On 10/12/18 I lost custody of my son in my divorce. The reason for that was my decision to move to the Netherlands to provide a better/safer childhood experience. Prior to that, when I asked my husband for a divorce (2/1/18) he absconded with our son, cleaned out the bank account, and left me homeless. Since the birth of our son (2/23/16) I was a stay at home mom and his primary care-giver. My husband actively denied all access to our son, withheld information concerning his whereabouts and well being for four months. From roughly 6/18 to 8/18 my husband was in a homeless shelter with our son. Working pro-se I filed for temporary custody and dissolution, my temporary request was denied. I requested an informal trial, completed the required parenting classes and followed all orders from the judge.
I was not aware that my husband had retained the services of an attorney until the morning of our scheduled dissolution of marriage. If you are wondering what an “Informal Trial” is, it is for simple divorce cases that do not involve attorneys. It allows both Petitioner and Respondent to present evidence and arguments to the presiding judge without legal representation. Although I was well prepared with evidence, statistics, and logic, his attorney did her job well and I lost my little boy. My ex-husband was awarded full custody and child support in the amount of $456 a month. At the time I was employed as a server making no more than $2600 a month my husband was making $6650 a month in the tech industry. This gross injustice only furthered my dissatisfaction, sadness, and disappointment in the American legal system.
Since I lost everything, including my faith in America, on 10/31/18 I followed through with my relocation to the Netherlands where I am approximately two-thirds of the way through the IND`s temporary residency process.
I need to regain custody of my son; however, my goal isn't separation from father and son, but rather an equal and balancing exposure of both parental figures. A large and important part of my preparation for dissolution was the individually tailored International Parenting time plan . It was designed regarding psychological and physical facilitation of international custody. My ex-husband does not facilitate contact between me and our son and frequently ignores me altogether. I have no access to any of our son's care-takers and am very much cut out of his life. At one point my ex-husband was exposing our son to questionable people by allowing them to reside at his residence.
To reconcile this gross injustice, I need a large amount of funds to retain the services of an attorney as it has been proven that without legal representation, I am nothing in the eyes of the law. I need some serious legal help, not advice, HELP. Thank you for taking the time to hear a little bit of my story.