Solidarnost za Diega! / Solidarity for Diego!

Fundraising campaign by Diego Ahmetovic
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[English below]

Pozdrav svima,

moje ime je Diego, imam 38 godina i transrodni sam muškarac romske nacionalne manjine iz Hrvatske. Otkad znam za sebe, i dok nisam sasvim razumio što sve to znači, na svojoj koži osjećam kako je biti siromašan, biti Rom, i biti transmaskulina osoba.

Iako sam rođen u Hrvatskoj, do svoje 21. godine uglavnom sam živio u Italiji, kamo smo odselili u potrazi za boljim životom. S roditeljima sam se više puta selio. U Peskari sam prekinuo zadnji razred osnovne škole jer sam se morao brinuti za majku kada se prvi put teško razboljela. Nisam se uspio vratiti u školu, nego sam pomagao majci u prodaji njezinih rukotvorina, razvozeći je po okolnim selima. Kada se majčino zdravstveno stanje pogoršalo, preselili smo natrag u Hrvatsku jer smo kao hrvatski državljani za nju mogli dobiti bolju zdravstvenu skrb. Međutim, njezino se zdravstveno stanje nastavilo pogoršavati. Kada nas je moj otac napustio, moja majka, koja je posljednjih godina života bila stopostotni invalid, i ja ostali smo sami.

Skupljao sam sekundarne sirovine i radio svakojake poslove kako bismo preživjeli, kontinuirano se boreći s diskriminatornom okolinom i institucijama, zatvorenim vratima, odbijenicama i nemogućnošću da išta u svom životu dovedem na podnošljivu mjeru, iznad pukog preživljavanja. Zbog toga sam više puta gubio nadu i zapadao u depresiju, ali se i izvlačio iz nje uz pomoć nekolicine dobrih ljudi i prijatelja koji su se našli uz mene kada sam bio na dnu. Kada sam bio primoran, odlazio sam i prositi. Policija bi me tjerala, govoreći mi da je to što radim otimačina. Sačuvao sam nekoliko policijskih prijava na kojima su bili navedeni iznosi od 15, 20 kuna i nešto hrane, što bi mi potom bilo oduzeto. Nitko ne prosi iz komocije ili lijenosti, vjerujte mi.

Dio mene pita se imam li uopće pravo tražiti pomoć u ovakvim vremenima, kada ima mnogo siromašnih i kada ima toliko transrodnih osoba koje nemaju podršku obitelji. Međutim, osjećam kao da sam potrošio sve džokere i da više nemam što za izgubiti, a možda mogu dobiti priliku za drugačiji život.

Osjećam da trebam poduzeti još nekoliko stvari po pitanju svoje tranzicije, uz hormonsku terapiju s kojom sam krenuo prije godinu i pet mjeseci. Moje se zdravlje pogoršalo jer zbog pandemije više ne uspijevam raditi ni poslove koje sam dosad radio pa si nisam mogao priuštiti redovno uzimati testosteron. To mi je donijelo povišeni krvni tlak i mnoge druge zdravstvene tegobe. Kako bih prikrio grudi, već godinama nosim steznik. Zbog neudobnih steznika, dodatne topline koju mi stvaraju i zbog otkrivajuće odjeće, ljeto mi je postalo najdepresivnije godišnje doba, a gornja operacija pružila bi mi slobodu koja mi je u suprotnom nezamisliva.

Borim se dobiti sve potvrde i papire koji su mi potrebni kako bih promijenio oznaku spola u dokumentima jer sada kada tražim posao ili moram u bolnicu, prvo moram uvjeriti osoblje i zapošljavatelja da nisam ukrao nečije dokumente. Želim upisati i završiti osnovnu i srednju školu i položiti vozački ispit u Hrvatskoj jer bi proces verifikacije sedam razreda osnovne škole i vozačke dozvole (koje sam stekao u Italiji), trajao i koštao gotovo jednako. S položenim vozačkim ispitom pokušao bih se zaposliti kao taksist. Međutim, ne uspijevam se baviti time što bi mi dugoročno pomoglo, jer iz dana u dan pokušavam držati glavu iznad vode.

Glavni je problem što bez svega toga ne uspijevam dobiti nijedan posao, a već godinu i pol, od majčine smrti, uglavnom spavam kod koga stignem. Sve što želim je biti neovisan i slobodan, koristan sebi i drugima. Dobiti nove dokumente, najesen upisati i dovršiti školu, obaviti operaciju te se zaposliti – zaraditi za vlastiti kruh i krov nad glavom, i moći to učiniti dostojanstveno, kao Diego.

Jednoga bih dana volio sa svojom najboljom prijateljicom Sabrinom osnovati udrugu ili zadrugu i pomagati ljudima poput sebe, možda otvoriti mali restoran s tradicionalnom romskom kuhinjom. Obožavam kuhati. Bina mu je već dala ime, zvao bi se „Sve dugine boje za Rome moje“. Možda je malo predugo, ali meni se sviđa.

Spreman sam na novi početak, ali kako bih stao na vlastite noge treba mi vaša podrška i novčana pomoć da u idućih nekoliko mjeseci imam za podmiriti stanarinu i režije, kupiti nešto hrane i hormonsku terapiju, položiti vozački i platiti operaciju. Zahvalan sam za svaku kunu kojom mi možete pomoći da izađem iz začaranog kruga i vratim se u život, a sav novac koji skupim povrh zadanog cilja preusmjerit ću idućoj transrodnoj osobi koja se nalazi u sličnoj situaciji.


Hello everyone,

My name is Diego, I’m 38 years old and I’m a transgender Roma man from Croatia. For as long as I can remember, and even before I could fully understand what it all meant, I’ve known from personal experience what it’s like to be poor, to be Roma and to be transmasculine.

Although I was born in Croatia, until I was 21 I mostly lived in Italy, where we’d moved in search of a better life. My parents and I moved several times. When we were in Pescara, I had to drop out of primary school in my final year because I had to take care of my mother when she first became seriously ill. I was unable to return to school, and instead helped my mother sell her handicrafts in the surrounding villages. When my mother’s health deteriorated, we moved back to Croatia, since we could get better healthcare for her as Croatian citizens. However, her condition continued to worsen. When my father left us, my mother, who was 100% disabled in her final years, and I had to fend for ourselves.

In order for us to survive, I collected secondary raw materials and did all sorts of odd jobs, continually struggling against a discriminatory environment and institutions, closed doors, rejections, and the impossibility of having anything in my life reach a tolerable level, beyond mere survival. All of it made me lose hope and fall into depression any number of times, but I always managed to bounce back with the help of a handful of good people and friends who’d lend a helping hand whenever I was at the bottom. I’d even go and beg for money and food when I had no other choice. The police would drive me away, telling me that what I was doing was extortion. I’ve kept several of the police reports, listing as little as €2 or 3 and some food, all of which were confiscated from me in the process. No-one begs out of convenience or laziness, believe me.

Part of me wonders if I even have the right to ask for help in times like these, when poverty is on the rise and so many transgender people are denied the support of their own families. However, it feels like I’m out of options and have nothing left to lose, but perhaps I could get a chance at a better life.

There are still a few things I feel I need to do in terms of my transition, in addition to having started hormone therapy a year and five months ago. The pandemic has taken a toll on my health, since I’ve been unable to take up the jobs I normally would and so I couldn’t afford to take testosterone regularly. This has resulted in my now having high blood pressure and many other issues. In order to flatten my chest, I've been wearing binders for years. The discomfort of a tight binder, additional heat and more revealing clothes in the summertime have turned summer into the most depressing season for me, and top surgery would allow me a degree of freedom I couldn’t begin to imagine otherwise.

I’ve been struggling to collect all the medical evidence and other papers I need in order to change my gender marker, especially since now when I look for a job or have to go to the hospital, I first have to convince people that I didn’t steal someone else’s documents. I want to finish primary and high school and pass the driving test in Croatia because the process of verifying the seven grades of primary school and driving licence which I obtained in Italy would take almost as long and cost nearly as much. A driving licence would allow me to look for work as a cab driver. However, there’s no room for me to deal with the things that could help me in the long run, as I’m simply trying to keep my head above water day in, day out.

The main issue is that, due to all of this, I’ve been unable to find a job and, ever since my mother died a year and a half ago, I’ve mostly been staying with different friends. All I want is to be independent and free, useful to myself and others. Get new documents, finish school, have top surgery and get a job – earn my bread and keep a roof over my head with dignity, as myself, as Diego.

I’d love to form an association or cooperative with my best friend Sabrina one day, and help people like myself, maybe open a small restaurant with traditional Roma cuisine. I love to cook. Bina’s already named it, All the Colours of the Rainbow for My Roma People. Perhaps a bit long, but I like it.

I’m ready for a fresh start, but in order to stand on my own two feet, I need your support and financial help over the next few months, so that I can pay my rent and utilities, buy some food, cover the cost of my hormone therapy and driving licence, and have my top surgery. I am grateful for every little bit you can spare to help me get out of this vicious circle and back to life, and if the goal is surpassed, I’ll pass the extra funds on to the next transgender person in a similar situation.

Fundraising Team

  • Diego Ahmetovic
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  • Campaign owner
  • Vanja C
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  • Campaign manager

Donors

€20.00
  • Anonymous
  • Donated on Apr 09, 2022
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  • Lusinga Borges
  • Donated on Apr 09, 2022
€10.00
Mar 24

Novosti

Update posted by Diego Ahmetovic at 06:03 pm

Pozdrav svima, od srca želim svima zahvaliti na podršci, kako financijskoj, tako i emotivnoj. Hvala vam na solidarnosti, spasila mi je život proteklih mjeseci. Dosad uplaćen novac pomogao mi je da stanem na noge i da se pokrenem. Nakon duge borbe kroz institucije, konačno sam sproveo promjenu oznake spola u. . . . .

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May 11

Hvala

Update posted by Diego Ahmetovic at 10:36 am

Dragi ljudi,hvala vam na solidarnosti i dobroj volji, pomoću vas sam se uspio vratiti na hormone, podmiriti osnovne troškove života, platiti stanarinu i konačno malo stati na noge.Dosad smo skupili 1420 eura. Beskrajno sam zahvalan na svim shareovima, i na svakoj donaciji, i nadam se da ćete ostati sa mnom. . . . .

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88 donors
€20.00
  • Anonymous
  • Donated on Apr 09, 2022
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  • Lusinga Borges
  • Donated on Apr 09, 2022
€10.00
  • Vladimir Vince
  • Donated on Mar 31, 2022
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  • Anonymous
  • Donated on Oct 26, 2021
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  • Donated on Oct 03, 2021
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