTS ALWAYS PUT EDUCATION IN THEIR FIRST PRIORITY, SO THEY SENT HIM TO MY COUNTRY TO STUDY. EVERY MONTH HE BARELY CAN GET ALLOWANCE FOR RENTAL, SOMETIMES DON'T EVEN GET ALLOWANCE FOR FOOD. WITH MY REMAINING OF 70% SALARY, SOMETIMES PAY FOR HIS SHARE OF RENT, ALSO FOODS, HOUSE UTILITIES AND EXPENSES. WE SUPPORT EACH OTHER EVEN THOUGH IS HARD, BUT WE ARE HAPPY. AFTER 7 YEARS, HE DECIDED TO GO BACK TO HIS COUNTRY FOR GOOD, ONE IS BECAUSE OF HE IS TIRED OF THIS COUNTRY BECAUSE HE CAN'T GET ANY VEGETARIAN FOOD, HE USED TO STAY HUNGRY FOR A DAY OR 2 WITHOUT EATING PROPER MEAL, JUST SNACKS. ANOTHER REASON IS BECAUSE OF HE GOT SICK. I THOUGHT THIS IS THE END, AS WE HAVE A DEAL, SINCE OUR PARENTS ARE NOT GONNA ACCEPT IT, ONCE HE FINISHED STUDY WE WILL JUST BREAK UP FROM HERE. MAYBE GOD SEES US HAVE FAITH, HIS MOTHER CAME TO VISIT A MONTH BEFORE HE LEAVE AND HE TOOK THIS OPPORTUNITY TO TELL HIS MOTHER ABOUT ME AND SURPRISINGLY HIS MOTHER AGREED. THEN THE MOTHER TOLD THE FATHER AND THE FATHER SUGGEST US TO GET MARRIED SOON. THIS IS ALL HAPPENING SO FAST. AFTER I GOT TO KNOW THAT ALL HIS FAMILY MEMBERS AGREED THIS RELATIONSHIP, I ALSO TOOK THE OPPORTUNITY TO TELL MY PARENTS, AT FIRST THEY WERE NOT HAPPY, BUT SLOWLY THEY ACCEPT IT. AND NOW WE ARE IN A STAGE THAT WE ARE PLANNING FOR OUR WEDDING. BASED ON INDIAN CUSTOMS, THE GROOM NEED TO GO TO THE BRIDE'S HOUSE TO BRING HER HOME. NOW NEITHER OF OUR FAMILY ARE RICH ENOUGH TO DO A PROPER NICE WEDDING. WITH ALL THE INFLATION, TAXES, EVERYTHING IS SO EXPENSIVE HERE. MY PARENTS ARE HOPING AT LEAST I CAN HAVE A NICE, ELEGANT WEDDING BEFORE I LEAVE MY COUNTRY AND EVERYONE HERE AS I WILL BE MIGRATING TO MY FIANCE'S COUNTRY. AND OF COURSE THIS IS EVERY WOMEN'S DREAM TO HAVE A NICE PROPER WEDDING ONCE IN THEIR LIFETIME. THEN I THOUGHT OF CROWD FUNDING, WAS THINKING WHY NOT GIVE IT A TRY? OF COURSE THIS IS NOT MUCH HOPE BECAUSE COME ON, WHY WOULD ANYONE WANT TO THROW MONEY TO SOMEONE ELSE'S WEDDING? MAYBE ONLY THOSE WHO BELIEVE IN US MIGHT DO, OR THOSE WHO CAN IMAGINE WHAT WE'VE BEEN THROUGH MIGHT DONATE SOME. BUT I DO HOPE THAT I CAN GET THE SUPPORT FROM YOU ALL AND HAVE MY DREAM WEDDING BEFORE I LEAVE THIS COUNTRY. THANK YOU.