Raise money for Marcia

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www.youcaring.com/my story about our precious times spent with (my sister marcia )on the morning of 15th september 2015 me and my mum visited my older sister marcia aged 47 only to see and hear the most heart breaking sounds of what seemed to be forever,her eyes were closed mouth open and screaming out ,she was barley concious and didnt even know we were there! we could see what pain she was suffering but there was nothing we could do to help her as we waited for paramedices to arrive. they turned up before the ambulance which took 2 hours to finally arrive,paramedics did what they could to stabalise my sister as her tempreture and blood pressure was so low she also had chronic anemia suffered diabetas and rehumataued arthrihtous that she was constantly suffering pain. parmedics got no reponse when talking to her and carried on trying to stabalise her with oxygen, fluid , and putting a line in which seemed helplessand soo long as she had no veins to go into,my mum was crying histercally and was so scared i had done everything to try and keep mum calm as she was panick stricken and begging them to get marcia to hospital.we arrived at a@e where marcia was taken off to resus where she was sadated and pumed full of antibiotics and pain relief and gave her oxygen even though they had no idea what was wrong .there she was just laying there not a clue what was happening or going on it was so painfull to see my sister and not being able to hear her talking or responding to me or mum or anyone else around.me and mum were beside ourselves with worry as we had no idea what was wrong or happening to her or why she was unconscious and screaming in pain.she slowly settled down and the pain seemed to be fading .hours went past and still noone new why this was happening.hours and hours were passing by and we were helpless as we could do nothing but wait .she hadnothing blood results tests after test and results were still the same she had infection they had been treating her for an infection even though they had no idea where it was.marcia was then transferred to hdu where she was just covered in monitors oxygen masks blood pressure machines and lines for medication.marcia was in hdu for 4 days but managed to come round for just a day and started talking to us she was very soflty spoken and we were so happy to hear her and to be able to speak with her we were over joyed . at this point it was me ,mum her husband and 2 sonsthat were at her bedside taking it turns to be with her 2 sons aged14 and 16and in a very calm manner she asked when i was going back for my cancer treatment also that i smelt nice what was i wearing as i held her hand i replied its my perfume i said ill get you some when your better and at home ,she asked for drinks as she had none for the 4 days wjile in hdu and her lips were soo dry chapped and her tongue was red and sore she said to mum i dont know why im here mum. while speaking with marcia she had complained of her belly was really hurting as she rubbed it to soothe the pain, mum begged for the nurse to get a doctor to come and see her but noone never came . her speaking and drinking like she had never seen one before this was short lived.it was then time to leave so we said our goodnites and gave her kisses and told her we would see her tomorrow and we loved her,we visited her again the next morning and found that her breathing was short and very shallow and once again non responsive .we asked for a scan to be done but doctors refused as they didnt do them weekends as she then went down hill and again went into unconscuiosness and again unresponsive all we could do was watch and talk to her in the hope she could hear us tell her we loved her and how much we wanted for her to get well .the pain we were feeling our hearts felt torn apart to see her like this,with her silky soft skin we kissed and cuddled her as much as we could but could not get to do it that often as there were so many wires, not being able to kiss her or cuddle her was unbearable so i held her hand and mum rubbed her face. in the early hours of the morning sunday 20th mums phone rang and we new it was bad news it was a surgeon stating marcia had to go for an emergancy operation to save her life,and it was her only chance of survival she had a perforated bowel and colan ,mum rushed to sign the the papers to go a head with the operation ,again hours went by. while we waited for a doctor to come and tell us the op was successfull we were told the next 72 hours were critical and she could start to come round anytime but she never and on a dailey basis we asked for doctors that never came marcia was very strong and she came through the operation and was then taken to a third ward intensive care and was put on life support to help her breath and manage all her antibiotics blood transfusions,pain releif and dialysis and breathing tubes.it was sad to see her having a tube down her throat this was doing her breathing she also had dilysis and all drips tubes everywhere which was very distressing to see .doctors were few and far between and never saw one for hours on end day after day nurses would not tell us anything and we were told to leave my sisters side everytime we spent at her bedside as they were turning her cleaning her or changing her sheets but every second counted for marcias family to be by her side we spent hour after hour at the hospital and relaying visits as it was 2 at the bed side, but as time passed my sister was not getting any better and nothing had changed .we were then taken into the family room and told by a doctor that she had sepsis all over her body and she was dying. we never ever thought the day she went to hospital she would never be coming home!!the day the family went to visit and stood at her bedside knowing there was nothing we could to save her .marcia had a major operation me and my younger sister had gone in to see how she was and my younger sister said hi marc its me and bern we nearly fainted she responded with her eyes as she could not speak because of having the tube and still under sadation for a few days marcia would comunicate with us with her eyes and slowly started moving her hands and head nodding just slightly left and right this was amazing as we thoughtprogress was happining and she was getting better and she had pulled through the following day we could not wait to see her to talk with her some more but once again she was sadted so after the few days we had speaking and her resonding our hearts sank .it would be the last time we ever spoke to her.all through the next day marcias blood pressure started to drop as did her oxygen and blood pressure levels,and we just waited and waitied at this point the who family would be at my sisters bedside, as we stood the monitors were changing as her heart beat became slower her oxygen levels went down and shallow and her blood pressure dropping bit by bit until all of a sudden it all started to drop suddenly all the machines alarms went off and she was slipping away and was literally dying infront of our eyes as we watched the monitors go down to flat lines....and my dear sister had passed away in front of our eyes .i collapsed to the floor mum was sobbing her heart out and all i could hear were crys from my other family.i begged of her to wake up my mum saying her name while tears flooded .after the tragic event we sat with marcia for a while as none of us wanted to leave her colour was pale and she looked like she had just fallen asleep .we went to mass as prayers were read out in church and it seemed to be comforting but still emotional as it would not sink in our heads that we were there for my sister.that nite i dont think anyone slept so well.we were all broken hearted .then we had another thing to think of which was how are we ever going to get enough money to give marcia a send off and a funeral i then decided to set this up for my sister in the hope we could raise enough money .days went by my poor mum having to burie her daughter i cant imagine how shes feeling . i cannot begin to tell you how we all felt as everything around us was just a blurr and numbness spread through our bodies we have unanswered questions sleepless nites and most of all the worry of how we will get the funds for my sisters funeral.we all love and miss her dearly all funds will go towards the cost of the flowers the grave the casket,and funeral expenses. my family has nothing but extremly bad luck and we are all under alot of pressure and stress ,worry,pain ,shock ,and most of all greving for my sister.my whole famliy which is very small that only consists of 6 adults and 7 children 2yrs old being the youngest. we are all full of illnesses starting with me the middle sister i was diagnosed with cancer june 2014 i now have treatment in the christie hospital manchester.my younger sister had emergancy op to save her life perforated bowel this was after marcia passed away 2 days later,my grandad passed away on 8th october lung cancermy daughter marcias neice has a bone condition and is now being refered to a clinic to rule out breast cancerand my neice is due for gawl bladder removel and this is all in between trying to get 2 funerals arranged and bee there as all treatments are around the same time .i really dont no how much more we as a family can take the list goes on and we are trying to greive for my sister and give her the burial and funerl so we can lay her to rest and none of us are able to fund this due to our familys illnesses and circumstances so please please donate to make this happen if you have a heart and would like to donate no matter how big or small remenber every little helps and i would thank everyone of you in advance for your kindness.funds for marcia x we love and still love soo much and cannot get our heads around this and please this is a sincere ask not begging and have no idea on what elsewe can do x marcia who has sadly passed away and is missed terribly by her family has left behinda mumher 3 children 2 grandchildren2 sistersa neice and 3 great neices.marcia was a strong character and she will be rememebred for that she loved her family and adored the children and was a big softy when it came to spoiling them .she would laugh and joke around and like listening to her favourite music including ray quinn!!she loved being a mum an auntie and a sister and was always there when you needed her no matter what it was,she would help anyone if she could.loved the colour pink!!she lived for her boys and spoilt them wrotten.we miss her dearly and cannot comprehend that marcia is no longer with us.

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