Some of the things I’m about to write here may sound hard to believe if you’ve never dealt with an Abuser in Family Court, if you’ve never dealt with rogue Child Protection Workers, or if you don’t know who Dr. Richard Gardner is, but other victims will understand the reality of my current dangerous situation…
I am here as a last resort.
My little girl has reached out in secret that she's in distress and suicidal after she was taken from home and sent to live with our abuser in the USA.
She was in tears clinging to me at the Courthouse the day she found out she wasn’t going to be allowed to come back home with me, her siblings, and her grandparents after her 2019 Summer Visit with her father after several Child Protection Workers helped him and his attorney present dangerous false information about me to the Court.
I recently received the Disclosure Files from one Child Protection Agency that contain a lot of the evidence I need to prove so many of their manipulations as they worked with my abuser in secret, behind my back, to establish their false narrative against me. I am confident that if I can get to present these facts to our new Family Judge, I will finally be allowed to save my little girl and protect her siblings as well.
My little one has already tried to kill herself after being sent to our abuser and Thank God she was unsuccessful, but I’m terrified that she is sending secret messages about feeling so trapped and desperate. She could try to kill herself again at any moment.
She has written messages that she is "bawling her eyes out", "shaking" and "hyperventilating" because of our abuser, crying that she wants to come home to be with me and her siblings, saying that she “doesn’t know what to do anymore”.
This happened because of Child Protection Workers who have covered for many of my abuser’s violations, and helped him establish a bogus case against me based on (deceased) Dr. Richard Gardner’s disturbing theories that support Paedophilia.
There’s also an American Psychiatrist who was hired by my abuser to write a disparaging report against me without even meeting me or the children, which was used against me in this case.
I’ve obtained Court Records showing that this Psychiatrist has already lost his licence in multiple States in the past for egregious professional misconduct, and he also advertises that he is a faithful follower of Dr. Gardner’s dangerous theories.
Dr. Gardner, who was discussed in the recent HBO Documentary Series "Allen vs. Farrow", murdered himself with a butcher knife in 2003, causing many people to speculate on his serious mental issues, but his dangerous theories have lived on since his suicide and they've been supported by Professionals such as the Psychiatrist and the Child Workers in my case who have lied and manipulated to protect my abuser and to help him establish his narrative that puts my children in danger.
Scientific studies have shown that children are severely harmed when transferred to an abuser based on Gardner’s theories, (which is also common sense) and my true life story with my youngest child is testimony to that since she turned suicidal shortly after being taken from home and forced to live with an abuser.
I reported my daughter’s suicide messages to Child Protection Workers, but they insisted that she was “Fine” because they said they had seen her the week before. I have this bizarre conversation on an audio file.
I wanted to send them the evidence of her suicide ideation, but they said they didn’t need me to do that. They said they had spoken to my abuser the week prior, and everything was fine, and they were not going to verify any concerns for my child even though I was calling them with brand new information that showed she had been suicidal for a while already.
Since the Child Protection Workers refuse to verify any concerns, my hands are tied and the only way I can save her and protect her siblings is if I can get my evidence presented at the final Family Court Trial that’s coming up.
Her older siblings are with me for now, but they are also at risk of being transferred to our abuser, so part of my fight is also to keep them safe and alive.
I have Police Reports and Hospital Reports regarding my son (who has been allowed to stay with me for now) that state how it’s dangerous for him to be taken from me because he has his suicide already planned if he is forced to go to our abuser.
The Police have stated that sending my suicidal son to his abuser would be considered Facilitating a Suicide, and I most certainly will not send my child to his death...
However, if I can’t get the new Family Judge to understand the facts of this case, I will face extradition to the USA to be jailed for disobeying Orders if the Court grants my abuser a transfer of custody.
My son has been very clear that he will end his life if he is taken from me.
He has been in more distress lately after finding out that our abuser has made his little sister try to kill herself as well.
He describes how he plans to kill himself right in front of his father, our abuser, saying that he wants him to SEE what he’s done to him and his siblings.
I have an overwhelming amount of evidence to present to the Court and I'm confident that our new Family Judge will understand the dangerous lies and manipulations that the Child Protection Workers helped my abuser present because I already met this new Judge and she is witty, very kind, and she cares about the children but she is understandably frustrated with so much conflicting information that's been presented to the Court by my abuser and the Child Protection Workers. I won't be able to get my evidence of the truth presented if I can't keep up with payments to my lawyer for the Trial.
My latest legal bill dated for this month, March 2021, is attached here. It shows that the current amount owing is over $131,000 but if I can just access approximately $6,500 in the next few weeks, I will be able to keep up with some of the legal payments and my lawyer will be able to continue this case to Trial.
I need to get my little girl home safe and protect her older siblings from being transferred to our abuser where my son says he will kill himself to escape.
I’m sick to my stomach that the reality is that if I can’t access funds for legal fees to fight my abuser’s lies in Family Court, 2 of my children will die by their own hands.
Since my abuser’s arrest for violent rapes and domestic violence in 2011, my family and I lost more than $400,000 to abusive litigation, but as time goes by, the children are damaged more and more. I need this Trial to be the Last, and I feel horrible being here, but there’s just nowhere left for me to pull funds from.
I represented myself for 2 years, but I was completely railroaded by the aggressive and manipulative adversary, to the detriment of my children which led to the current dangerous situation that they are all in... especially the little one who has been taken from us.
My abuser has also threatened (via email) that he can kill the whole family, so there's that concern as well. When abusers are pushed, they are dangerous and unpredictable.
He was convicted in Criminal Court, but his rights in Family Court have kept the children and I in grave danger all these years.
The Child Protection Workers lied about being unaware of his Criminal Convictions, they are also well aware of the self-harm and suicide issues that our abuser has been causing the children to suffer through, and they have seen the Police and Hospital Reports, but they have continued to lie and manipulate in support of our abuser.
I am preparing a case against the Child Protection Workers separately for the damage they have caused, backed by Case Law where the organization was ordered to pay over 1.2 million dollars for damage they similarly caused in another case a few years ago.
I will continue adding below to this story in case readers may be interested in hearing more....
Just to reiterate, this dangerous situation is thanks to:
(1) American Psychiatrist Dr. Richard Gardner's scientifically debunked theories, (Information listed at the End of this message),
(2) An American Psychiatrist who has had his licence to practice suspended in 3 States for egregious professional misconduct in the past, (Court Excerpts Attached), and
(3) Child Protection Workers in 2 countries who have presented false information to Authorities and to the Court in order to support my Abusive Rapist's agenda to have all of my children taken from me. (I'm not permitted to upload the Child Protection Disclosure Files at this time.)
The original Child Workers were very helpful and wanted to help protect the children. They had verified Risk of Harm with our abuser, but they had to keep closing the file because of Lack of Jurisdiction. (I've attached letters showing their words verifying risk of harm.)
When I was eventually threatened by one of the previous Family Court Judges with arrest if I did not bring the children to visit their father despite having serious concerns for their issues with self-harm, anxiety attacks, and suicide ideation at the thought of going to their father, I went back to Child Protection Services begging them for help when my second child went into distress being forced to visit our abuser.
I was concerned seeing my second child in distress, being admitted to the hospital with anxiety attacks, because I had almost lost my first child to secret suicide plans. (I had found the suicide notes in time to save her, and in her notes, she had written about how she could not deal with her father's abuse any longer and she had been taking it out on herself behind a locked bathroom door...)
This was the gist of what I said to a New Child Protection Worker as I expressed my fears and frustrations:
"Previous Child Protection Workers from your office have written letters verifying Risk of Harm with the father, but your office keeps closing the file telling me that nothing can be done because of the American Jurisdiction...My second child is now in distress again, but I'm here showing you Threats of Jail from the American Court if I don't bring her and her siblings to visit the man that YOUR ORGANIZATION verifies is a Risk of Harm to them, so shouldn't you be doing something to stop me from bringing these children to the place where YOU verify they're being harmed?"
I had no idea that the NEW Worker was then going to turn on me, condemn me for being upset while trying to advocate for my children, and that her team would start working with my abuser to take my children from me and actually ignore the dangers.
I can't upload any of the Disclosure Files that I've recently received, but the files show that the new Child Workers who re-opened the case when I begged them for help, used my Child Protection concerns against me and decided to support my abuser's lies and manipulations right from the beginning despite having evidence of the dangerous facts in this case.
I had shown the New Workers the historical evidence in my case, including Court Transcripts where the original Judge had stated for the Record that the number of Domestic Violence cases marching through his Courtroom is disturbing in and of itself, but he stated that MY case was one of the more extreme cases of Domestic Violence he had heard. (I've attached parts of those Transcripts to this campaign.)
But these new Child Workers have ignored any evidence that didn't fit into the narrative they had agreed to help my abuser with, according to their Disclosure Files.
They ignored the evidence that Police and Doctors have tried to protect each of the children at different times when their self-harm and suicide issues would arise from being forced to visit our abuser, and my concerns have been ignored to the detriment of my children. (I've attached excerpts from Police Reports showing how they protected my child at the time, leaving him "safe at home with Mom", and that sending him to his father would be facilitating his suicide.)
I need a lot of help to present the hundreds of files of evidence I have that proves how the Child Protection Workers have failed to protect the children, and have contributed to misleading the Court.
There are many layers to my story, which makes it difficult for me to know where to begin, and how to condense what needs to be explained.
The main Child Protection Worker pretended to be unaware of the Domestic Violence Assaults, Rape, Terroristic Threats Indictments, & Convictions in my case, while being questioned by Police. Officers could see how this Worker was trying to protect my rapist who had been threatening to kill me, who has been making my children turn suicidal.
The Officers tried to make her understand that her actions were considered Facilitating Child Suicide, but she was unfazed, and remained in full support of the abuser.
The Officers provided me with a Supplemental Report so that I could prove the Child Worker's lies that were attached to her dangerous agenda to have my children taken from me and sent to live with our Abuser in the USA.
I have uploaded some images related to my case as follows:
(1) Images of Texts from my little girl in distress...
(2) One of her suicide comments that she posted to her friends online...
(3) Images from a Video Animation that she made for me of a Little Girl abandoned by her Mother, lost to a Purple Monster. She animated herself onto a Missing Child Poster, and also animated Blood being thrown at her, as well as crying Tears of Blood...
(4) Criminal Court Documents from when my Abusive Rapist assaulted me and threatened he was going to murder me that day and make it look like an accident or a suicide...
(5) A Recent Legal Invoice showing over $131,000 USD currently due…
(6) Image from the American Psychiatrist's Report admitting that he never spoke with me, the children, or anyone else other than my Abuser and his girlfriend, and that his opinions are based solely on the information provided by my Abuser...
(7) Court Records showing that the American Psychiatrist was found guilty of Gross Negligence, Gross Incompetence, Misconduct, etc...
(8) Two Police Report Excerpts showing how my suicidal son at the time was protected by Police who stated that sending him to his father would be Facilitating a Suicide...
(9) Two Original Child Protection Closing Letter Excerpts verifying Risk of Harm with Dad, but closing the file because of Jurisdiction issues...
(10) Transcript Excerpts from Original Family Judge describing how my abuser confessed to crimes against me in an extreme case of Domestic Violence, and the Judge rejected any minimization of what he'd done...
The screenshots that I uploaded from my daughter's animation video shows a Purple Monster yelling at the child, "You're Mine Now" and the little girl then gets something thrown at her, and her face and eye turn bloody.
The lyrics say that the thought of being lost to the monster "lingers in her mind and keeps getting stronger", as she animates herself with tears of blood.
When the lyrics talk about "the future luring in like a pack of snakes", she animates herself with blood on her.
She also animated a poster of a Missing Child, with the picture of the little girl who's been abandoned by the mother.
She states herself that she expresses herself through art, and she has described that it takes a lot of effort just to animate one frame of these videos she creates.
Her message to me is clear that she's afraid of the Purple Monster and she doesn't understand why she's been "abandoned" by her mother.
The ending of the lyrics of her video say that she is "pondering the sanity of her mother".
It is clear that our abuser is making her feel as though I've abandoned her because around the same time she made that animation for me, he sent out emails and made statements for the Court accusing me of having abandoned her, so therefore the Court should let him keep her permanently.
It's clear that one of his reasons for making sure he blocks her from me is so that he can further his narrative that she's been abandoned. If he can show that there's "no contact", then it will make his "abandonment" story look true.
I'd like to include a link to a case from 2014 showing how a Canadian Judge rebuked a Child Protection Agency for appalling conduct when they failed to protect children, and protected the abusive parent instead.
The Judge stated on Record that the Agency acted in Bad Faith and that the children have been scarred as a result. This Child Protection scandal shows that Protection Workers and their Supervisors and Directors are indeed capable of behaving in bad faith and causing harm to the children they are supposed to protect.
I have so much evidence to prove that this is exactly what has been happening in my case...
I hope that my story can help the general public become more informed about how such Professionals can be responsible for causing damage to so many children's lives.
In the meantime, I need to keep fighting for my children's safety, and get my little girl back home, but I'm no longer able to continue with payments on the legal bills. I've lost everything, I still owe tens of thousands of dollars to friends and family, and all resources have been exhausted after struggling to keep up since 2011. Luckily I've been able to get enough Overdraft protection from my bank in order to keep the necessary utilities from being disconnected for now, as per the monthly threats I've been getting on a regular basis. If the bank were to deny that safety net any time soon, we'd be on the street...which is where my abuser would love to see me since he didn't succeed when he tried to murder me in 2011.
I just don't understand how the system expects protective mothers who've escaped domestic violence to access hundreds of thousands of dollars like this in order to have a chance at keeping children alive and safe.
I'd like to share another link for people to understand the background of Dr. Gardner's Theory that my abuser has been asserting in his quest to take my children from me....
This is the theory that is also supported by the Child Protection Workers involved in my case, as they've lied in reports and manipulated facts to try and make my abuser's "theory" from Dr. Gardner fit.
The Psychiatrist involved in my case, who has been disciplined in the past for gross negligence and gross misconduct, is a major supporter of this dangerous Theory that has caused harm to my children and is keeping them in danger.
In this video clip from Ducote Law, Dr. Gardner is excited to explain how mothers should beat their children if they speak up about s-xual abuse from their fathers, and threaten them to never speak like that again.
He laughs as he describes how mothers and children should be jailed for speaking up about any s-xual abuse from the fathers to deter them from ever speaking about it again.
This video clip of Dr. Gardner helps explain part of what my abuser and the Child Protection Workers have been using against me to take my children from me for speaking up about how his abuse has affected them:
This link below provides an overview of how Dr. Gardner's clinical work involved protecting fathers who were abusing their children:
Here are a few Quotes from this link to highlight the extreme views of Dr. Gardner who invented this theory that my abuser has been asserting in Family Court for years:
"Pedophilia may enhance the survival of the human species by serving "procreative purposes."
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (pp. 24-5)
"Gardner suggests that children want to have sex with adults and may seduce them."
"Some children experience " high sexual urges in early infancy. " "There is good reason to believe that most, if not all, children have the capacity to reach orgasm at the time they are born."
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (p. 15)
"Children are naturally sexual and may initiate sexual encounters by "seducing" the adult."
Gardner, R.A. (1986). Child Custody Litigation: A Guide for Parents and Mental Health Professionals. Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics (p. 93).
"Older children may be helped to appreciate that sexual encounters between an adult and a child are not universally considered to be reprehensible acts. The child might be told about other societies in which such behavior was and is considered normal. The child might be helped to appreciate the wisdom of Shakespeare's Hamlet, who said, "Nothing's either good or bad, but thinking makes it so."
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics.(p. 549)
"If the mother has reacted to the abuse in a hysterical fashion, or used it as an excuse for a campaign of denigration of the father, then the therapist does well to try and "sober her up".... Her hysterics ... will contribute to the child's feeling that a heinous crime has been committed and will thereby lessen the likelihood of any kind of rapproachment with the father. One has to do everything possible to help her put the "crime" in proper perspective. She has to be helped to appreciate that in most societies in the history of the world, such behavior was ubiquitous [i.e., everywhere], and this is still the case."
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (pp. 576-7)
"Perhaps she can be helped to appreciate that in the history of the world his behavior has probably been more common than the restrained behavior of those who do not sexually abuse their children."
Gardner, R.A. (1992). True and False Accusations of Child Sex Abuse . Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics. (pp. 585)
"One of the steps that society must take to deal with the present hysteria is to 'come off it' and take a more realistic attitude toward pedophilic behavior." (p. 120)
"The Draconian punishments meted out to pedophiles .go far beyond what I consider to be the gravity of the crime." (p. 118)
Gardner, R.A. (1991). Sex Abuse Hysteria: Salem Witch Trials Revisited. Cresskill, NJ: Creative Therapeutics.
- Abolish mandated reporting of child sexual abuse.
- Do away with immunity for reporters of child abuse.
- Create federally-funded programs to assist those claiming to have been falsely accused of child sexual abuse.
Gardner, R.A. (1995). Written testimony on HR3588 - Proposed revision of the child abuse prevention and treatment act (CAPTA) (Public Law 93-247).
If I can get the opportunity to present all of the evidence to show the damage that the Child Protection Workers and the Gardner-Supporting Psychiatrist have caused, I have confidence that a safe decision will be made and my little girl will be allowed to come home, and her siblings will also be allowed to stay safe.
But if I can't get to present all of my evidence with proper legal counsel in the USA, which would include bringing forth a legal case against the involved unethical Professionals in Canada, I'm afraid that I will lose my little girl to suicide, as well as her older brother who has become even more suicidal since discovering how his little sister has been affected like this by our abuser.
As each day goes by now, preparing for Trial, all I can do is cross my fingers that my little girl doesn't do something else to try and kill herself while she's with our abuser, blocked from me and the rest of her Canadian family.
Thank you for taking the time to read part of my story.
I hope that other victims can learn something from what has been happening to my children in this case...