This is a very sad story and I need urgent help as my aunt is in a very advanced stage of Alzheimer's Disease. I am her only relative alive. My aunt is 85 years old and she is in a nursing home for the elderly. The facility is lovely, it is a charity, very clean, comfortable and all the staff there are volunteers with a heart of gold. Patients there are well fed, taken care of and they receive medical care. It is very basic though.
As for the real sad part that is yet to come unfortunately...my aunt lost her two sons and her husband around 20 years ago. She was a wealthy person but very vulnerable due to her losses and loneliness. She was the perfect prey for a very manipulative man to seduce her. She was needy so she fell in love with him and moved at his place. He gradually began to brainwash her against all people close to her, including me -her only relative. His aim was to isolate her and he succeeded. He then proceeded to convince her to sell her two properties and then convinced her to have joint bank account. A few years later she found herself with nothing left and completely dependent on him. Plus she had already developed Alzheimer's.
Three years ago she fell and broke her hip. She had hip surgery and the hospital acknowledged that she was no longer self-sufficient and needed special care both for physiotherapy and for dementia. Her partner found the cheapest facility to put her in and she was admitted into this nursery home then. I love that woman like a second mother. She raised me together with my mom. I tried on many occasions to get back in touch with her but -as I wrote- she was brainwashed against me. So I asked friends overseas to keep an eye on her and it is only last year that a friend found out where she is and what terrible conditions she is in. I visit her on a regular basis and spend a whole month where she is but I live far away and when I have to leave nobody comes to visit her. She is all alone. No stimuli whatsoever, no TV, no radio, no activities. No one to talk to except for staff and other patients with dementias.
She never even had a formal diagnosis of Alzheimer's until I found her last year. I immediately made sure she had blood tests, a CT scan and organized for a neurologist to follow her up and for someone to keep her company at least twice a week when I am not in the country. This is the best I can do. Her partner will pay for nothing extra than this basic care.
CT scan report states that she suffers from a very aggressive form of Alzheimer's, even for her age. She also has a severe Aphasia (i.e. speech impairment). Had she been given a prompt diagnosis and prompt treatment she probably wouldn't be in such a poor state now. She was a victim of neglect. She recognizes me, always smiles when she sees me and with a lot of patience she is able to form short sentences. I noticed that she is more motivated to make an effort when me or others give her the attention she craves and deserves so much.
My aunt needs regular physiotherapy sessions, medications for Alzheimer's, she broke three teeth and needs a dentist. She also needs to take part in some activities and try to keep her brain as active as possible. She needs company and love more importantly as she has been severely deprived of them. I would love her to have pet therapy, I know she'd respond really well to it.
She was the most adorable and generous woman in her heyday. She never hesitated to help those in need and I would love to give back to her what she gave out to so many, always with a smile. I wish you could see how kind her eyes are. The only reason I had to blur them is for her own dignity. I don't think she would like knowing her photo is out there for everyone to see, especially when she is most in need.
Anything you could help with would be greatly appreciated, I will never give up on her, I just need some support as I can't do it on my own. She cannot get insurance at her age and with such a severe pathology. Social welfare is almost non-existent. My aunt is in Lebanon. I travel from Italy every 3 months to see her.
I would be more than happy to update you on her progress and what is being done with the funds received.
Thank you so much for reading this far.