Apparently mental illness could have an impact on your life at any time. It slammed into ours last October and since then I've been trying to deal with it as best I can pretty much alone.
Back then my wife would travel with me to see and talk to the Doctor and was prescribed antidepressants and anxiety pills and told she would be fine. She also saw two Psychiatrists one of which, after a long house call, prescribed the same expensive medication.
We can't sell the house to raise money
because my wife won't leave the house.
For months now, my wife has refused to go out of the house, she won't go further than the gate. My wife won't even come for a walk up the street. I've tried, friends have tried, even her boss tried but with no success. I keep trying though.
Unfortunately, as is so often the case in modern society these days, my wife's job was our main source of income after work for me dried up some time ago, so her inability to function due to this horribly debilitating depression is having a devastating impact on our finances, especially the mortgage payments.
I'm doing the best I can but I'm at my
wit's end trying to figure
out what to do, I'm trying to help but it's the same situation
over and over; I can't get well paid work, (the way I feel at
the moment, I couldn't concentrate anyway) we can't sell the
house because my wife won't leave the house, we have no parents
from which we can seek advice, emotional or financial help.
People can only offer help or advise up to the point when the
situation becomes insuperable. Then the phone stops ringing and
nobody comes round anymore.
Maybe I should have paid more attention. My wife,
it has to be said, has never really had a natural propensity for
showing her true feelings. She used to laugh, go out shopping with friends, have a night out. Maybe she
couldn’t tell me she was suffering or how bad she felt, and the
longer it went on the harder it got. She won't talk about it
even now, when I woke her today and asked her to get up,
she said 'What's the point'. I couldn't find an answer. I truly hope that
I wouldn't usually ask for help like this but I don't know where else to turn. We would really appreciate your help,