...I came out of a bad relationship with a young son, and met a wonderful man. I fell in love. He loved me and my son. We got married, we had a daughter and he legally adopted my son. Fast forward 21 years. Things were rocky for many years. Our son being on the autism spectrum and being diagnosed with bipolar. There were lay-offs, deaths of friends and family, and almost losing our house to foreclosure. But somehow we got thru it all, but it seemed like the last few years were the worst. I guess it all just all of a sudden hit us.
I blamed him him for things and he blamed me...he asked for a divorce a day after my birthday. He said he was tired of my comments, he was tired of worrying about money and he need to take care of himself and HIS future. I don't want to divorce him..I still love him, but I have no other choice. I'm willing to forgive him, to start anew, to give our marriage another chance, but he is adamant about us splitting up. After all these years he just stopped caring about me. Yes, we have tried counseling, for the last 2 years, and it did work...things were really good for a while....that's why it's hard for me to understand why all of a sudden he is doing this to me. I've apologized for the things I've said and done wrong, but he hasn't.
It's been so difficult to live in the same house as him and be totally ignored, every day, unloved and uncared for, especially knowing we were married for over 21 years. I try every day to talk to him, and tell him I don't want this, but it falls on deaf ears. I really need to get out, so I need somewhere to live. The house was his before we met, so He wants me to go. Thru the years he has made it known that it was HIS house.
I dread living in an apartment. Plus my daughter said she wants to live with me (she's in college now, but lives home) and of course my son would too. I would love to buy a house. If I could just have enough money to buy a rinky dink house, then I can afford everything else. We also have a small dog, who I will never, ever give up and most apartments won't accept pets.
I need help to get started on my new life. It's going to be hard, but I know I can do it. I've gone thru a lot in my life. He broke me, but I'm going to put my self back together and go on.
He just made me kick my son out of the house because he isn't working. Although my son is capable of working, it is very difficult for him, due to the Aspergers, bi-polar, depression and anxiety. My son decided he's rather die than leave home, so he broke the cabinet in the house, my husband called the police, and my son made beleive he had a gun so the police could shoot him. THANK GOD, they didn't and they took him to the hospital. He is now at my sister's house.
We desperately need to get out of this toxic environment, but can't without money.
Thank you in advance for your help.
PLEASE DON'T SHARE ON FACEBOOK, I Dont want him to know yet what I'm doing.