We are the Children of Catherine Marcrum, and we ask for a brief moment of your time, we would like to tell you a story with the hopes that it may touch your heart.
Our Mum has raised us boys by herself most of our lives. You see, there is no family here to help her and well to be honest, both of our dads left when we were young, leaving her to do it alone. She did what any other single Mother does, worked any job she could, there was just one problem.
In 2003 we realized something was wrong. She got sick, like other mothers and she would work through it no matter what. But she had to have surgeries, she tried to hide them by having them during early mornings and being home before we got off school. However in time we started to see her getting weaker, it was taking longer to get over even a simple cold.
By 2009 we really noticed she was not herself anymore, she was in pain all the time, she hardly slept, and other things were changing, drastically. All the while she kept working as a private care provider and any other job her health would allow, getting released often times due to health issues or the many surgeries she has had to endure. In June of 2010 was the very last time she was able to hold a job to support herself and us. You could tell this was devastating to her, she tried to fight it looking for any type of income even work at home work eventually having to realize that it was impossible for her. All we could do was stand back and watch as she finally had to give up, and see the sorrow that came over her as the realization came that she was no longer able to support us.
Over the years our mother has taken in and helped anyone who has ever needed help, and even after she became ill she still would take in anyone who needed help, helping them get back on their feet by giving them what little she had to offer, sharing her food and giving them a place to lay their head, and a place to call home until they could move on. Believe us often times they moved on with whatever they wanted of our stuff, and unfortunately that has taken everything away from her, us and the rest of the family. Now that she is no longer able to work we see the sorrow in her face because she is no longer able to replace what is and has been taken away from us and yet she continues to try and give.
She was finally granted disability in November 2012, and her doctors here have helped her as much as they can, but everyone is running out of answers. We go to Casper repeatedly with repeated surgical procedure, to no avail, and now have started the costly trips to Salt Lake City Utah. Unfortunately for mom these trips are more costly then she can afford and she has to save for them out of the $463 she receives from disability every month. The trip alone costs her $500 so you can see she does not go there very often due to the costs. She is barely able to pay normal living costs with that amount, much less have to set any aside for those costly trips.
She has help in Pennsylvania, not much but at least it is no longer nothing, whereas here she has no one, we live alone with only her private health Care provider, his daughter, and an adopted son as companions.
We want to take her back to an environment where there are more doctors, and more Specialists, We would be able to live between Hershey Hospital and Medical Research center, Geisinger Hospital and Lewisburg Hospital, and all are very well known Hospitals with renowned Doctors. We are hoping that between these Hospitals something that could help her with her mind numbing pain due to the fibromyalgia could be found, or a treatment for her Esophagus, Stomach and Intestinal issues that are getting worse with time, and now the Doctors are suggesting either remove over half of her stomach now, or insert feeding tubs and med tubes and these options are devastating to anyone’s quality of life much less to our mothers, or her migraines that are causing her to have seizure like episodes if not actual seizures which we suspect, or her heart problems, with her high blood pressure that we are having a hard time keeping under control with medication and now she is suffering from tachycardia as well,and all of these things continue to get worse as time marches on, all of this she suffers daily, quietly, never complaining.
Everyone sees her walking with a cane no one asks why, why a 37 year old woman who used to work 3 jobs a day that required her to stand on her feet through all of them the whole shift is suddenly unable to go shopping without having to use an electric cart, or why she is unable to walk from the front of the store to the back of the store by herself without having to have someone with her at all times? It’s simple actually, there are a few reasons, Her SI Joints are torn, Both of them, she has to wear a SI belt because of it, the belt itself causes a great amount of pain, so wearing it is not something she wishes to do and tends to want to avoid all activities that requires her to wear it ….which is any involving walking, lol. She also has a disfigurement in her lower spine, arthritis in her upper spine so obvious it can be seen with a simple x-ray by an emergency room doctor and her neck which is supposed to be in the shape of a gentle s curve is in a sharp z causing a lot of her migraines, and yet she goes on, every day, day after day, hour after hour. She is still the mum we grew up with, she never complains or even speaks up about any of this, she has been so quiet that not many of her friends truly know that she spends every day in bed alone, much less exactly how sick she is. We want someone to hear her, even if it has to be trough us, her children.
This part is from the few friends and supporters she has left……
Our goal with this fundraiser is to make it possible to get her to an environment where there will be no more having to save for months at a time to go see a doctor that only tells her that he does not have any answers for her. No more surgeries that she knows she will only have to have again and again, alone!! If it does stay like this for her for the rest of her life, she will have family sitting at her bedside when she wakes up.
Imagine, imagine what it would feel like going to bed being those boys , knowing your mom is sick , knowing someday you will wake up and you will be suddenly all alone..........Please Help them, and find a place to live in when they get there. Any money raised here would help those boys for the rest of their lives and help give them a small amount of what she will not be able to give them anymore, stability and security. It only takes $1 or $2 from everyone... it doesn’t take a lot from one person it only takes one person to pass this on, let others read what her boys have to say for the only parent they have, to help give her a chance to be here longer for them, to maybe just maybe, at least find better treatments for her, or maybe even a chance,,, to live longer. And if not, then at least give them what she would have given them had she not gotten sick, a home, and a future.
Thank you from all of us for taking the time to read this.
you can also send money to
In Care Of
Kenneth Haley Jr.
1575 E. Monroe St
Lot # 54
Riverton Wy 82501
in cash, check, or money order