Our Big Day

We met 3 days after Christmas in 2010. We had both been in a bad marriage before and neither thought we would ever find that one we were meant to be with. After meeting that night, it was love at first sight. We talked for hours and we knew from that night, we had to see each other again. After that, you could'nt keep us apart, we were completely in love. Then in April of last year, I had a car accident. I was coming home from picking my 2 kids (ages 8 and 5 at the time) up from their fathers and it was pouring rain. My car slid right through a stoplight. Thankfully my kids were ok but I suffered bad brusing, cracked ribs, broken toe and a very badly broken and dislocated right ankle. I had to have surgery and was in the hospital for 4 days. I wasn't able to put weight on my foot at all for 3 months. In that time, my doctor had me off work so no income was coming in. I had to start using my savings (luckily I had) to start paying my bills. Also we found out in June of last year, I was pregnant! I had been on birth control but apparently the drugs from the hospital interacted. It was ok, we were completely excited and never happier, but we knew it would be hard with me still hopping around on one foot. After months and I was able to go back to work, they took forever with paperwork (over 2 months) to even consider bringing me back. In that time I decided I would go back to school to become a medical assistant. We also learned that I was going to need a second surgery because my ankle did not heal right. Due to being pregnant, this was going to have to wait since I would need to be put under. Walking with your foot crooked and limping around while pregnant and caring for two other kids isn't the easiest thing in the world but with the help of such an amazing man who came over every night after work, and my parents, I managed. Things were going along fine, me and the baby stayed healthy and we were all so excited to see her get here. Then 4 days before Christmas of last year, my mother passed away suddenly. My father and I found her. My mother and I were very close and I couldn't stop crying. She would never get to meet my little girl, only 7 more weeks until she was due, and my little girl would be the only grandchild to never know her mamaw. I felt like my world was crashing down. We made it through Christmas somehow and I still think about her everyday. In Februrary, our precious baby girl was born. You should have seen my boyfriend. What a proud daddy. His children are almost grown (ages 19, 16 and 12) so having another one was like starting all over, but I've never seen someone more happy in my life. It's been hard, living apart, him having to say goodbye to her every night, but he is always there if we need him. Then a few weekends ago, this wonderful man who has been by my side through everything, who has been my rock, my strength, my shoulder to cry on, asked me to marry him. Through tears of completely happiness, I said yes. We both would love an October wedding, it's our favorite time of year, all the colorful leaves and cool crisp air, but Oct 2013 is too far to wait to be together and raise our little girl. Most people would say "oh just move in together who cares" but like he told me, if we're going to do that, I want it to be 100%, as husband and wife. But with the job market being the way it is, even after finishing school (just a week before she was born) I still have been unable to find a job until this week. It's only a temp job but hey, every little bit helps. He works so hard already at his job but we just need that little bit of extra. Our dream is to get married this October, nothing huge and fancy, just close friends and family. I so wish his father (who passed away about 6 years ago) and my mother could be there, but they will be looking down on us. He doesn't even know I'm making this site, he will probably try to use his savings to help pay for the wedding he says I deserve but I don't want him to have to do that in case an emergency comes up so I'm asking for any help, however small or large and thank you ahead of time so much.