James and I will be joining our families together as one on June 16th, 2013. Neither of us thought we'd ever be to this point in our lives again, and then we found each other. Our wedding will be an end to one part of our lives and the beginning of our happily ever after. I can't speak for James, but I can say that when I found him, my life improved 100%. He has helped me to provide a better life for me and for both of my girls. I have also gained a son who I have grown to love with all my heart.
The last few years have not been easy on the girls or me. We have struggled through my cervical cancer and my stroke. We have been forced to move 9 times and there has never been any real stability in any of our lives. Even working full time and 2 jobs at times, we have struggled to make ends meet.
Then James came along. There was an instant attraction. We knew from the beginning that we had something very special. I have never met a man who is as helpful as he has been. He amazes me at times with the things he does for me and the girls. He has been extremely understanding as far as my health problems go and he leaves me no doubt that he will always be there for me, no matter what my health might be in the future, even making it known that Josselynn, my youngest, will be taken care of even if something does happen to me. He's a very hard worker and he is helping me get my finances back on track.
That brings me to the wedding. We are letting Caidence, Josselynn and Xander, our 3 children plan the wedding. We want them to be as involved as possible in every aspect. The only problem is, they have bigger plans than we can afford. I work full time as a Graphic Desinger and he works full time in a factory and is going to school full time to get a degree in mathmatics education (calculus) and managing to keep a 4.0. Between paying regular bills, existing medical bills, covering his school expenses and giving our children a good life, it doesn't leave much left for us to save. We could really use all the financial support that we can get to pay for our wedding to make it exactly what the kids want it to be.
A little background on us as a couple. We always have kids. Not just ours, but everyone's. At any given time our house has 2 to 4 extra kids besides our own. He works night and I work days. We are lucky enough to get help from the kids grandparents so that we don't have much in the way of child care expenses. He works 6 to 7 days a week and I work 5. We get to see each other about an hour or so a day, but we both know we are working towards our future and giving our kids a better life, so it's worth it. I like to think we are good parents, even if we are a bit strict at times. For example, this Christmas we only bought our children gifts that would allow them to get exercise or teach them somthing. We keep them on a strict bedtime for the most part, our outings with them are always a museum or something of that nature, we cook healthy meals and eat as a family every chance we get. We do not allow them to have junk (I'm a diabetic) so we don't keep sweets or junk in the house. Our lives revolve around the kids. One night a month though we do take time out for one another. We usually go eat and then come home and share our favorite youtube videos with one another. We are really quite simple and we are happy being that way.
The only thing we have to offer for anyone who helps us out with our goal is free graphic design work, or advertisement at our wedding. We will tastefully add your logo or ad into our wedding from the invitations to the centerpieces. The money we raise will be spent entirely on the wedding and reception. If you do not need advertisement, I will be more than happy to design anything that you might need from invitrations for your own event to business cards or a logo for your business. I have currently been designing for 11 years and have been in my current position for 4. And I am sure that James would be willing to help with any type of math tutoring when he is able and has some free time.
Sorry if this seems crazy, as I am writing this I am taking care of all 3 of the kids and I keep stopping to do something for them and then get started again.
Thank you for taking the time to read this,
Tonya, James, Caidence, Xander and Josselynn