Hello my name is Karley and I am coming to you to ask for your help and support to help save my future family.
I have been with the love of my life for two years. At the beginning of our relationship we suffered through a lot of hardship and trials because we started dating before his divorce wasn’t final and the “six months” were not up. We were kicked out of our church, judged and prosecuted by people we thought were our friends even family. We are currently attending Rock Harbor where we are loved and accepted and we love it there. The divorce has been final for over a year now and we thought that all the drama would stop but it didn’t. New drama and heartache appeared in our lives.
Ryan has three beautiful children two boys and a little girl, Aidan, Lincoln, and sweet Brooklynn. They are the most precious angels I have ever seen. They bring me so much joy and they are absolutely head over heels in love with their daddy. They never want to leave his side, and my bond and relationship has grown with them so much I consider them my own, and one day soon I will be so proud to be their step mom.
The day the divorce was final my boyfriends ex announced to the world that she had been seeing a man that none of us knew and they had been dating longer than Ryan and I (to this day, almost a year later, we have only met this man once). One day at drop off Ryan’s ex told him she was getting married in June 2013 and moving to Dana Point. Ryan really thought nothing of it and we were all shocked how fast she was getting remarried, we were more concerned about the kids being around a man we knew nothing about and who she wouldn’t allow us to meet.
The weeks went by and Dana Point turned into San Clemente and then Carlsbad. The custody agreement they both agreed to said both parties could only move within a 40 mile radius so obviously Ryan said that wasn’t going to happen because that violated the court paperwork.
Every time at pick up or drop off she constantly harassed Ryan telling him she was moving no matter what and he wasn’t going to stop her. She told him that her new husband would replace him and the kids would finally know what a real dad is. Please not when Ryan was married to her she worked full time and he worked at night so he could raise and watch the kids, after they divorced he had them four to five times a week. Ryan coached their baseball and she NEVER attended a game. Ryan is a police officer and she even threatened to get his work involved, which she did. On Valentines Day, the day after her threat, Ryan was served with a restraining order and put on leave from work because she made something up about Ryan so she could get what she wanted. She thought of the most horrible thing and did it. Our lives drastically changed that Valentines Day, the worst day of my life. I saw pain and devastation in Ryan’s eyes every day… he wanted his babies and he cried for them every night.
We didn’t see the kids for two months… Ryan was so devastated he could lose everything even his freedom because she would do anything to get what she wanted. We would wake up every morning sick to our stomach worrying about the kids and where they were and how they were doing… She yanked them out of all their sports and picked up and moved, basically vanished. When the restraining order came to an end Ryan had a choice do what she wanted and have the restraining order dropped or not agree and lose everything and have a restraining order on him for ever. He agreed to what ever she wanted and she got to move 89 miles away to San Diego, sole custody, and Ryan got the kids only every other weekend. This order was to stay in place for six months.
Well the six months are almost up and so is all of our money… She has continued to harass Ryan and me and has not let us see the kids and extra day besides every other weekend. She constantly tells Ryan the kids are better off without him and does everything in her power to break him down. She is nasty nasty lady who only thinks of herself. She is now married and trying to force her new “happy life” on us, when we don’t care, and make our lives miserable. The kids miss Ryan so much and always ask when can they live with us not her. They cry every time I drop them off and it breaks my heart, they miss their daddy. The kids have been through so much and she is only making things worse by keeping their dad away from them. She has even gone as far as to tell them that their dad doesn’t love them. Those kids are the number one thing in Ryan’s life and in mine!
Ryan and I were planning on getting engaged and married this year and starting our lives together but we both had to use all of our savings on Ryan and hers lawyer’s fees, and the money has run out. He doesn’t have the funds to hire his lawyer to go to court and fight for custody of his kids… That’s why I am coming to you all… This has been the hardest thing I have ever been through in my life. I think about the kids every day and miss them every minute, I love them so much and can’t wait to be their step mom, I will do anything for them and for Ryan. I have been working non-stop and Ryan has been working 18 hour shifts just to cover what he needs to but its just not enough. I am asking you from the bottom of my heart to help us… These kids are our life. If we raise this money he will be able to go to court and fight for split custody which is what they had before. He will be asking for two weekends in a row, then a weekend off, then a weekend one, then a weekend off, repeating in that order. Of course he wants every other holiday, and half of all their breaks. He just wants to see the loves of his life and to be their father… that’s all.
God has been our rock through all of this and we know he has a plan for us and this has all happened for a reason. Ryan’s relationship and mine is so strong and we are so happy with each other now we just need our babies and our family will be complete and we can move on and start our own blended family.
Thank you for reading our story, anything helps…. God bless you all!