Reunite me with my spouse

So this is a sad story. I married my wonderful wife back in 2003, when I was on leave from my time in Iraq. I returned from my tour safely and everything seemed to be coming together nicely. We bought a house, we were both working and by 2008 we had both started school. We even took in 3 of my teenage cousins as foster children, as their mother was abusing them. But then things started falling apart, her older family members started getting sick. The children were becoming difficult, and I was about to be deployed again. Since then, we both finished our respective degrees, and buried numberous family members: Her aunt, grandparents, her cousin, my mother (of which I had to pay for the entire funeral). I am now out of the Army on a medical discharge, a medical problem from Iraq arose several years after the fact. The kids have aged out of the system, but the oldest boy is a schizophrenic and is in need of our care until his social security case can be finished.

I lost my job in November 2010 because of my combat related issues, my wife lost hers in May 2011. We ran into huge amounts of debt during this time. We could not sell our house as the market would force us to lose thousands. She had trouble finding ANY work in our hometown, a very depressed job market still exists there. She found a job last October for a great company in Nashville, 550 miles away. She had no choice but to move there and get a little studio place while we planned for me to move with our animals. In December 2011 I was able to find work, but its a 55 mile commute daily. Despite us both working, we are not able to pay down enough debt so she can secure a better place for us in Nashville. Even if she did right now, I would be unable to find employment without leaving this current job, 0 transfer opportunities. My qualifications would secure me a good job there, working on my MBA and about to sit for the PMP exam soon. We just can't get over this hurdle. If I could get the debt down to around 2000 it would be much easier to reunite our family. Please, help this vet get to his bride.