For Mom

Fundraising campaign by A D
  • US$2,895.00
    raised of $4,500.00 goal goal
64% Funded
113 Donors
Raised offline: $259.00
Total: $3,154.00
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Update, April 2nd : After a lot of thought, we have arrived at a decision. We had a choice: either continue treatments, ignoring the much-needed survival expenses, including rent, food, and other necessities, or keep getting further into debt. I have lived a life of medical debt before, and it's still a part of my life. It took a lot away from me. It not only pushed me further away from my dreams, but it also cost me friends and so much more. The stress of it also took a toll on my family and made me prone to panic attacks. I still have them. Even the thought of it isn't worth it. So, we've put off appointments until we can follow through on them. We will resume treatments when we can afford them. I'll keep trying until then, as giving up is not an option.

Thank you to everyone. You did get us through one of the darkest times. We owe you so much.


It's really hard to reach out, especially when asking for help, but we really could use some right now. Nothing matters to me but making sure that my mom is OK. The only time I felt this helpless was when we were on the way to the ER and mom couldn't breathe. We have to get through this. This is an urgent request; if you ever thought of being a part of this, now is the time. Thank you for reading.

Mom collapsed and broke her hand. I found her sitting on the floor beside her bed, crying and in shock. She had collapsed coz she couldn't breathe; she was diagnosed with acute pneumonia.Mom was diagnosed with heart failure last year, which has made her situation worse. My mom is a superwoman, always there when you need her the most. She could take on the world, so seeing her weak and vulnerable has been a shock to my senses. The trip to the ER is something I've never felt before. My world had stopped. I can never forget that. On top of the pain and suffering, we can't afford to get help anymore. Not everything is covered; we are drowning in expenses and finding it hard to continue getting treatments. I'm doing the best I can, but I'm exhausted and scared, but it doesn't matter coz I'd do anything for her. I will never give up. I am trying to be her strength. I just need some help to get through this.

Last year, my mom was diagnosed with stage C heart failure. We couldn't get proper help because we couldn't afford it. There's a lot to do, but we keep pushing them. Mom doesn't show, but she’s hurting. She tries to keep a strong face on coz she knows we aren't in a place to take care of this right now. When dad was in the hospital in 2021, we did all we could to bring him home, we even sold what we could. I've lived a life of medical debt, and I'm still doing it. It's affected every aspect of our lives. Living with constant anxiety feels like a battle. We've become so prone to anxiety that even if something good happens, we keep dreading something going wrong. Mom continued to hide the fact that she was suffering from breathing issues as a result of all this. She went out of state to visit her brother, who was in hospice care, in January. When he passed away, it affected my mom a lot. It’s like there’s one stress after the next. All this stress has taken a toll on her heart.

When you are not prepared, even the thought of going to the hospital sinks your heart so fast. When I'm at work and I get a call from home, I think something bad has happened, and my heart stops. I am scared of a phone call; that's what has become of my life. I would never ask for help if it wasn’t for medical emergencies. I like to suffer alone; I'm afraid to share my problems. When I saw my mom so vulnerable and in pain, and when I thought I was losing her, I found the courage to ask for help. I tried, but it wasn't enough. So, we used what we had saved to get through the most difficult days. I've missed more than half a month of work, taking care of mom. Due to her fractured hand, she needs help with everything, and she often forgets her medications. Missing work has made matters worse. We've been down this path before, postponing treatment and visits until we could afford them. It has turned into a vicious circle. How does one choose between living expenses and medical bills?

Missing work, lower pay, increased bills, and recurring medical costs. I am so lost in life. Living with constant panic attacks.Every morning, I want to give up, but the thought of mom convinces me to fight another day. We haven't started proper treatment for heart failure yet, and the trauma of losing her brother has taken its toll as well. We're pushing the treatment off until we can afford it or when things change at home, but every delay comes at a cost. With each delay, mom's health deteriorates, making treatment more difficult and costly. We've already pushed this far enough. I hate seeing mom in pain, it kills me.



I write when I can, but right now I am too anxious to write. I want to post one 5-minute read every day on diverse topics like Vox, Ted Ed, and Johnny Harris do. I can't offer you anything in return for your help right now, apart from some stories and my book. Give them a try. I hope to start posting as soon as the situation improves even a little. I really want to write for the foreseeable future and maybe even be a writer for Vox. Offering something in return is the least I can do.

You can read them here, Kofi.

I even have a book I wrote when I was going through the lowest phase of my life. You can find it here.

PS: I have shared everything I can, but to protect the privacy of Mom and Dad, I have covered their eyes, not everyone wants to lift others when they are down.I already feel low about not being able to take care of the people I love, but some people would use this to make things worse.This is the reason for anonymity.Therefore, even my books and stories are written under a pseudonym.Hope you understand.


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  • Donated on Apr 19, 2024
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  • Donated on Apr 16, 2024
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Apr 20

We are so close to getting this done!

Update posted by A D at 09:32 pm

We have resumed treatments, but it's been a draining few months. We don't want to end up in a spot where we have to pause treatments again, as we did last time. Completing this fundraiser would help so much, and we are so close.Getting stuck would make things difficult once

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Apr 02

We have paused treament and put off appointments.

Update posted by A D at 10:42 am

After a lot of thought, we have arrived at a decision. We had a choice: either continue treatments, ignoring the much-needed survival expenses, including rent, food, and other necessities, or keep getting further into debt. I have lived a life of medical debt before, and it's still a part of. . . . .

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Mar 28

Mom was recovering but has relapsed.

Update posted by A D at 02:42 pm

The past few weeks have been full of anxiety. If mom had recovered, all this pain and anxiety would have been worth it. Mom was recovering but has relapsed. Nothing matters more to me than making sure Mom is OK. We are drowning in expenses. It's become hard to even

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Mar 04

Trying to survive!

Update posted by A D at 12:37 am

Mom has been in and out of the hospital thrice in the last 28 days. We have exhausted all of our resources and anything we could spare. We were not able to raise enough money to cover medical expenses, so we used rent money and other survival expenses to get. . . . .

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Feb 19

Mom is undergoing treatment for pneumonia

Update posted by A D at 10:24 pm

Mom collapsed due to pneumonia and broke her hand. We had to rush to the emergency room. This was on my birthday. We are doing everything we can. I got help from friends and colleagues. I have previously lived with medical debt, and it takes a lot away. I am. . . . .

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Feb 01

One last appeal

Update posted by A D at 01:55 pm

Mom has been unwell for the last week, and she can't even get up from bed. Time and again, I have failed get her proper help. This is one last attempt to take care of this. Mom was away for a month to be with her brother, who was in. . . . .

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Jul 18

Trying to finally put this behind me.

Update posted by A D at 11:32 am

Thank you to everyone who helped and shared. I got the tests done. I still need help to put this behind me, I have delayed this for 3 months. Simply put, I am just relying on luck for things to not go wrong. If even the slightest of things go. . . . .

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