Dear friends and family,
We are writing this letter to share some very exciting news with you and to ask for your help. Vince, Logan and I are what we call “cautiously excited” for the arrival of a baby girl, due February 6, 2014 who will hopefully be joining our family … forever! We’d like to share how we got to this state of “expecting through adoption”. We have also posted our full adoption story online at www.gogetfunding.com (just type, Bowman Family Adoption, in the search area) and also on our Facebook page, which is also Bowman Family Adoption.
For the past 6 years we have wanted to grow our family Approximately 3 years ago, after many months of unsuccessful fertility treatments and a devastating miscarriage, we felt that God was calling us to adoption. We decided to become foster parents in hopes of adopting. We were blessed with our first foster son, an adorable little boy named Adrian. We had wondered if we could love an adopted child as much as we love Logan and after having Adrian, we knew we could! We loved him very much, and still do, He is now home with his mom and dad, and luckily they let us continue to still be a part of his life. We have since had 6 other foster children in our home for various amounts of time. We love them all. We miss them all! We continued to pray for a child that could stay with us and become part of our family.
Patiently we waited, but the roller coaster of emotions that comes with fostering began taking its toll and we felt as if every door was closing in front of us. We finally made a difficult decision to surrender our foster care license, believing it was only “Our” desire (to have another child) and not God’s. About 3 months ago, sitting in a small bible study with two other women, I (Amanda) told them that Vince and I had made a decision to stop knocking down doors and that if God wanted us to have a baby, that He was going to have to drop one on our doorstep! He literally did just that!! Three days later I received a phone call from a relative who had a cousin that was pregnant, already had a young child, and just could not keep this baby. She wanted to place it for adoption. They immediately thought of Vince and I and our desire to adopt. The young lady wanted to meet us the next day. I talked with her for a little bit and left feeling a mix of emotions, but mostly my thought was …this is just too good to be true. This does not “just happen” to people! Then, I remembered my prayer (or rather my request) for God to put a baby on our doorstep. I realized, through HIM, all things are possible!
The following (Tuesday) we met with our adoption attorney, her, and the baby’s father. We talked about the adoption plan, and gathered the necessary information that the attorney needed to begin the legal process. Since then, I have spent some time with her (birth mom) over the past couple months. We’ve gotten to know each other better and have a sense of how all of this will work. I attended the ultrasound last month and it was revealed that we will be bringing home a baby girl! So now we just wait and continue to prepare for the arrival of this precious baby. It is exciting, scary and everything in between. However, we will continue to keep our eyes on the Lord and trust in his plan and provision!
The adoption will cost us approximately $14,000. Yes, that is a lot of money (and yet far less than most domestic adoptions).
So now comes the part of this whole process that we like the least, and that is asking for financial help. God has laid on our hearts to trust in His provision. We are humbled by the generosity of others and we will give all the glory and praise to God for it. We know and trust that all the money in the world belongs to God and when he directs it toward our adoption we will use the money to bring this baby girl into our family with gratitude.
So we humbly ask for your help. First, and foremost we ask for your prayers. Prayer for the health and safe delivery of the baby. Prayer for our family as we navigate through the many interviews, classes, paperwork, and emotions. Prayer for the birthmother, as she faces her own journey. She is one the most loving and selfless people I have ever met. We can never express our gratitude to her for the priceless gift she is planning to give us!
Second, is for financial assistance. We still need to raise $8,000 by December 31, 2013. We have an online fundraising site at www.gogetfunding.com (in the upper right search bar, type: Bowman Family Adoption once found click on our photo). We also have an Adoption Fund Account set up at Horizon Bank. Checks can be mailed to Vince & Amanda Bowman, 205 Farmwood Drive, La Porte, IN 46350. 100% of all funds collected will be deposited towards the adoption.
Third, if you have any ideas or talents that would help us in creating some fundraising opportunities please let us know! We are always open to new ideas for fundraising.
Lastly, please SHARE our online pages and our story with all those that you know! Our network of family & friends is limited, and we don’t want to limit those whom God may choose to help meet this need. We are truly finding the meaning of “it takes a village”!
Please continue to follow our progress through our online pages, and feel free to ask us any questions that you might have.
Stepping forward in faith, the journey begins…. Thank you for coming along on the ride with us!
Vince, Amanda, & Logan Bowman
Initial attorney fees (within 10 days of first meeting) $2980.00 Home study (paid within first month ) $2500.00 Counseling for the birth mother $2500.00 Attorney fees (due at birth) $4000.00 Any additional travel, misc. $1000.00 Est. Total $12,980.00
Most of you know us and you know what our life has looked like for the past 9 years and many of you longer than that. I’m going to start with a brief overview of life starting about 9 years ago. In the spring of 2004 Vince and I found out that we were expecting a baby. We were very surprised and scared and not sure how this was going to be accepted since we were not married a...t the time. I was always told that I (Amanda) would have a hard time getting pregnant, if I could even get pregnant at all. In October of that year Vince and I were married and very soon after and almost 2 months early, Logan made his debut! If you know Logan that is why I say his Debut! He has been one of the greatest gifts God has given us! Logan is the most amazing miracle and amazing son. We could not even begin to imagine what life would look like without him. Logan was born very early and very tiny and had lots of prayers and support and today is a strong healthy almost 9 year old. Logan’s rocky start also lead to some rocky roads for our young marriage and through the hard times Vince and I learned to be a better support for eachother and the value of true partnership and companionship. Now we jump ahead about 6 years. Vince and I had been ready to grow our family during those 6 years but with no baby in sight we decided to try fertility treatments. After about a year of feeling like a crazy mess and taking all kinds of pills and other crazy things to try to get pregnant, we finally got to Positive on the pregnancy test. We were so excited! After about 10 weeks and great ultrasounds, we felt we could paint the nursery and start getting a little more excited. We got everything painted and started just putting old things of Logan’s in the room to get them out of storage and just see what all we had, after so many years it was fun to dig it all back out! On April 19th 2010, we lost our baby to miscarriage at 12 weeks. I was devastated, angry, confused, and just sad! I never knew it then but that heartbreaking loss was also the cause of so many blessing that I can now see. Shortly after the miscarriage life went on and Vince went on… being a man and not understanding the loss I was feeling and me not knowing how to communicate, I shut him out. We went through a really rough patch that brought us to some Christian councilors that helped change our marriage and our lives forever. Vince and I began to put God in the center of our marriage instead of just using him as something we went to when things were hard or we needed help. Vince and I learned the value of marriage and the value of family After a long road of working on healing. Vince fell in love all over again but this time in a much different way. The second blessing that came out of the miscarriage was how God used my grief and my feelings of injustice to make some huge changes at the Local hospital. The Hospital had no procedure for dealing with miscarriages before 20 weeks. I felt those babies are just as loved and wanted by some women at 13 weeks as they are at 21 weeks and they should all have a choice in how they want to grieve that loss. I feel honored that the loss of our baby lead me to be hands and feet for the Lord by making procedures for women going through that kind of a loss . Vince, Logan and I spent the next couple years enjoying life and eachother. We sold our starter home and bought our current house (that we love and plan to stay in for many many years!) During that time we also decided we still wanted to grow our family and felt that God was calling us to adoption. We decided to become foster parents in hopes that we could adopt through that. We were blessed with our first foster son, an adorable little boy named Adrian. I always wondered if I would love an adopted child as much as I love Logan and after having Adrian I knew I could! I loved him and still do very much. He is home with his mom and dad now and luckily they let us continue to still be a part of his life. We have since had 3 other foster children in our home for various amounts of time. We love them all. We miss them all! We prayed and prayed for a baby that could stay with us as a part of our family. Patiently waiting and feeling like every door was closing in front of us, we finally decided that we were ready to give up on what we were starting to feel was only “Our” desire not God’s to have another child. Just about 2 weeks ago sitting in a small bible study with two other women I told them that Vince and I had made the decision to stop knocking down doors and that if God wanted us to have a baby he was going to have to drop one on our doorstep. That leads us to where we are now. This past Friday evening August 2nd , I received a phone call from my sister-in-law and her sister telling me that they had a cousin that was pregnant and already had a young child and could not keep the new baby. She wanted to give it up for adoption. They immediately thought of Vince and I and our desire to adopt. Since they both have known me for about 20 something years they were able to tell her what kind of a family we had and they knew our hearts and our desire to adopt! The young lady wanted to meet us the next day.( I am a date person and I thought this was pretty cool of God as well.) We met on August 3rd which was also the day that one year ago to the day we moved into our new house and also had to say a heartbreaking goodbye to Adrian our first foster son that we had for 10 months. I talked to the young lady for a little bit and left feeling a mix of emotions but mostly my thought was …this is just too good to be true. This does not just happen to people. As I remembered my prayer or rather my request from God to put a baby on my doorstep, I realized through HIM all things are possible. I asked for a couple days to talk to Vince and pray about it and really to just let the reality of it set in. Vince and I went on a walk the next morning and talked about this over our favorite thing… Coffee! We both looked at eachother and thought this is funny we are even debating this. If God placed this in our laps do we really have way to say no? The only thing that was holding us back was of course the fear or being hurt in the end. Which still could happen and we are very realistic about that being a possibility as much as we don’t want it to be. Yesterday (Tuesday) we met with our adoption attorney who flew in from Indianapolis to meet us, her, and also the baby’s father at the Gary Jet Center. We talked about the adoption and what kinds of things she would like and not like as well as just getting all the basic information that the attorney needed to start his side of things. I am going to spend some time with her this weekend as well so we can get to know eachother more and get a better feeling for how she wants all of this to work. So outside of coming up with the funds to make this happen we just wait. We will be a part of as much as she wants us to be along the way. I am trying to be very careful not to be too pushy or come on too strong. I just want to be able to love her, the way God wants me to. He knows what she needs and I hope I can just be whatever I’m supposed to be for her. Speaking of “her” I do not want to share her name to keep her protected and honor her privacy but I want to quickly express my feeling for this young lady that is still somewhat a stranger to me. She is a beautiful young lady that has a adorable little boy. She is brave, selfless, funny, and so incredibly strong! I have always admired women who can love their child enough to give them up to someone else who can love and provide for them. To me she is one the most loving and selfless people I have met. I will continue to pray daily for her and I hope that she will get to know us enough to trust us completely with this priceless gift she is planning to give us! So stepping forward in faith, the journey begins…. Thanks for coming along on the ride with us!