I am raising funds -in loving memory of Denis- to save this family home; something which we are at risk of losing, after having lost so much already..
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What happened to me through life, no one should experience, but it can happen - to you or any of us! I have never asked help on such a big scale, now I can not do it by myself and I am asking your help. I truly believe we Rise by Lifting others, so please give, and allow me to give back to you at the same time.
In 2017 Denis tragically died (murdered) by his BP ill mother. Denis lived with me after my sister asked if I would be willing to take care of him and his ill mother (my sister daughter). I left the house going to work and suddenly I found myself in such a tragic situation. The trauma of this loss was too much to bear. I cried, I wanted to grieve, to break down but I couldn’t. I had to stay strong for my family and show them that life was still worth living, even without Denis with us. We had other children in family, my sister was crushed, so I gave myself at the disposal, trying to live each day as it presented itself to me, desperately trying to move on whilst only wanting to immerse myself in his memories and stay static in time. Coping with this tragedy, the media and community my world had changed beyond recognition in a matter of months and had changed me inside. For a year I lived this way as in some limestone. Returning every day to the home where Denis lost his life. It was not easy at all, every room reminded me of him, our games and laughter. But over time, I made this place, a happy place where I now live with my daughter, and where Denis continues to live with us.
Denis was a lovely, always smiling, caring 2yrs old blue eyes boy. He was so loving, clever and selfless for his age that you could not but love him back in the same unconditionally way. Denis was the son I always wanted. He gave me so much love and joy that now I have to fight to keep his home and memory where they belong. And while we carry our memories in the heart and they can go everywhere with us, I have to try to save this home. This home that now we are at risk of losing has become our family home where I cherish with joy and love every moment spent with Denis.
To understand why I'm in a situation where I'm forced to seek community help, I should tell you my life story, and I'll try to explain it to you in the best way I know in a shorter format. All my life, I worked so hard. I did any kind of possible jobs to survive, to raise myself and later to raise my daughter – I have been successful professional, I fell down so many times but I raised up again and again. I'm a fighter. Through life I have always struggled alone, refusing to give up on my life optimism. I raised up responsibly my daughter and taught her to be always ready to help others. To treat everyone the same and recognize ourselves in others.
My life was not easy. I grew up with a severely ill mum –MS- and a very strange sister. Dad left us when I was 4 years old, and the man my mom met at the hospital (later came to live with us) abused my sick mom in all possible ways. It was a very hard childhood and I become ill too, but I went through with just one idea on my mind, become an adult, and run away. In 1984 at age of 16-teen my mum died and I remained with my strange sister. As soon as I was 18- I left the house with one bag and $200 in my pocket, I went to another state, enrolled in college. It was not easy at all, I did not have any money and there were a lot of days when I was hungry. But I was a fighter.
In 1985 my sister sold our flat without my knowledge and approval and I no longer had a home. Everything I've done since and worked was with the idea of becoming successful, and I did.
In 2006 because of the business partner's scams I lost the restaurant. As she has escaped to another country, this time I also inherited all the debts myself.
I do not really know why some people have to face tragedy after tragedy. The last 10 years is really difficult. Me and my daughter became financially insecure. It was not easy as a single mother to pay off debts, pay rent, up-front expenses, raise a child and take care of all her school needs. Interest on the debt has killed me. I fell into depression and lost my job. 4 years ago I touched the bottom, without work and salary, I was no longer able to financially care for my daughter or pay for our flat rent. I had to make the toughest decision in my life, to leave my daughter with grandparent (from the father's side as I do not have living parents) to continue her education. Once again without anything, I was really devastated this time. The fact that I had to leave my daughter, as I was her only constant and stable factor and my precious everything worth fight for, was beyond everything I experienced.
So in 2015, I packed my whole life in boxes and moved with only one bag. I was not in a good relationship with my sister, but I accepted a sister invitation to take care of her BP ill daughter and her grandson, little Denis. She was neither in good relationship with her. I got into that apartment that Denis inherited after the death of her grandfather, where he lived with her mother. Every month I pulled some money to renovate the apartment to make it better for us. For me this was another new beginning and a chance to bring my daughter back. I found a new job, and it seemed like I would, with a lot of effort and time, stand up to my feet again. Eventually I will be able to make a full recovery and have this time an extended family. You would think all would get back on track. But not in my world. Unbelievably, I had more tragedy to endure. In 2017 Denis tragically died.
I continue to financially care for and for the flat in exchange for housing. It was an agreement, a monthly flat loan that I paid my sister instead to a bank. Now my sister has to sell this flat because of her mortgage loan agreement and I am again in the position of losing our family home. I have suggested to my sister an increase in monthly loan for twice, as much it will be financially hard for me. But she refused my offer as the bank reneged on her agreement declining to implement the second part of the modification for technicalities that are downright absurd if not malicious and are threatening foreclosure, if the full amount will not be paid.
My predicament is this:
1 - I do not have savings at the moment (because of the blocked account due to the business partner scam) and cannot put up € 65,000 in cash to the amount, interest and fees. They have to be settled in full by May 1th
2 - To sell the house (even if it could be done in such a short time frame) would not solve the problem as my daughter and I would still need a place to live. My credit score today would not allow to obtain a mortgage or qualify me for a rental, despite the fact that I have a job.
3 – Most important Denis was the son I always wanted. He gave me so much love and joy that now I have to fight to keep his home and memory where they belong. And while we carry our memories in the heart and they can go everywhere with us, I have to try to save this house.
This time I really do not have enough financial resources and strength, to fight this situation alone. All that am asking for is the opportunity to continue with this loan at the higher level. The only option is to settle what had been deferred by May 1th in full so to continue with regular payments thereafter. You see I am a normal and hardworking person with big heart just like
Through all of these tragic events that have been thrown upon me, I have remained steadfastly determined that I will continue to provide for my daughter; her well-being is paramount to me. I am not prepared to have endured so much, to have fought so hard and to have remained so determined that I will give up and allow our remnant of familiarity to disappear.
Raising € 65,000 will mean that our future in this home is secure.
I am asking you to help me with any payments that feels comfortable your budget, every single amount will make a difference.
If you are not able to donate, I understand, I am aware that we live in difficult times, so am asking you to share this fundraising campaign with your closest one, friends, business associates, via email or social networks so that it can reach as much possible wide public.
I've partnered very generous with my friends from the upcoming SUMMER WINE FESTIVAL that will be held on 21-22.06.2019 in Croatia. They made up a sponsors offer / donation package, not for free, if you will be interested:
- If you would like your business to be featured as a SPONSOR every one of you who donates €1000 or more will be marked as a partner on their promo material and website for the upcoming wine festival that will be held here in Croatia – 21/22'06.2019, included with a VIP Dinner seat on the roof and 5 tickets for booth festival days
- A donation amount of €110 or more entitles you for a VIP Dinner on the Roof seat + 1 entrance ticket
- A donation amount of €35 entitles you for 1 entrance ticket for booth festival days
- If you come from the Europe area am offering your donation's worth of organic home-made hemp cookies and product hand made by me.
Dear reader, I am asking you to help me so that I can continue to help.