My name is Kerry. I am 30 years old. I have been in emotionally and physically abusive relationships. I have finally left that all behind me because I have had enough of the abuse. I didn’t know it was abuse until it got to a point where it started getting physical. I have become so much stronger and wiser through my experiences as well as learned what abuse is. In my mind I though abuse was just physical, only years later I learned what mental abuse was. Mental abuse is by far the most damaging, the healing part takes years.
My relationships were damaging to my heath, I suffered from depression and anxiety for many years. To this day I still suffer from anxiety but it moulded me into the strong women that I am today. Everyday I’m working on myself, it’s not easy but I’m getting the help I need. I am not ashamed to tell my story as I know it will help other women out there.
I am currently writing a book about my relationships, it’s not a book on self pity. It’s a story of my abuse and how to find those red flags in a relationship as some can be so subtle that women don’t know they are being abused. I also have a women empowerment page on Facebook and Instagram to help women through their struggles and uplift them too. My page is called Empowering Women Against Abuse.(@ewaa_za)
I feel that in South Africa we have a huge problem with abuse. I also feel that it’s not often spoken about. Most women don’t speak about it because they are scared for their lives or they are threatened by their partners. I want to show women that it’s ok to speak out and get help, they mustn’t be afraid. There is help out there for them.
South Africa has the highest number of women who are killed by their partners. Every eight hours a women is killed by their intimate partner- this is pretty scary. I think this issue should be addressed and spoken about before it gets worse.
Please help me to publish my dream book. Thank you very much.