US$400.00Donated So Far
My (soon-to-be ex) husband was an abusive one who was negligent in his care for me as I am a disabled person. I did not have regular meals, and was not allowed to have daily showers (once a week if I was lucky), and for several years, I was not allowed to brush my teeth. I was also left alone for long hours. I do feel awful asking the public and strangers for money, but I am at my wit's end and so I'm putting myself out here, never mind my depression and never mind my anxiety, I cannot just lay down and let him trample me.
He financially abused me with my own money by controlling all my credit and debit cards. He artificially inflated the price of certain things such as rent and groceries, taxi fares, to gouge me of even more money. I am fairly sure he used my money to gamble, so there is no chance of me getting a cent back, and this is the only thing I have left to fight for.
Apart from those big red flags, he was also an animal abuser and especially liked to kick a cat I had rescued from the shelter :( He is doing a lot better now that we are physically separate from the perpetrator.
The kicker here is although I'm now in a totally different continent from him, he is keeping my belongings from me and refusing to give them back... Things include but are not limited to art and craft supplies from which I make paper crafts such as seen on here: http://stephinka.wordpress.com and any fellow artists out there can cry along with me about a lot of Copic markers and a lot of Windsor & Newton watercolour tube paints. Fountain pen lovers may be able to empathise that my collection includes numerous Visconti pens, custom Pilot pens, Pelikan, a bunch of Noodlers pens and full sets of inks I haven't touched from J. Herbin, Diamine, and Rohrer and Klinger, amongst many others. Many pens have never even seen ink. I also have a bunch of brand new Rhodia notebooks. There was just no way I could bring these back with me. The most heartbreaking thing is that I do have some fur that I clipped from a dog I had that passed away nearly 11 years ago that I planned on having someone make into jewellery so that I can keep her near to me. That is the last physical thing I have left of her other than pictures.
Here's a breakdown of the lawyer's fees that I will be looking to be paying...
A fee of $1000 is quoted to me by my lawyer to find out if. he has a secret property bought in Australia, which was where we lived, and yes, he did take that kind of money from my family. I doubt he has the fortitude to save the money up but you can never be too sure.
I also need approximately $20k +/- to get my belonging back from my husband as he does not seem to want to cooperate: breakdown of costs from my lawyer are as follows- $750 for a letter to fire a warning shot, $2250 for every 5 hours they spend packing up things, and the rest is to ship it back in the shipping container.... So the costs may rise.
Finally about the divorce itself, my lawyer Is charging me approx $2500 for the divorce proceedings. I will need this by May as divorce papers will be served in June 2020.
Thank you for reading this far! Any amount you donate will be very much appreciated, and you are welcome to share my Youtube channel which I created for the purpose of sharing my music with everyone. Please excuse me as I have not received any training to be a singer and am just recording in my bedroom.
- Hui Hui Stephanie Kong
- Campaign Owner
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