I don't know if this really going to help me and my family but I am trying everything possible to make my dad overcome from this worst situation.
I am Rathan Kumar, a Software Developer worked in a private IT Company in Mumbai, India and have been getting a pretty decent salary. My Dad and Mom stayed in hometown 1000 kilometers (Kundapura, Mangalore, India) away from where I live.
It all started in July 2019 when my dad started coughing too much. I ran to my hometown (Kundapura) to take my dad to the local hospital and got his chest x-ray done in Vinaya Hospital, Kundapura, Karnataka, India. and found that some kind of abnormal thing is present in the lower lobe of his right lung. Since the doctor there was not sure what it is, he asked us to go to KMC Manipal Hospital. After so many scanning, x-rays, CT, MRI, Biopsy etc doctor confirmed that this is Cancer. We were sent to Mangalore Institute of Oncology (MIO) for PET Scan since the PET scan facility is not available in KMC Manipal. (For cancer treatment, there's a different block which is called Shri Shirdi Saibaba Cancer Hospital).
In the PET Scan we came to know that the cancer cells have already spread to liver, kidney and bone. I literally cried in front of the doctor and said this is not acceptable, my dad never experienced any symptoms in early stages, I can't lose my dad I love him like anything. But doctor is like I'm sorry, for most people cancer doesn't show up in early stages. I never wanted my dad to know about this so I told him dad, you have a TB and doctor will treat you well and you will be alright very soon. But I was crying from inside and tried to act as if nothing serious has happened (this is so difficult and I never want anyone on this planet to face this situation). I know it sounds like a filmy story but unfortunately it happened in my real life.
I lied to my dad, my mom and my sister that nothing has happened it's just a TB and can be cured in few months of treatment. My younger knew the fact but he is doing his engineering degree and I cannot expect any financial help from him for now, I don't want to ruin his study.
I knew one or the other day everybody will come to know it's a Cancer but at the moment I never had the guts to tell it to my family.
I remember in August first week our Oncologist at Shirdi Sai baba cancer hospital said my dad has to undergo 6 chemotherapy. Once 6 chemo is done we will have to do PET Scan again and see how to proceed.
I requested for work from home with my office but they denied it. I was left with 2 options. Either quit the job and be with dad OR tell everything to mom and make her stay at hospital with dad for each chemotherapy ends. My mom is a soft heartened lady, she scare a lot if anything bad happens to anyone. She even cry for the people who died in an accident by seeing TV news. So I decided to quit my job for my Dad. Now I don't have a job, but needed money for living, education loan, personal loan, house rent and most expensive thing was the chemotherapy bills. So I needed money for taking care of all these bills so after quitting my job I started working as a freelancer. It was my good that I already had 2-3 clients in the US and they paid some decent money for my work. I worked from the hospital, home and from everywhere I go. I even sold my bike and my desktop computer ( because I already have a laptop). I put my moms gold jewelries and got some money on it. I requested money with my friends and family (family never helped but friends did). I did everything possible to get the 6 chemotherapy done. In total we got admitted in the hospital 10 times for 6 chemo therapies. Not only I paid for chemo but I also paid for the chemo side effects such fever antibiotic course, vomiting treatment, blood count treatment etc. I served only good and healthy food, always tried to be with him as much as possible. In short i am doing my best to fulfill all his dreams. He want my sister to be married, I have promised him I will make her wedding this year (2020), but I don't know from where I will bring that much money for the wedding. But I never want to let him know any of my financial problems. He just have to be happy!
My dad now know that he has been fighting against Cancer and he is so positive that he don't care about what disease he have. He's so proud of me and he want me with him forever.
We are planning for the next PET scan again. After seeing recent CT Scan report our doctor has indicated us that he might have to undergo 4 more chemotherapy after the PET scan is done.
I would like to let you know that currently I have used all my resources to get the financial help except my freelance work. I will always be working so hard for my dad but it would really help my dad's life if you can donate any amount of financial help. My family will always pray for you even if you donate me a single dollar.
I heard people here are so kind and helpful so I expressed everything to you guys. I am extremely sorry this has become a very long story.
I really believe in God. I believe your blessings can heal my dad. Because all I know is, this world is not cruel, there are good souls in this world and they can feel how much I love my dad ❤️