Just an update, I realized the amount I first thought she needed was too high so I lowered it. My brothers wife's sister Wendy is getting an urn and his picture will be on it. Thank you Wendy! Yesterday Lynne couldn't get out of bed, she missed her Donny so much. Then a beautiful bouquet of white flowers arrived from his sisters and niece and got her right out of bed. My heart is broken for her.