My Best Friend’s Top Surgery

Two years ago, I met someonewho would become very very close to my heart. When I moved to a new city and was completely and utterly alone, this person encouraged me to grow, and to succeed. We both helped each other through VERY difficult times in our lives, and when things finally began to get better for me, they seemed to spiral further and further downhill for him. I watched him eventually hit rock bottom, and despite everything I’ve done and tried to do in order to support him and pick him back up off the ground, things are still devastatingly hard.

I absolutely hate asking for money; I am fiercely independent and stubborn, and always try to rely on solely myself… but this is bigger than anything I can take on by myself. And this isn’t for me, either… this is for my best friend, who has been struggling his entire life to feel okay in his own skin. He’s completely uncomfortable when it comes to coming out about these issues, but after a lifetime of struggle, my best friend needs top surgery to correct what should’ve been right all along. He has no help whatsoever from his family, and in order to do this, I will have to take out a huge loan… but it’s the least I can do. 

With a total and utter lack of financial support from his family when it comes to finding a psychiatrist and receiving hormone therapy in order to feel more comfortable in his body and with who he is, my friend has been fighting such a tiring, exhausting and DIFFICULT battle all of his life. He is not comfortable with showing his face here (or being out in the first place), so I'm doing the best I can to post this in a way that he approves of and feels comfortable with sharing.

We've been looking at two surgeons; Dr. Paul Costas in Concord, MA and Dr. Richard Bartlett in Brookline, MA. Both are giving him quotes for over $8,000 for a Double Incision procedure. I am helping as much as I can with the cost of his surgeries, as well as hormone therapy and routine doctor visits… but with a surgery coming up that will cost at least $8,000… we really, really need all of the help we can get. 

More than anything, I want him to be confident, and happy, and not feel as trapped as he does now. So I’m asking for help.... ANYTHING will help… And honestly I feel horrible asking for money, but this is for my best friend’s emotional and physical well-being, and I would appreciate it SO much if you were able to help out in any way imaginable.

Thank you SOOOOOO much. So so so much.

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