25th August 2013; my sister and I were out shopping with my father when suddenly he collapsed; to our surprise he was having a severe and unexpected heart attack. The next day he sadly passed away 10:30 am.
For weeks, we didn't return home and stayed at my Grandmothers house. It took nearly three weeks till we could fund his funeral. But when we eventually returned home, it took a while for my mother to finally sort out his possessions of what she wanted to keep, and what was best getting rid of.
A year had gone by, and I'd visited his resting place on several occasions, for his Birthday, Christmas, Fathers day etc. But a month later I was struck with some news that till this day I haven't yet recovered from, news so terrible I wonder how my mother had kept it from us so strong hearted too. She told me now long after my Fathers funeral a woman introduced herself to my mother, she'd some how found a way to contact her, and this woman was the mother of my fathers son. A son which we didn't know about, a woman we didn't know about, but why was that such a terrible story? Because the son in question was only a month younger than me; the same age as I am. My mother and father were married a year and a half before I was born, and met and fell in love two years before that. This 'love affair' had been going on before I was born, and I say going on, as my father wasn't always at home whilst I was a child, but I never question why, or where he was, as it was just normal to me, it's the only life I knew, my mother, the same, she was clueless, he was always 'At a friends' a friend she may have been, but that wasn't all they were.
The story doesn't end there though. And this is why I'm appealing to anyone reading this. With my father living to lives, a life we didn't know he had, but this other woman knowing fully well almost two decades long, my mother must of been devastated when she found out, not long after he'd passed away, she then uncovers the lies behind their marriage. But that's not all the secrets, turn out, our house currently isn't our house, my fathers car, wasn't his car; he had two lifes, not two jobs, so how could he fund both families without re-mortgaging our house and selling of almost 99% of his car.
So with us now in debt, and with his mistress being unsupportive and not willing to help, my mother is stuck in a house with twisted memories of my father, his house, his bed, thoughts and feelings she can't escape, because the house and everything about it reminds her of him in the worst way possible, but because of the debt, we're unable to move, the house isn't ours, so I'm asking for people to help my mother, this isn't her debt, but we're stuck with it, and any money raised will help her pay of the debt owed, and also help re-decorate so she can make it more her home while we're forced to stay put, and help her rid the bad thoughts and memories for good.
Thankyou for your time, and please help us help her get her life back on track for once and for all.