Starting from scratch

Starting again from scratch.

I am doing this on behalf of my wife, she doesn’t know I am doing this.

Her life has always been a struggle, with many hurdles she has had to jump through. She decided to move to New Zealand after divorcing her husband.

Her Ex-husband was not the most pleasant of people, threatening her on a regular basis. Emotional abuse and passive aggressive tactics and at one point holding a gun to her head and threatening her.

At the time she was thinking of committing suicide and couldn’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. Her ex-husband always following and watching her 24/7 and controlling every aspect of her life.

She lived a very cold life with no warmth from her family and ex-husband, and when she gave birth to her daughter there was no support from her ex-husband. He was never at home and often spent long hours at work, sometimes not coming home.

Most of the time she was on her own struggling and looking after her daughter.

Her ex-husband ignored his family and his responsibilities. His career, his job being his only goal. When he did come home he would not talk to his family and if he did it was nothing but threats.

Her ex-husband went to a lawyer and she ended up with very little and actually paying him money. With no financial support from him for their daughter.

When she moved to New Zealand she had to start from scratch, no house, no job and language was a problem. With what money she had she tried to start again.

But she battled through, her language improved but still trying to make ends meet. She works part time and cares for her family the best she can, giving 110% with everything she does. She always has a smile and time for others. She always has time to help others, she has a very soft heart.

She has almost finished a course even though she has found it hard as her first language is not English. She works hard.

I work a normal job with average pay and just manage to cover day to day living, our heads just above water. My heart breaks a little knowing I am doing my best but still feel like we are treading water and not moving forward. If something big was to happen the worry of not being able to cover it. Heavy shoulders.

We both burn the midnight oil trying to build a future together, trying to make sure we are all okay. Especially supporting her daughter.

We both have debt from previous relationships which we are slowly paying off, once the debts are gone we are hoping we will have a comfortable life.

We are both hard working people just trying to lead a normal life, but we feel we have exhausted many of our options. We are both very tired, just looking for that light at the end of the tunnel.

I appreciate you reading through this, thank you for taking the time.