Just let me tell you why we asking for help...
Just over 10 years ago my boyfriend has been injured while training rugby.
His right arm has been litteraly pushed out of the shoulder socket.
Because of that he had to stop college course to become a fireman and stop training rugby and boxing.
He needed an operation to keep his arm in place, because it was coming out every day when he was doing simple tasks as dreesing up, taking a shower or even looking over his shoulder.
His grandma (she passed away this year-bless her) has paid few thousand pounds for his first operation to do it privately, because there was a few months wait if done by NHS.
Unfortunately the operation did not work and soon he needed another operation.
This time it was done by NHS, as his family couldn't afford to pay for another private operation.
They used different method and it seemed to work.
When I met him back in 2010 he was a healty and young guy.
I would never think he has any health problems or had any in the past, but this has changed.
Middle of 2012 we started to live together and things were going great, but end of the same year my boyfriend started to experience pains in his right shoulder and his arm would partialy dislocate, but we couldn't understand why because he had metal pins in his shoulder to keep it in.
Some days the pains were so strong he would feel sick or even pass out.
After few weeks he went to a doctor and then was reffered to a specialist.
They told us that one of the pins is loose and it isn't were it supposed to be.
The decision was made and in August 2013 he had another operation.
The plan was to use a newer method of keeping his shoulder in place and remove the pin that has been floating in his muscle.
After the operation (which was half an hour longer than it supposed to be) they told us that they couldn't locate the pin and they had to leave it in as the anestetic was wearing off and they had to finish the operation.
They told us it is not going to cause any problems so we forgot about it.
After the operation the recovery time is about 3 months to do simpler tasks and about 6 months of rehabilitation to be able fully use your arm.
Just before Christmas my boyfriend gone back to work, but there was an incident at his workplace and he hurt his bad arm, so he was made redundant because he wasn't able to work on the till and and protect the petrol station incase of another robery.
He strugled to find another job as he had to attend his rehabilitation program.
After his rehabilitation finished he wasn't able to do certain things with his arm anymore.
Lifting heavier things or workout properly or even swim, but he tried to slowly rebuild the muscle around his shoulder, by doing light workouts.
We couldn't afford living in our flat as I was on zero hour contract and I never knew what I would be paid the next month.
We have moved in with his mum and dad at the begining of 2014 and he finally found a pernament job in August 2014.
His arm did hurt a little bit sometimes, but he alwayas said he is fine.
Begining of 2015 after we just gone to bed and he put his arm under the pillow and something happened with his shoulder, he was in so much pain he passed out-twice.
I asked his mum and dad to assist me as I was really confused why it is happening.
After it happend couple of times he went to see a doctor and they said that it looks like he will need another operation because the pins they used are a little bit too long, but he can pick the date of the operation.
He really didn't wanted to have another operation as he had a good job and he didn't wanted to lose it so he put it off for few months.
His arm wasn't playing up for couple of months and we started planing on moving out and I got a better job.
Unfortunately just before we moved into our new house he lost his job but that wasn't stoping us.
He got a job through agency on the day we moved in and he was working every day, so we could get on with our lifes.
We moved into a house on our own because we were planning to have a baby.
After 2 weeks of being in our house my boyfriend got an interview for a pernament job, but on the day of the interview, just after I have got to work he called and said his arm has locked and he can't move it and it really hurts.
His dad took him to a hospital and they have done some x-rays.
They found out that the pin they couldn't locate at the last operation and THE pin that shouldn't cause any problems moved all the way to his socket and has locked his arm.
The hospital has booked him in for an appoitmet to see specialist on the 23rd of December.
Since the visit in hospital his arm has been a little bit better, but he has to be careful.
We know he is facing another operation and he will not be able to work, so we have tried to get some help from the Goverment, but we not entitled to any help.
He is not eligible for Employment and Support Allowance which is for people with low income or for people that are not able to work.
The reason for not been eligible is that he didn't pay enough National Insurance from April 2013-April 2014 which is ridiciolous.
In August 2013 he had his 3rd operation and he wasn't working because of that, so he wasn't able to pay any Insurance.
We have tried to get a Housing Benefit or at least Council Tax reduction to make our bills more affordable for us, but we not eligible to anything.
I really dissagre with this decisions, because my boyfriend has been working for 10years and I've been working for over 5 and we have always paid taxes and National Insurance.
And now the Goverment thinks that 1100£ is enough for 2 people.
The bills and rent are 800£ a month, not including food.
Unforutnately neither of our parents can help us, the Goverment refuses to.
All we need is a little bit of help until my boyfriend can work again.
We are hoping the operation will be done as soon as possible.
We really want a family, but we simply can not afford it with my boyfriend needing operations every other year.
I am thinking of getting a second job just for a weekends, but I know I can't do it for too
long, because everybody needs a rest at some point. I work over 40 hours a week already.
All we need is probably around 100£ a month to get through for few months. This is why Im asking for about 500£, but every penny counts.
It feels wrong to ask stranges for help, but I can't think of anything else anymore.
I appriciate every kind of help.
I promise the day I have spare money myself I will help others.
I actually used to give money to "Shelter - housing and homelessnes charity"
Because as a child I used to move a lot and never had enough money, but when I've moved to UK I have paid money to this charity for about year and a half until my boyfirend had 3rd operation and I couldn't afford it anymore.
Big Thank You to anyone that will help us