Jo is from the USA where all her family reside, leaving her pretty sucluded in the UK with her 3 kids and cats.
After a 19 year, abusive marriage, Jo finally got away from her Husband (now ex) with their 3 Children. Where she returned to college to gain qualifications to better the lives of her and her Children. Hi recently graduated from University obtaining her Bachelor's Degree in Business and Marketing.
During the breakup of the family, Jo severed all ties with her ex, except where the children were concerned visiting their Father.
However, after 3.5 years of being on her own with the kids, they all wish to be closer to friends and family in GA. They have been in the UK 6 years now and have had minimal support or family life, including church family.
Since the divorce the Father has disowned two sons and he only sees one child right now, who doesn't really want to go, but she's bullied and scared to tell her Dad. The same behaviours inflicted on their Mother, is now inflicted on the daughter. Courts are unhelpful as it's always word against word.
The kids are broken and Jo isn't far behind herself, trying to hold it together, find a good job and keep the kids sane.
The youngest boy has been suffering anger issues since the breakup and doesn't show signs of improvement. The GP requires him to be worse before any professional help can be given and in the meantime he just becomes angrier and more withdrawn. To get private help is extremely expensive and there's a worry the child won't be able to manage his emotions. Jo is beside herself with worry, how to help him, disicpline and love him. He's angry most of the time, he needs help, support and extra love. Which Jo can't manage in the UK on her own, without their family (Brothers, Uncles, Aunts, Grandparents, cousins, yearly family reunions) there hasn't been any support or a solid foundation to better there lives.
The Middle child is the only one still making visits with her Dad but she too has recently started to exhibit signs of anxiety and depression, she's 13!!! She's very athletic, breaking many school records last year, she's smart and was outgoing. Now she just hides away a lot. It's only become apparent recently the effects this entire situation has had on this family and that "getting away" was actually the easy part, it's now things are tough.
The oldest child has had the roughest time of all. His Dad ALWAYS treated him different from the rest, in a bad way. Now he struggles with everyday life and struggles to shower or complete simple tasks. He hates it in the UK and has never made friends like he did back home.
This is all heartbreking for Jo , to watch her kids like this and be powerless due to being alone. This doesn't help her mental state either, she's anxious but works hard and can't figure a way out.
Jo has the potential to earn a good wage but without moving to a bigger city in the UK she will never have the prospect. Moving within the UK would just unsettle the kids having to start again... new area and school with no friends. I'm not sure they would handle this well and I truly believe (as much as I care for my friends) that they are better off back in Georgia, near friends and family and where the 2 younger children were born.
Jo wants to return and talks about it often, to the point where she worked out what she would need to make the move smoother. She's even contacted employers to see if she can secure a job before the move. But with working here in the UK and paying living costs it will take 6-7 years for her to save enough to leave.
Jo and the children need help to return home, with hopes they'll all get the treatment they need to live healthy mental lives and finally get rid of the dysfunction surrounding them.
I see many fundraisers for surgery when people are ill or help with rehab after an accident etc...but my friend and her 3 kids are suffering mentally, and though it can't be seen with the naked eye, I think things will get worse for them without the support network they need.
Please help this family x
Update: Jo's daughter was seriously assaulted last week. For declining a 12 year old boy sexual favors that she didn't even understand what he was talking about. Teachers were told, he found out and this was the final blow (there were more before the video). Email [email protected] for a copy. (Graphic)