For the background, I'm a 22 year old male that currently unemployed for health reasons (hypertension and kidney infection) and mental health reasons (depression and eating), currently under treatment. My family and I are legally identified as living in poverty, with no assets and savings. The healthcare i got is free, but the nearby health center from my place is about 40 KM away that costs about IDR 30.000 (USD 2) for runaround trip, twice - trice a week, and I have to eat specific dietary restrictions for my kidney and eating disorder issues. I stil have about IDR 2.600.000 (about USD 180) in my bank account until I'm allowed to find a job again.
In my village with Minangkabau influences, sudden arranged marriages are very common things in here, and in my lineage group, if someone denies it, they have to pay the rejection fee or being kicked out of village with no belongings. Sadly I was the victim of that on Thursday, October 15th 2020. I rejected the arrangement plan by the lineage elders with a widow that way much older than me (40 year old), then I have to pay the fee right after I said no with the price of 2,5 grams of gold (1 ameh) or I have to leave the village next morning without my belongings and never come back. I paid the fee with all the money I have, and my health and mental health are getting worse since I have two anxiety attack after the incident. I lost all the money and I have a chance of being mistreated by people in my neighborhood.
For every one out there who read my story, please share it so there wont be other victims of arranged marriage like me, and also please help me to get my health and mental treatment done.
Thank you for reading.