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I recently reconnected with an old friend after 20 years. Catching up revealed a difficult and challenging story. She lost her parents in two separate tragic events when she was 21. She married and has two beautiful, truly wonderful, children aged 17 and almost 21. She recently divorced because her ex-husband suffers from bipolar disorder that remained undiagnosed until two years ago. Circumstances were tough and, although divorced, this family unit stayed in the same household. Bipolar disorder caused significant trauma to the entire family, including the children’s father. They lost everything they had (again and again). The son has moved 27 times in his 17 years on this planet, and the constant moving has meant that the children’s schooling has been disrupted. The Covid pandemic escalated her husband’s bipolar disorder and circumstances at their home became untenable.
I felt the need to give everyone a fair chance – a chance for her ex husband to seek the help he needs, and for these children to sort out their education, and for my friend to piece together her life. On 1 April my friend and her children woke in their old house in Cape Town and went to bed in our house in Pretoria. On that day we went from a two-person, one-dog family to a five-person, two-dog family. It has been an interesting journey, a roller coaster ride for all of us. For the first week or so we were shell-shocked as the reality of their life was revealed, but amazingly, through all of this, there was no shortage of love in these incredible children’s home. Unfortunately there were other consequences. Like the fact that there had been no money for things that many of us take for granted – like visits to the dentist.
I would like these beautiful and talented children to have a bright future: One with choices. One that matches their potential, but will never be realised if they are not able to complete their education backlog and deal with their current health issues. I would like the new “daughter” in our house to know that she is a strong and independent woman who can control her destiny. I would like our new “son” to know that he can be anything he want to be, if he believes in himself. I would like their mother to have the opportunity to sustain herself and her family, and to make her own decisions and be the master of her own destiny. They just need this chance to find their talents, to know what they are good at.
Unfortunately our household income cannot address the remedial actions that are urgently needed. Who was to know that we would be confronted with a massive dental bill for about R60 000? That we would need home schooling, GED’s, textbooks, computer repairs (just to get on with the schooling) and exam fees. That will be another R40 000. And then we would also like to clear my friend’s debt so that she can have a clean start to her new life. These liabilities are the cost of her divorce, and the occupational therapist that assisted with her son. That will be another R20 000.
In our household there is not a moment of regret for taking this big step. It is without question the right thing to do, but the immediate cost of putting three amazing people back on the right track is insurmountable for us right now. We appeal for any contributions that can help us to get through this moment of crisis. The contributions are done via PayPal. If you prefer to do an EFT, you are welcome to contact me and we can make alternative arrangements.
- Ilse Aucamp
- Campaign Owner
We are getting thereUpdate posted by Ilse Aucamp at 07:16 am
Good morning, I hope that you are all well. We are still going strong, and our family is starting to prepare spreading their wings by the end of August. Unfortunately my friend still has not been able to secure a permanent job, but she is hustling with her creative talents. . . . .
We won't give up, no matter what!Update posted by Ilse Aucamp at 07:55 am
I have not been giving updates for a while. On Monday we received the devastating news that my friend has lost her job. Given the state of the economy it was last in, first out. At first, we were devastated. Things were going so well. Not an easy journey, you. . . . .
The first step on the road to independenceUpdate posted by Ilse Aucamp at 08:59 am
I am delighted to share with you that my friend found a job! She starts tomorrow, on a three month probation period. We are all very excited. The children are doing well, our "son" settled in his new school, and wonderful opportunities are happening for our "daughter" . We are. . . . .
Funky FeniksUpdate posted by Ilse Aucamp at 11:28 am
Our fundraiser has been a little quiet for a while, due to life happening. The good news is that we have started a small business called Funky Feniks. We can create and make almost anything. From funky kitchen curtains, costumes for parties or plays, recreate your favourite outfit that has. . . . .
This is a long journeyUpdate posted by Ilse Aucamp at 07:02 am
I have not written an update in a while. We are all still working on our journey towards a new beginning. We had our last visit to the dentist a week ago, which is a massive milestone for us. For the first time in years our "daughter" can chew properly. . . . .
We're still going strongUpdate posted by Ilse Aucamp at 07:56 am
Thank you so much for everyone that supported us so far. We found a wonderful school which is a perfect fit for our "son". He has been going there for two weeks now, and is loving every moment. He even sit and do school work during load shedding with a. . . . .
I have no words!Update posted by Ilse Aucamp at 02:01 pm
Today did not start very well, and I felt a bit down in the dumps. We had a turbulent week and everything that can go wrong did. Thee rollercoaster ride of this week made me feel a bit shaky! This changed in seconds when a very, very generous friend donated. . . . .
We are grateful and already taking actionUpdate posted by Ilse Aucamp at 06:56 pm
Thank you for everyone's online and offline support, in various forms. People are giving so much more than money. The love, support and practical help and advice cannot be measured in monetary terms. Those of you based in South Africa that do not want to go via PayPal can contact. . . . .
There are a lot of angels out thereUpdate posted by Ilse Aucamp at 06:08 am
Thanks to some wonderful people we have managed to raise some funds even before our campaign started. An old and trusted friend and his mother donated money offline, an angel optometrist assisted with getting glasses at a reasonable rate, an angel psychologist did some tests at a very low rate.. . . . .
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