Thanks for dropping by
I didn't want to go into too much personal detail however i needed to outline my situation to show that this is really a last and only resort.
I have been fighting for access to my son for nearly 10 years, I finally got access and met my son 3 times before my ex girlfriend got jealous of our developing bond. We were due to meet Christmas eve 2014 which would have been our 4th meeting and the first time he would have met my family however i received a call from his mum a day earlier saying he doesn't want to come hes too nervous, With my son been autistic I sent him a text saying I understand you don't want to come and your scared and not to worry we can do something another time when hes more comfortable and met me on my own a few more times. My son text back to say his mum told him that I didn't want to see him and it was me that cancelled, the next thing you know his Facebook was deleted his Skype was deleted and his mobile was taken from him I have not seen spoke or even been able to text him since.
She has now told me to get access through the courts knowing i cannot afford it due to paying child-support for 11 years and been in an IVA due to the debt i got into challenging her the first time.
due to my situation of basically been backed into a corner with no support or guidance I now suffer from manic depression/stress, anxiety attacks and difficulty sleeping. I have been undergoing therapy and treatment for just over a year now and i am just about holding things together however the situation is really taking its toll on my body and spirit. I am 32 years old I live at home and have no social life what so ever due to funds and the fact i feel to run down to socialize and all because of a women that gets kicks out of been in control and hurting people.
It upsets me the fact that she has watched him grow up and i have missed out on everything despite paying over £20,000 in child support fees over the years and £2000 on legal advice and solicitors fees leaving me struggling to live month to month let alone challenge her through the courts. The justice system along with child laws seem to be massively in favor of the mother and I just doesn't see right!
Unfortunately although my son is 11 years old he has level 10 autism and finds it difficult to communicate what he wants and tries to avoid confrontation at all times. He has told his mum he wants to see me to which she has refused and that is all he can do so it is now up to me to try and do all I can. Child support agency have told me they will not support me as all they do is collect money to add insult to injury as well as taking 15% of my wage new laws state I have to pay 20% of that again due to the fact that I don't pay her direct (she wont provide me with her bank details)
I know 100% my son wants to see me and wants to spend time with me however his mother is just twisting the knife due to the fact we split up on very bad terms after I found out her real name and age!! She lied to me since day one and just continues to ruin my life and with the help and support of my friends and family I really want to put an end to this.
The money will be spent on legal fees and legal advice and solicitors fees. Please feel free to donate no matter how small as every little helps and will be greatly appreciated.