Hi. I would like to remain as anonymous as possible for my own safety and to protect my children's privacy.
I am trying to stay strong as I battle my way through a horrible year. My estranged husband of 14 years and I parted ways in January 2018. I found messages in my child's phone that were to a boy stating that she didn't care if he beat her as long as he loved her. That was when I knew we had to get away. She had also started cutting and was suffering from depression and anxiety so badly she was unable to attend school.She was 13 years old when she attempted suicide, the letter she left heartbreaking. I had been getting her as much mental health help as possible but was being manipulated by her father who she had also witnessed abusing me on a few different occasions. My 3 children & I were residing in a 2 bedroom suite and I had just gone back to school to further my career as an Education Assistant. I had to withdraw due to being unable to keep up with my class while ensuring my daughter got the help she needed. Unfortunately, things continued to get harder and we were evicted. i had no choice but to allow my children to be with their father while I stayed with a friend. Not long after, my ex husband started making it next to impossible for me to see the children which absolutely destroyed me as i had been a stay at home mom for their whole lives. I had a mental breakdown due to stress and the court system being no help (it just kept being delayed over and over) and ended up being diagnosed with Borderline Personality Disorder as well as PTSD.
The BPD has made employment extremely hard and my income suffered. I had finally started to get to a good place, and had a home to move into when the owners of the home back out on me on moving day leaving me homeless. I lived in my car with our cat for a month, unable to work as I work from home on the computer falling into more debt. I had to go on disability and just to make things hard for me, my ex reported me and said I was committing fraud so payments were withheld while these claims were investigated. I finally found a home in February of 2019 and though my budget was extremely tight, things seemed to be looking up. But my ex refused to return my kids which has sparked an ugly custody battle with my children being used as pawns. He has unanimosly decided that he isn't paying child support anymore and as such is going for full custody due to my mental health issue. This process keeps being put over by his lawyer enabling my ex to use my children as pawns in his war against me. I have hundreds of messages from my daughter about him telling her to cooperate or she will never see me again and that if they come back to me he will lose his home due to paying support which is not true.
The icing on the cake is the $10,000 debt I received when he had me audited by our taxation system as well as me losing another $1500 a month on top of it due to this audit and his unwillingness to tell the truth. I am now 3 months behind on my rent, phones have been cut off and the very little parenting time I have is stressful as because of this I can barely keep food on the table.
Now my landlord is stalking me. He has placed tracking devices on my vehicle as well as having his family in the neighborhood spying on me. The downstairs tenant is stealing the mail at my landlords go ahead which includes time sensitive items. I know someone has been in my suite because I have left traps and they worked. Not only that, but no sooner than I say something in my home, the landlord is texting me repeating word for word what I said. It's either a listening device or the tenants relaying all information. He has also now stated he is having me followed.
I have contacted the police but until this happens 3 times there is not much they can do. I am now unsafe in my own home and there is no way I can leave my children home alone. The landlord texts me upwards of 60 times per day and accuses me of all sorts of craziness. The rent being behind isn't helped by the fact that I am not allowed access to the room with the breaker and this place has huge electrical issues as well as a non working furnace that is currently hooked up with extension cord.
I need help to secure new housing so that I can move my children & I out of this nightmare situation. I need at least a 3 bedroom, preferably 4 bedroom in which my children and I can create a home and remove ourselves from all this craziness. I could go on for days about all that has taken place but there is not enough paper in the world for that.
I am requesting assistance to move myself and my children out of this craziness and into a safe, secure long term home. It will also good to food because right now that is a sought after commodity in my house.
Please help if you can. I have no real family and i was not permitted friends as it was "my job" to be the parent. I appreciate you taking the time to read this. My current rent is $2,000 with utilities included but ICBC will be around to seize my plates soon as I have not been able to pay my insurance either.
I just need to get back on my feet so I can recover from this blow while continuing to try to keep things as normal as I can for the kids as well as feed them. Any thing you could do to help me get my kids away from all of this would be greatly appreciated. Feel free to ask any questions. There is so much more to this story, so if you would like more details I would be happy to provide the.
From the bottom of my heart, thank you