Some of you may not know this about Pam, but she has taken care of members of her family off and on practically her entire adult life.
When her aunt DeDe could no longer care for herself and refused to go to a nursing home; Pam took care of her while raising her son. It wasn’t easy either as Aunt DeDe was elderly with serious health problems, mainly diabetes. Pam cared for Aunt DeDe for 14 years, adminsitering daily injections, bathing, etc.
Pam is also credited with raising the family’s kids. Aunts, Uncles, and cousins alike relied on Pam to take care of their kids during the day. Known as Pam’s kids, everywhere she went her brood followed. Adults now, they’ll tell you growing up they loved going to Pam’s house.
After all of the kids grew up and started school, it would be older family members who would eventually turn to Pam for help. After years of taking care of her aunt and kids with serious health problems, one could see her starting a career as a nurse or somewhere in the healthcare field. However she was needed closer to home. When her grandfather fell ill from Emphysema, she cared for his at his house until his death.
Before her 50th birthday she would go on to care for a host of aunts and uncles and her own mother. In each case Pam cared for them like family with skills of a professional. Taking care of other people obviously cames natural to Pam. The day has come where it’s her turn to be taken care of.
For the better part of her life, Pam has been basically healthy as can be expected for someone of her age and lifestyle, that is ntil she received some devastating news. While she knew there was a chance she could inherited the disease it didn’t rear its head until her early 40’s. The aunt she cared for had it, her grandmother had and now she has it too. Pam was diagnosed with Rheumatoid Arthritis which can be very painful and causes joints to become deformed.
While Pam is determined not to let her RA hold her back, it’s done a number on her body in such a short period of time. While she is still the spirited and opinionated women we all know and love, its changed her just a little. So now combined with the intense pain and deterioration of her joints we are now at the point where she’s going to need her first surgery.
You know it takes some severe arm twisting to get her on the inside of a hospital as a patient; however she realizes that she’s run out of options. The doctors have scheduled her for hip replacement surgery for mid-November. Unfortuneately that means she’ll be convalescing at home during the holidays.
This is where your support comes in, the friends and family who know how much Pam has contributed to all of our lives. She’s going to need a little help for the month or two she recovering from surgery. I’ve put this page up for her friends and family to donate what you can. She’s been the person you can count on when comes to an emergency. Whether it was a hot meal when you needed it, a place to stay when there was nowhere to turn, a non-judgmental ear or a pit-bull in your corner, Pam has been all those things and more to the people who know and love her. Now it our turn to be there for her.