My name is Syeda Lamia Khurshid and I wish to tell you a bit about my life and about my parents (in some cases, they are both one and the same).
My father is a government service worker in Bangladesh. Government service workers are paid less than modestly in my country. Due to my uncle getting caught up in a scam and having a huge sum of money and properties taken away, my father has been funding not only his own family but my uncle's too (as well as my grandparents when they were alive). In addition to that, he also has to pay most of the lawyer's fees to carry the case in court (to get the properties and money back) and also has to pay the loan sharks that my uncle had taken loans from. My uncle had refused to work for over six years, ever since he got scammed. His wife did not work and my mother, who used to be a designer, was forced to leave her job after her eyesight took major damage. All in all, my father had and still has to carry a huge burden.
Now, a bit about me.
I had graduated high school back in June 2017. My parents' deepest wish, ever since I was a child, was to send me abroad to study. No matter how many hurdles they have faced and are facing, they never wanted it to affect my life and future. They and I knew just how expensive tuition in foreign universities could be but they still supported me and encouraged me. So I sent my application and was accepted to Sunway University in Malaysia. I am currently in my first Semester, studying Bachelors in Computer Science in said university. All my life, I have been struggling to find something to be passionate about and see myself working in that field. I enjoy art and I am an illustrator but it was something I enjoyed as a hobby and did not see it as a future profession. Once I reached eleventh grade, I decided to take Computer Science on a whim. I have generally been a tech geek since childhood due to my father’s enthusiasm towards such things. So when I was offered the subject, I went for it. It was a decision that changed my life. My teacher played a very big part in that. He is a brilliant man and his methods of teaching the subject really captivated me and made me want to learn more. I was slowly getting to know how to give life to machines and understanding things that seemed like magic to the younger me. My parents were really happy to see me take an interest in a subject they deemed ‘good’ so there was also the satisfaction of making them proud. After the career guidance counselor told me that work would pay well in such a field, it sealed the deal for me and I decided to do my best in it. Yes, money was a big contributing factor to my decision because I wanted to help my parents.
I am afraid for my parents, especially for my father. As much as I am eternally grateful for being given such an amazing opportunity, I am riddled with guilt when I think about the stress that he is being put under. My university tuition and living costs in Malaysia is a huge burden that got added to the already big pressure on his shoulders. I cannot even work part-time here on my student visa and help him out. They are pulling out everything from their savings and the most terrifying bit to that is that my father has various illnesses including diabetes, high blood pressure, kidney problems and the list goes on. In addition to the pressure making his health get worse, the almost empty savings account means that if, God forbid, something were to happen to him, we would have almost no money to treat him.
Many people have told my parents to just cut ties with my uncle and his family and concentrate on themselves, but my parents are some of the kindest and purest people to exist. My father's love for all his siblings is unconditional and he would never even think of abandoning them. My mother had tried to talk sense to him at many points but she realized that arguing with my father on the topic would do him more harm than good so she has given up on it.
I was sent to Malaysia, not only so I could build up my future, but also to save my parents from their misery. They put all their hope and also their own futures in my hands. And I promised to work harder than I have ever before to make sure that I can save and protect them. But if something were to happen before I graduate University, then I would have no way to keep that promise.
Please, if you are able, if you have even just a little to spare, please help me pay for my tuition and dorm rent so that at least this burden can be lessened from my parents' shoulders. I would have loved to talk more about myself here and tell more about my passion for computer science and what I wish to do in the future, but the issue with my parents is more pressing to me. By donating to me, you will not only save one person, but an entire family.
Below are my tuition fees and dorm rent (quarterly) respectively :
Thank you so much for your time and kindness.