IN HOPE IS POWER
I am a mom of two kids and the grandmother of five great grandchildren. I am 67 years old and I can say for my husband, he is real gold.
If anyone had announced my future 4 years ago, and all the problems that would be piling on us, I would probably have told him that he was crazy. The situation is now really intolerable and more difficult day by day. We experience shock after shock.
Due to all the events and the associated stress, I became ill with cancer, lymphoma in the last stage. Thanks to really difficult therapies that lasted almost 3 years, cancer is currently stopped. I am afraid of his resurgence, which in my current situation would be no wonder. The power only gives me hope that things will work out.
Unfortunately, things get worse from year to year and I get a new bang every day. At this time last year, I told myself that next year I would not survive anything like this unless things were settled, but now it is even more difficult.
The hardest part is when the holidays are approaching, Christmas, New Year. These were the most beautiful family holidays for us, and I remember having them happily in my family. Christmas dinner with all the grandchildren, Santa Claus came to visit us ......, it was indescribably beautiful. Then, since it broke like a soap bubble.
I will try to describe the situation as briefly as possible, although I could write indefinitely. The story is not over yet, I don't know when it will be and what the end will be ...
I hope and believe in a miracle and I heartily wish a happy ending.
I said at the beginning that I have two children. The son is a preschool teacher and unfortunately does not get a job in his profession. The daughter is a fashion designer and I can honestly say that she was very successful at times. She was known for evening dresses and corsets. Her outfits have garnered the highest accolades and wins in competitions. In the Miss World competition in China, her outfit came in the top three. The dress was worn by an Austrian miss and this dress also contributed to her success. To our daughters the reiting only grew. She has worked with top textile manufacturers from Italy and France.
My husband and I were constantly investing in her development. We took out loans for that. We also opened two show rooms. At the time, however, the crisis began and evening dresses were no longer sold at all. We began to think about where to direct our business.
It was then, by chance, that a wealthy Russian investor appeared with his wife, who immediately fell in love with our clothes.
They decided to have an exclusive for all ex-Soviet states, namely high-end evening dresses. An investor has started to design a very prestigious store in the center of Moscow.
We got the necessary material and started making clothes. We also purchased the necessary packaging, velvet boxes, silk paper ..., of course, of a high price, as each suit had its own certificate of uniqueness.
Unfortunately, the crisis in Russia started. To get complicated, our partner began to delay taking over his clothes, but in a short time he collapsed. Together with him also our company, which was only intended for production for Russia.
My daughter broke it quietly. She no longer found true meaning in life. She began to resort to various spiritual sects.
Despite having a wonderful family, a daughter of 9 years old at the time and a son of 6 years old, she began to wonder, staying out of home. I knew something was wrong. I warned her partner that something was wrong and that she should talk to her. She was sending me strange messages in the middle of the night - I didn't understand anything more… Her deepening into the wrong spirituality took her into her world.
My opinion is that you must first help yourself and then you can count on the help from the site. I know it is right that you believe in something, because faith makes you strong, but not in this way.
Her partner hoped that this situation would pass away and that she would come to herself. Unfortunately, things went too far and he could not influence her more. It just went down. She didn't want to listen to me either. She started lying to herself and us.
During that time, the bank put her in bankruptcy. I figured it would happen, so I started a parallel business company, transferred all the activities to this new business and tried to start the business in new way. But my daughter did her way. At the time, she also told us that she was leaving her family because of a new partner.
Her reason was that the two children would grow up, so now is the last time she does something for herself. At times, she condemned this behavior herself, since she was a good wife and mother.
Her new partner was a bad man who even took advantage of life partners. He persuaded even his mother to give him an apartment that he immediately sold and bought on a weekend in the hills, on the pretext that he had a partner who owns a business where he would be the CEO.
Fortunately, the company was owned by me and thank God I discovered its purpose.
Everything I told my daughter, she told him. He convinced her that everything is lie. Through his influence on her, he made her break off contact with his brother and his family.
She cut off contact with her whole family and even her friends.
I constantly warned her because I wanted to protect at least her children.
I made the big mistake. She stop and make impossible for me and her father to have any contact with our grandchildren.
My husband and I both raised our grandchildren from the first month to the second year of age, mostly since she had been in the workshop all day. The kids always said they had the best grandparents in the world. I have a lot of drawings and products that they made and wrote about how they love us, but at one time they were banned from visiting and interviewing us. Shock for us, and a shock for children.
Good thing, her ex-partner father is a kid completely different man. He leaves us in contact with them. This year, I was seen the children 3 times. I cannot explain how happy we all were.
Unfortunately, our daughter is hostile to us and we no longer exist for her.
I know the reason is her love, who even threatened me with lawyers.
After six months, our daughter realized what a scammer and manipulator her new partner really was, and left him.
We hoped that after that our relationship would be better, but worse. Our daughter hates us even more.
Many times I wonder why? I can't believe it's her. My husband and I offered a hand to forget everything and move on. She, however, is one who does not want us, to be part of her world.
In all this, I fight cancer myself. An oncologist always warns me that I am stressed, though I deny it. The doctor fears for my health. But to whom should I tell what is happening to me. My daughter is mine and I love her despite all of problems and her behavior. I believe it is not her fault that she thinks so because others have brainwashed her. When a sect gets you into your ring, it's hard to get rid of. They brainwashed her to wipe all things off her head ... (family, friends). They tell her that their god and cosmos will help her. Of course, all these different classes cost a lot of money.
As a human, I can understand everything, but I don't understand that you give up your parents who gave you everything ....
All the loans and debt fell on us with my husband, as we all took over, just to make it easier for her.
Now we're all in big trouble. I would understand everything if my daughter behaved normally to us. However, she refuses to hear about her debts, and directs all people to me because she is "bankrupt and has nothing to do with it."
With what has happened to us, four families are at risk. Sometimes I think about committing suicide. However, when I think of five grandchildren who love us very much and the pain that this would cause on the domestic, I struggle to move on.
They already suffer enough. Therefore, I should not allow myself to do this, although it is very difficult to withstand.
How much worse she did to her brother, who has three children. He pledged his apartment for our credit at the bank. The apartment has already been auctioned twice. We're raising money for lawyers to delay moving to the road. However, this only delays the worst. But there are no solutions.
We have the same story with the family house. Every moment I and my husband can be on the road. We will no longer be able to delay the worse.
My husband and I really have a lot of problems, but I still have to calm down acquaintances from whom my daughter borrowed money and now she no longer wants to know them.
Because of all the stress, my husband had a serious car accident. Later, he was bitten by a hornet and was in a hospital in a coma, but our daughter never asked how he was.
All this is killing me. But I have to hold on because I believe that with a little financial help, we can solve everything.
I shudder every day as to who will knock on the door, what kind of mail will come out of court.
I have also a son whose grandchildren I would do anything for.
I hope and believe in the impossible, I also believe that miracles are happening and that there are good people.
I do not want for anyone who helps me to remain in debt. We have a good business project for children. Products are accompanied by motivation books. The entire program and project are protected. Everything based on organic materials.
Unfortunately, under such stress, I am now, I cannot continue. First, I have to solve personal problems, but then I can fully devote myself to a project that can pay off everything, because it has high added value.
I firmly believe in my abilities, perseverance, and dedication to our project, but most of all that my daughter will come to the realization that she believed the wrong people, that parents are only one, and they only wish her well.
That's why I'm addressing you, Good people. I hope that among you are those who are ready to help our families who are in great distress now.
The good work that you choose, if you so choose, will allow us to stay in our home.
Above all, your help will enable us, in the future, to be able to help the needy.
Thank you for your help and trust.