Hi! My name is Andrew, I'm a 19 yrs, gay, from Romania. I'm raising money to be able to buy a plane ticket to move to New Zealand, where I can love whoever I want without being discriminated.
I was always attracted to boys, even when I was a kid I was always so shy when I had to talk with cute boys and I felt more comfortable being around girls. I was bullied for that.. Being called a girl, gay(as an insult). I grew up watching my parents fighting each other all the time.. At the age of 6 or 7, not sure, I saw my parents strangle each other.. I was always compared to my cousin, whatever I did my parents told me she did it better. Don't get me wrong, I love her and it's not her fault.. I was bullied even by my own parrents and so is my sister today. Whenever I didn't know how to resolve an exercise form homework I was called an idiot, stupid. Later on I found out from my mother that I was a mistake, that I was not supposed to happen, that I just happened and now here I am. I mean, I understand that there are a lot of "surprise" pregnancies but I belive there are way better ways to tell your kid that he was a "surprise".
Being part of the LGBT community in Romania is hard. You can't approach the person you like because he/she might tell other people or make fun of you in public for expressing your feelings. Especially if you live in a small town like I do, the whole town will know the next day and you won't be able to get outside. Parents in Romania are so obsessed with what will the people say, that they don't realise how much they hurt their kids or that the people actually don't care. When I came out of the closet to my parents.. ugh.. a horrible night. I told my mom first, because I always felt that she is more understanding and she were at first. But later on she forced me to tell my father even if I was not ready because she "couldn't carry the weight" by herself anymore. And so I did.. When I told my father the first thing he did was to turn his face from me and look to a wall for 5 min. Then he started to tell me about god, and what will people say, that I am mentally ill, that I am not normal, a freak and of course all of this while yelling at me. When I told him that he can't force my feelings, and nobody can control who they fall in love with he told me "Do you listen to yourself? You will love who is right to love!" After all of that, my mom kinda turned against me too. She wasn't supportive anymore, almost at all. And so I had to lie to them later on, saying that i got "cured". That it passed.
People told me to get a job and save up money. I can't save up money because of them. Whenever I have some money from birthday, christmas etc. , they ask me for them to pay bills or debts.
Why New Zealand? Because I made great friends there and they told me a lot about it. About living there and LGBT community and it's everything Romania is not..
All I want is to live there in peace and happiness. The 2500 dollars will be used to get the plane ticket, to cover the passport and paperwork(translating diplomas etc) and to have a little something for the long road wich is about 40h and to have some money for the first couple of days until I find a job. Once I get there I will stay at one of the friends until I find a job and a place.
Please donate if you can and share! Thank you so much!