My name is Verushka, I was born and raised in South Africa. I have an older sister who lives in Austria and she has 3 kids. I am married and we have two kids.
I’ve been a nurse for over 12 years and found my field of passion in working with neonatal babies (premature babies) and Peaditric patients in ICU.
In my field I see so many families lives changed by the birth or death of their baby or child and I have always felt like my personal life and tribulations are nothing compared to what others are going through but I recently find myself unable to hide my own pain and suffering.
Our father was diagnosed with emphysema in his forties. When my son was 6 months old my father suffered his first stroke and his health began to deteriorate. He went on to oxygen permanently. He was in and out of hospital with lung infections continuously.
On the 28th April 2020 at 5am my father had collapsed in the bathroom at home, his entire left side of his body was paralyzed. I phoned the ambulance and told them my father had suffered another stroke.
By the time the ambulance arrived he was able to move the left side of his body again, all being a good sign. They transported him to a hospital they recommended but 10 days after being admitted to this other hospital I requested to have him moved to where I worked so I could be closer to him and he could be cared for by his regular physician.
The day after he was admitted his lung collapsed and his dr told us that we had to make a choice, place him on a ventilator or allow him to pass on...seems like a no brainer, except it wasn’t such an easy choice because patients with end stage emphysema really struggle to get off ventilators and can suffer harsh side effects but this was our father and her husband. So we gave our permission.
Please keep in mind that this has all happened at the height of COVID-19 and we were under lockdown. We couldn’t see him and had updates over the phone and my sister who lives overseas could only do video calls with him if and when a nurse would allow her to phone. She can’t even be here because of travel bans and finances
He also had his birthday in hospital where he turned 69 and we could only see him for 15 minutes to share it with him.
He has been in hospital since April 2020 and we are still struggling to get him off the ventilator. He has fought for his life and came back from the brink of death. He is a legend and has been fighting for survival.
He hasn’t spoken to anyone since he’s been in hospital due to having a tracheostomy and we haven’t heard his voice since then either.
We recently had to insert a tube directly into his stomach to receive “feeds”.
We are trying to arrange for him to go to a rehabilitation Centre but can’t yet because he is extremely thin and weak and because he is too weak to walk or move he keeps getting recurring lung infections that make him even weaker and these infections can be fatal. Our fathers prognosis is not a good one and we know that he does not have a long life ahead of him but we want to hear his voice and be able to hug him and allow his grandkids to hug him.
Our aim is to get him strong enough to get him off the ventilator and to a rehabilitation Centre or home with his family, the care he would need can cost into the thousands.
He does have good days where he is smiling and sitting in a chair but everyday is a guess as to how he will be feeling when we go visit. Anxiety is forever present because we just don’t know what to expect.
Why do you need the money:
I work 7 nights on and 7 nights off, I would like to ideally be the one to take care of him on my week off so that I can spend as much time with him in his last days as I can but I am the one that helps support my parents and my own family and I need to work extra days for extra pay pushing a work week to sometimes 14 days straight or more but due to COVID-19 I am not always receiving as much extra pay anymore and not on a regular basis causing medical costs, schooling, utility and housing costs to pile up and the medical costs for my father and the costs for survival like having food is becoming a huge burden that I cannot carry alone.
I started a fundraiser to ask for financial help to support myself and my family so that we can do everything necessary to get my father the help and treatments he needs so we can get him home, so he can be with us for how ever long God allows him too and to remove the financial burden that is sucking the life out of me.
How can I help:
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